Did you pick out your bridesmaids hairstlye & shoes? Is that micromanagement?
I let mine choose everything. But I think the picture above looks great, so to each their own!!
I was never told to wear my hair any specific way and I have never told anyone to wear their hair a specific way, but I guess each bride has her own view and I guess she knows who she chose and how they feel.
I know one of the weddings tried to get me to wear a specific shoe, but it just would'nt fit a 9.5 Wide foot and well I ended up finding a shoe that was "passable"
I let my bridesmaids pick their own shoes and accessories...the dress were long so the shoes didn't matter much all I wanted was for them to be comfortable.
I let my brides pick their hairstyles and their dresses. I gave them jewelry as their gift, and they wore that, and they wore matching shoes, but they came to a consensus on the shoes and I purchased them as part of their gift. However, I was okay with this as their dresses were different, and they were okay with it, too.
I did not. My MatOH was a valuable assistant in the planning process. She found some awesome shoes that they could (and have) wear again. I did not want them to have a set style for their hair; I wanted them to have it done that would make them comfortable. : )
LOVE that picture though!
I only had one so i let her do her own thing. If i had more I would just ask that they look similar. But i would have the final say so if i absolutely just didnt like something. I think with a lot of bridesmaids for them to look alike is nice. Its not micromanage its YOUR wedding day!
Its important to be as cohesive as possible and as a bridesmaid you should try to do what you can to please the bride but that being said a bride also has a certain responsibility not to make certain demands of there bridesmaids. I let the girls choose pretty much everything for themselves because it was more important for me that they have fun and be comfortable. I have been a bridesmaid where I had to wear 4” heels and a hair sprayed bouffant do…not fun at all lol
It’s all about compromise.
You see the crazies on “say yes to the dress – bridesmaids” and other (non) reality shows where the bride makes the bridesmaids buy $1000 dresses, louboutin shoes and practically forcing diets and surgery on her girls. That’s the extreme bridezilla that take micromanaging to a whole new level lol
I made my girls watch those shows to make me look really REALLY good haha (just like I made DH watch “say yes to the dress” so my gown would look cheap LMAO)
Nope. They each picked how they wanted there hair and what shoes they wanted. They each actually picked out there style of dress too. I just told them length and color/fabric and where to get it. My bio has all 6 of the dresses
My bridemaids were all young (under 10) so I picked everything out for them but they were allowed to do their hair however they wanted. My MOH (aka my sister) was able to choose whatever she wanted... I wanted her to be comfortable in something she loved... and to be honest I LOVED it and i couldn't have chosen better myself.
My plan is to have my girls all wear the same color and length dresses, plum and long, and have silver shoes. As long as the colors are the same, and I agree on her choice of dress (NO FEATHERS!) I am fine with that. I had originally thought everyone would be the same, but I am open to options. As far as hair, I am going to have it all the same, but have them choose how they want it pulled up.
Nope - I gave them guidelines with the color of shoes but let them pick their own and decide what they wanted done with their hair. The only major requirement was that the shoes and hair not look like mine.
Did I choose hairstyle and shoes for my girls? No. Is that considered micromanagement if you do? No. I think that if a bride has a certain vision of how she wants her wedding party to look (especially for the pictures) then it's ok to ask for what you want. Now, if you're nitpicking, that might be considered micromanagement.
For my wedding I gave them the color - red. I told them I didn't care what shade they chose, if the dress was long or short, and I didn't care if their shoes matched. I think they all did a great job considering their financial situations.