Money gifts

Our apartment is really small and already overflowing with stuff! What's a good way to let people know we would prefer monetary gifts?
Posted on March 9, 2007 at 1:27 pm
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A friend of mine actually included in his invitation "This is where we are registered (Macy's, Crate&Barrel, etc.), but we prefer red envelopes." I'm not sure if this was a faux paus or not, but at least red envelope sounds better than "GIVE ME MONEY!!" That might only work if you're Chinese though.
Posted on March 9, 2007 at 7:02 pm
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In general, it's a major faux pas to mention gifts or registry on your invitation. We're considering having a very small registry, and then relying on our close friends and close family members (mainly parents) to let people know that our apartment is too small and we prefer money if possible.
Posted on March 11, 2007 at 5:53 am
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We did a honeymoon registry through thehoneymoon.com. Our guests felt that they were giving us a meaningful gift such as 1 night of hotel but in reality we got 2 checks from the registry.
Posted on April 12, 2007 at 4:32 pm
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All the etiquette guides say that putting anything on your invitation is a no-no. Let your parents and friends know where you are registered and/or that you'd prefer cash.

I'm in the same boat; my fiance and I have been together for years and really don't need a second toaster. The things we do need are more expensive than we'd really expect any one person to buy... so we're asking for IKEA and Best Buy gift cards and funds for a belated honeymoon.
Posted on April 13, 2007 at 7:31 am
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my FMIL suggests that there's no real tactful way to communicate this, and she & FFIL are willing to be the tacky ones. I say let your friends and family help with this one.
Posted on April 18, 2007 at 4:37 pm
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Under the "Registry" tab on our website, we put "The Department of Treasury"! And everybody got it! =)
Posted on April 30, 2007 at 6:53 pm
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I always knew it was a faux-pas to include registry information on your invitations.. but it seems to be the norm in Australia =/

As for us, we're not having a registry, but at my engagement party my uncles did give us a nice red packet which was very kind of them
Posted on May 10, 2007 at 5:45 pm
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did you know that when you do a registry you can return everything for cash?  I just asked crate and barrel and thats what they told me your registry acts as a receipt and you can return it all for $$$$

Posted on August 17, 2008 at 12:19 pm
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We have everything we need already so in the invitation we will be sending a card that has an account number. People can just transfer or deposit money into there or else they can write a check to us. But the account will be a "House Fund" So we are collecting money for a downpayment for a home.


 


Its like having a honeymoon fund but for a house.

Posted on August 17, 2008 at 12:43 pm
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Same issue (teeny apt) also did a honeymoon registry through honeyfund.com. Its a little different b/c I got to put a little note up explaining whay we are having it, and our guests totally understood that there is no point giving us stuff we dont have space for. I didn't want my guests to be charged an extra fee to give us money, so I liked this site b/c we can describe what we are planning and also make a "gift certificate" option and they print out a little sheet that they include with their check to bring/send with their own message typed up. Also for those not comfortable with it we have a small Target registry


People like it so far!

Posted on August 18, 2008 at 1:33 pm

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