MOH just up and quit.
I asked two women to be my matrons of honor for my sept. 2013 wedding, the first is my sister, and second a life long friend, Christine. Christine asked me to be her MOH back in 2010 when she married, just as her mother asked my mom to her her MOH back in the early 80's.
Christine and I don't get to talk as often as we'd like as we're both anlways busy with school (me) or work (her), and that communication has dwindled even further since her marriage. While I was her MOH I spent just over $2000.00 on this girl and her wedding which encompassed literally all of my summer earnings. In addition to that I had to endure her MIL and SIL who contantly fought me every step of the way; the MIL was a jealous control freak, and the SIL was just plain jealous. Long story short, I have yet to be invited to Christines home for dinner in 2 years even as a thank you for all the hard work I put into her special day.
Monday Christine called me out of the blue to say she'd gotten my engagement invitation and we chatted happily for some time, but at the end of the conversation she let me know that she felt that she didn't deserve to be a MOH because we so rarely talk and she feels like a bad friend (well you are honey). She also said she didn't want to take away the honor from my sister, but that wasn't a real issue (my sister also had two MOH, me and a young aunt). Although I was seriously disappointed I didn't press the issue and let it go. I figured well at least she still wants to be a bridesmaid.
Tonight she texted me to re-check my wedding date, and surprise surprise, there's a bug issue with it. Apparently her and her husband booked a trip to Alberta that week for deer hunting. According to her she had to book a 1 1/2 years in advance and put down a $3000 deposit (this does not sound tangible to me). So now instead of saying "I'll find someway to work it out" its "OMG I'm sorry, I feel so bad". Her husband is for lack of a better word, a shit disturber, who has turned Christine against her own mother. I know his mom and sister don't like me so I'm sure that influence has passed from him onto Christine in some form, because since they've been married, she's pretty much diappeared from my radar even though I call and text.
So, here I am 360 days before my wedding, down one MOH which has turned into being down one self appointed bridesmaid. I cannot believe this girl and her attitude. I just turned off my phone because I couldn't think of anything nice to say. DO I tell her to screw off and not talk to her again? Do I uninvite her to my engagement party? Do I let it slide? (BTW, money is not an issue for them; her retard husband injured himself in a motorcycle accident and sued his own insurance company for 3 figures and they just sold their house for a handsome profit). Should I ask her for the 2K that I spent on her for her wedding?!