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I have a mole (or as I've always said, beauty mark) between my nose and left side of my lip.  I hated it as a child--- schoolchildren can be cruel-- but it became such a part of me over time.  In the last 4 years or so I have a new one on my chin that I don't like as well, but I never thought twice about it.  Neither are dangerous or malignant.


I am having an out of state wedding, and when I was home, both my mom and dad made several comments about the "new mole."  My mom said, "Let's get it removed.  You don't want that in your pictures forever."  I was so offended!


She works in a hospital so she talks about it all medically... she calls is a "neebus" which REALLY MAKES ME CRINGE.  You know those words that just piss you off?  That is one of them. as;ldfkaj;sldkfj.


I would have never thought about it until now.  I don't want a scar either, but it is better than a mole I guess, plus I get it removed for free by one of her friends.


My FI loves me the way I am and doesn't want to change me.  I know my mom is trying to help, but she should have waited until I said something to bring anything like that up...

Posted on September 8, 2008 at 11:11 am
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Wow.....last time I checked it is your face, right?  The only way I would recommend you definately get it removed would be if it was dangerous.  If it doesn't bother you, then I would leave it be.  If you choose to remove it then that should be your decision and yours only.  As far as a scar goes, I had to have something removed off my upper lip a few years ago.  A plastic surgeon did it and I have no scar at all!


I have a sister that took some nursing classes and now she think's she's a doctor....throws that damn medical terminology all over the place....I could kill her.  I worked for doctor's all my life and am more than familiar with medical terms, but I don't run around slinging the words everywhere!


Good luck :)

Posted on September 8, 2008 at 11:17 am
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KBLove, it's weird but for some reason, weddings can bring out the "mean" in some people. They may not think they are being mean or that it can hurt us or make us mad, but they tend to make comments that maybe they should keep to themselves.  I've had my share of unwanted opinions and at first it used to bother me soooo much and I would sit there thinking and consider whatever it was they did or did not like about me or whatever I was doing with the wedding.  Months into the planning, I've finally realized there is NO possible way to please everyone.  As long as you and FI are happy, that's all that really matters.  Let the rest go in one ear and out the other.  Don't let anyone get to you.  If they don't like something, they'll get over it. :-)

Posted on September 8, 2008 at 11:26 am
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wise, words caliborngurl. :)


 


i know that my mom loves me so much and she just wants to see me happy and beautiful.  sometimes it hard with something like that.  weddings can be difficult that way b/c so much is out on the line.

Posted on September 8, 2008 at 11:32 am
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awwww that is upsetting! i agree totally with caliborngurl!

Posted on September 8, 2008 at 2:52 pm
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KB-sent you a PM

Posted on September 8, 2008 at 5:41 pm
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Haha!  I've never heard of that word and it does make me cringe!!!  I'm not even going to type it!


I have two pretty big, ahem, beauty marks, under my eyes.  I've had them all my life and have thought about getting them removed too, ever since I was in high school.  They are still getting larger, though not at any alarming rate.  Anyway, the loving, supportive people in my life all agree that I can't remove them, they're who I am!  So, yes, your mom just loves you and wants you to be happy, as strange as the timing and words may sound, but just make sure whatever you decide it's because you want it.  You'll look beautiful either way!

Posted on September 8, 2008 at 6:11 pm
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i just had a small "skin tag" removed from my lip....but it was my choice....it didn't bother me too much, and was hardly noticible when i wore lipstick...but i wanted it out of the way.  If you do decide to remove the moles, i would do it sooner than later....a friend of mine had a couple of moles removed, and the scars were pretty prominent for the first 6mos-year.....

Posted on September 9, 2008 at 3:46 am
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my step mom had a bunch removed and no scars. The only scar is a tiny one and that was from an actual surgical procedure to remove a deep mole. I think if you would like to do it....do it.

Posted on September 9, 2008 at 4:08 am

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