Marriage prep class

Have you taken a marriage prep class? Do you think all engaged couples should take a class together?

I personally feel it's a good idea. My FI and I went to a Catholic "engaged encounter." Even though I'm not catholic, I didnt find it preachy or religious at all. In fact the entire weekend focused on us developing our relationship and preparing for marriage, rather than on religious beliefs.

Topics like raising children, priorities, money issues... these are all things that can drive a marriage apart. It's my personal opinion that every couple should take one of these classes.

What do you think?
Posted on March 11, 2007 at 6:26 pm
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Bonnie
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I think marriage prep classes are a good idea. There are a few marriage prep classes listed here on projectwedding under category "other."
Posted on March 12, 2007 at 11:50 am
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I agree that marriage preps are an excellent idea. Many churches recommend counseling with the priest or pastor before getting married. Even if you're not religious, I still think it's a good idea to talk things out before making the committment.
Posted on March 13, 2007 at 10:44 am
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Hmm, we weren't planning on taking one because I think we've talked about everything - kids, careers, money. We've known each other since high school so I feel like there are no surprises at this point.

Do you think I should still take the class? It sounds helpful. How much did you and your FI talk about such things prior to the class?
Posted on March 13, 2007 at 6:21 pm
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We took a formal wedding prep class and I think it was a waste of time. Marriage is a lot of on-the-job training, as my parents tell me. They're happily married going on 35 years.

But if you're unsure, I don't see how going to a marriage prep course could hurt in any way.
Posted on March 14, 2007 at 10:52 pm
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We took a catholic marraige prep class and I thought it was very helpful. We actually had talked about all the topics before, but talking about them again and finding out where we stand on certain things made me realize why I love him so much.
Posted on March 15, 2007 at 9:56 am
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My wife wanted to take one and I was a little hesistant at first, but I agreed to since she was so adamant about it. I have to say that it was a good experience and there were some things that I was surprised to find out about her.

One thing she told me that one of her concerns with me was that I tend to work too much. I was a little surprised about that because she never mentioned it before and I thought she was proud of how hard I worked. It's funny how those topics don't come up in your everyday life, but if you're put in a setting where the focus is on opening up, those kinds of things will come out.
Posted on March 15, 2007 at 10:29 am
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we started taking a pre-marital counseling class at church. so far, it's been very informative. it's taught by a therapist from a family counseling center. i've learned some new things about my FI, and i thought i knew him pretty well already! i would definitely recommend it. there aren't any negatives to getting your know your future spouse better. =)
Posted on August 9, 2007 at 11:03 am
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I definitely think it's a great idea. Those are topics that will come up sooner or later in the marriage, it's good to address them earlier and also to open up to one another.
Posted on August 9, 2007 at 11:39 am
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We've been going to classes with our Pastor....8 sessions before our wedding..... its the best thing we've ever done. Its amazing how many topics get covered that we'd never bring up on our own (cut to us sitting with our pastor at Starbucks talking about our sex life!!!!!), we have recieved great communication tools based on how we've described ourselves as communicators...they have really helped us lay out a great foundation, and we thought we had a great one to begin with! I think you'll get out of them what you put into them, and we have been very honest with ourselves and eachother, and we've each learned alot about both!
Posted on August 9, 2007 at 1:55 pm
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We are having a catholic ceremony so we're require to do it. We're actually looking forward to it. I heard so many good things about it from other bride who went through it with their FI.
Posted on August 9, 2007 at 4:20 pm
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I'm still on the fence if we'll do it. I share the thoughts that it couldn't hurt. I just don't really like talking to a stranger about personal stuff. Maybe there's a "take home" guide or something...
Posted on August 13, 2007 at 10:58 am

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