May I please vent????

I am going to lose it I swear to god.  We have one billion and one things to do and ALL FI can think about is his damn boat, fishing, and running to his son's side (he's 21) whenever he calls.  He will drop whatever he's doing for him and yet I sit here repeatedly "reminding" him that he needs to get a hold of my dad and all the other guys to get fitted for their tuxes.  They were supposed to do it last week.  We still need to get our marriage license and bring the rings to be sized.  When I tell him, he says " I know".  I have not asked much of him and have been doing everything on my own, but these are things he HAS to do and he just blows it off.  I am so aggravated with him right now I don't even want to talk to him.  Sorry girls, but I had to vent to someone (other than my MOH haha).

Posted on September 2, 2008 at 2:36 pm
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champagnecholly
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I hear you, that's really frustrating. Well I've noticed there is little to be done in regards to boats! haha, but I think one of the major problems with our culture today is that most men aren't acting like men. Hear me out for a second. I think more and more young men look at media like movies and magazines and allow it to feminize them. And I don't just mean in a concern for facials and things but more in general like growing up, what the expectations are/responsiblities of adulthood. So next time your FI runs to "help" his grown son, he's actually hurting him by not letting him be an adult man. At least you can encourage him to let things be in one of the three so maybe he'll be less stressed and can actually go get his fitting done!

Posted on September 2, 2008 at 2:48 pm
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aggghhhh! you poor thing! men huh! we struggle to live with them but we cant live without them..... my FI can be so annoying at times, but then can't we all.... i feel like i could at times bite his head off, lol                                 once i finish freaking out at him and he laughs at me! for stressing out it makes me feel better! i do hear what you are saying but! men most men try to leave all the wedding stuff up to the bride!


snap him into gear and get him on track!!!


good luck =D

Posted on September 2, 2008 at 5:17 pm
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I'm totally in the same boat as you. Well, at least I was. Mine waited until the 11th hour to do everything including exchanging his ring. Pissed me off. I've done everything for the most part. At this point after the pleading and nagging, I've come to the point where if he doesn't do something or doesn't have "time" to confer with me on things, then he loses all bitching rights and I do what I want. It seems to work for me;-) I'm alot calmer about it than I was so hopefully you will get to the same place. It will only make you angrier the more you try and get on him and he doesn't do the things that need to be done. But it does help putting down your foot and saying, "THIS is how it's going to be unless you want to do this together." At this point, I've lost the caring about whether we get into an arguement about it. It's actually been a liberating experience cause I was kind of being a doormat. He knew I wasn't joking at about this stuff 'cause normally I'm really relaxed and chill about most things.


Sorry for the long post. I just wanted you to know I TOTALLY understand. PM if you need anything!

Posted on September 2, 2008 at 5:40 pm
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Hang in there!  Maybe give him one thing at a time to do, and an earlier deadline then really needed.   I did that sometimes.  Or I would just email his GM myself....   Its so hard b/c they don't understand how much is really involved and every little thing helps!  Mine got it clearly the day of haha when he saw it all come togther and our guests loved everything!


- HMM :)

Posted on September 2, 2008 at 6:02 pm
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Thanks :) HMM.....I DID tell him the fittings needed to be done by the last week of August haha

Posted on September 3, 2008 at 12:47 am

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