MOG dress etiquette?

Hi All,


I have been a lurker on the site for a while and have soaked up so many great ideas and have a question i could use some help on! 


My future MIL has bought a champagne colored, satin, strapless dress with the same neckline as my dress to wear to my wedding. She was very offended when my fiance and i suggested that this dress was not appropriate to wear for the occasion. 


 


have any of you experienced this? any suggestions on solutions? i have been trying to pick my battles, but desperately do not want her in a dress similar to mine at my wedding.

Posted on March 30, 2013 at 3:03 pm
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leese33
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first apologize for offending her and gentle explain to her that the dress she pick is very much like yours...and explain how you feel about it...and if she is civil ...she will understand...and if she is like MIL then you have to result to other messures...better yet let your husband fight that batter its his mother....

Posted on March 30, 2013 at 4:06 pm
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hmmm if she absolutely does not want to change her dress, may you suggest for her to wear accessories which are coloured??? like a lgh blue wrap and colured shoes and maybe sth coloured in her hair?


 

Posted on March 31, 2013 at 8:44 am
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Was she offended b/c of the way you said it? Or is she not very accomodating? I thnk if you explain it just as you have here, that you would feel more comfortable if she had a dress that differed from yours, she should be accomodating (in my opinion). I haven't had to deal with that luckily, so I would definitely suggest talking to her again. Let us know how it goes! good luck :)

Posted on March 31, 2013 at 6:49 pm
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Agreed. I would apologize even if you haven't really done anything, just to smooth things over...always a good idea with the in-laws! (Sometimes, especially if this is the first wedding for her kids, there can be tensions just from stress that translates into these kind of frictions, when it's no one's fault - I've been there!) I explain it to her gently  just like you have here, and have your FI with you while you do it so his mom knows it's something both of you care about and it's just not the 'new woman' in his life trying to be bossy. I know it sounds crazy but sometimes MILs can feel that way even if they don't realize it because they are "losing" their baby!


 


And if it's not feasible for her to change the entire dress, I LOVE the idea of dressing it up with accessories and a colored shawl or bolero. That can really change the look of a dress!

Posted on April 1, 2013 at 2:22 am
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Hello!


Is your wedding dress champagne and satin as well or is the neckline the only similiarity? Could she have been offended because of how it was said to her? I see you posted this on the 30th. Has anything been resolved? 

Posted on April 1, 2013 at 5:02 am
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Are the dresses the small color? Are you afraid she might get more attention than you? Is it just the neckline?


It's a big day as well in the MOG life. Don't be a bridezilla. Your the bride, not her. No one will get confused.


 

Posted on April 4, 2013 at 2:59 am
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can you post a photo of your dress and your MILs dress? I'm struggling to understand how a wedding gown and your mother in laws dress are so similar that its making you so upset....


a neckline doesn't seem like a big deal to me, I know this isn't what you want to hear, but if I asked all the ladies at my wedding not to buy a dress with a sweetheart neckline, because my wedding gown had a sweetheart neckline...do you see where I'm going with this?


please post pics, maybe I'm just not seeing the whole picture here =/ Good Luck!

Posted on April 4, 2013 at 4:18 am

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