Memorial for late husbsand

Ok....I just need some honest opinions.


Perhaps no one has ever heard of this.neither did I.


I am getting married in May, 2nd marriage. I am 61 years old, was married to *Ted* for 33 years. He died 6 years ago from heart failure.


Our parents have all passed. I am going to do a small memorial to honor them. I would like to also include my late husband. My plans are to honor the 4 parents one way,*Ted* another and will have a small vase with 5 roses.


My sister and niece have totally flipped out....this is weird, people don't do this...etc etc.


My late husband died..He was a father, a grandfather and a brother. Those people that loved him will be at the wedding. I thought it would be a nice thing for my granddaughters to see (they are 8 & 10)


What do you think. I am doing it, but would like to hear what other people think.


Thanks

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 11:21 am
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zeuster
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I think its great as long as the man your marrying doesn't mind. Its your day and you should do it your way.

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 11:37 am
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I don't see the issue with it....I could see your new hubby's family maybe being offended but if they are understanding and more importantly HE understands it, I don't see a problem.  If I were in your situation, I'd talk to your fiance, and his family and explain why you're doing it.  


Maybe you could attach a small rose/flower to the favors of the people who loved your husband, and a little note to them explaining it's a memorial? I don't know, honestly, just do what you want.  It is your day. :)

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 11:42 am
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Sorry........I forgot to mention that my husband to be thinks its a great idea. Although he never met him (obviously) he wants me to be happy, but if he didn't like it.he would tell me. His only family are his 2 kids (in their 30's) they r fine with everything.

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 12:51 pm
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I would definately take your fiance's feelings about this into consideration...  consider how you would feel if it was you in the other place...  but as long as he is okay with this, then I think a "tasteful" memorial display of "Ted" with the others who have passed, would be fine, however, I would not overshadow any one person for another ... As the others have said, it is your day, and he was a large part of your life worth remembering. 

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 12:52 pm
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I think alot of this is about maturity. We both have been around awhile. Truly comfortable in our relationship.....no jealousy.......as a matter of fact at every family function for his grandson..I sit with his ex-wife. We actually like each other!!!!


My late husband was a good guy.....remembering him in a nice way....after all he was part of my life for 32 years. If it was the other way around??? I would feel the same way if he wanted to do it. Why not?? Life is short.........I just think its a nice thing to do. 

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 1:36 pm
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Then I see no reason NOT to do this (and I agree "life is short").  I would ignore those that don't agree with your plans, and just go with what you and your FI want...

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 1:48 pm
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I think it's a great idea. You have obviously thought of everyone's feelings and it seems to be a great way to remember the past-while moving onto the future. You are right, if everybody is mature (and it seems like they are) that a tasteful tribute is a nice way to do it. Sorry your sister and niece are flipping out. There will always be somebody that doesn't agree with something.

Posted on February 21, 2013 at 1:46 am
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I thnk it's a GREAT idea and see no other reason not to do it as long as your FH is fine with it (and it sounds to me like he's on board). If I were a guest at your wedding and saw this memorial I would be touched to see this!

Posted on February 21, 2013 at 3:15 am
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I think that it is a beautiful memorial to someone that you obviously loved and respected. If your FI is ok with it and its important to you then I dont think its anyone elses buisness.

Posted on February 21, 2013 at 7:07 am
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I think that is a great idea, I dont see any problem with it if your husband-to-be is okay with it!!

Posted on February 22, 2013 at 1:47 am
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I agree with the other ladies about going forward with this if your fiance has no issues with it.  This is a very loving gesture and I'm sure your family and friends who knew him are going to be touched.  : )


Congrats on your upcoming wedding!! Glad you have joined us !

Posted on February 22, 2013 at 2:28 am
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I think it's a beautiful idea! I kinda got teary eyed reading this.

Posted on February 22, 2013 at 2:34 am
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I think it's a beautiful idea! I kinda got teary eyed reading this.

Posted on February 22, 2013 at 2:34 am
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Awww! I think this is just precious and if your FI supporting you doing this makes it even more memorable and special!

Posted on February 22, 2013 at 5:27 am
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So sweet and beautiful!

Posted on February 22, 2013 at 6:05 pm

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