Monogram: What order?

I really like the concept of using monograms through the theme of the wedding (invitations, cake topper, favors, etc.). My concern is the order of the initials.

As I understand it, the center initial is the groom's last name. The problem is whose first initial goes where? Does the groom have to be the first one? I'm concerned because our initials together in that order reads S M N which to me seems too close to S&M. Although its funny, I think it may be inappropriate. Could I switch our first initials and make NMS or is that not okay with etiquette?
Posted on August 17, 2007 at 9:26 am
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She1
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but think of all the cool party favors you could give out....handcuffs, whips, chains....watermelon body oil lol =o) I'm just kidding.

Seriously I don't think people will notice, the middle initial is bigger making it the main focus. It would hard to confuse the Giant M for an & symbol....or if you want, you could just use the letter M by itself.

As for the etiquette, I don't have a clue sorry.
Posted on August 17, 2007 at 9:38 am
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It seems like with invitations, it's the bride's name that goes first. I would assume this same rule of thumb would imply, at least in terms of a wedding. Either way, I'm sure it's fine because everyone in attendance knows you both and wouldn't know about any "rules." I'm really considering using initial cake toppers, maybe even with rhinestones, but I haven't decided if I want the three letters or just a big W. Decisions, decisions... I probably should decide on the cake first, though! :)
Posted on August 17, 2007 at 10:05 am
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Everything I've seen is with the bride's name first, but I'm sure you can switch it around if you feel uncomfortable using SMN. I mean, your guests might not get the S&M connection right away, but you might get distracted seeing it everywhere because you'll be thinking of S&M.

Well...not S&M...you know what I mean.
Posted on August 17, 2007 at 7:16 pm
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If the bride's first name inital is first, then you have no problems anyway:

M N S

You can alsways make the middle initial (your new last name) larger than the other two...
Posted on August 17, 2007 at 10:08 pm

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