"Montetary Contribution" in Formal Invitation? Suggestions Please!

My FI and I have completely different opinions about this. I'm in the process of finalizing the Invitation wording and FI strongly feels I need to add a notation regarding the gift situation. We are not registering and would rather receive $$. I've always read and felt that the propper ettiquette of the invitation is to NOT mention gifts. Instead, it should be done via website and/or word of mouth.

I have noted this on our website (with the help of ChampagneCholly), "We feel extremely blessed that we have everything we need, including each other. You are not obligated to come bearing gifts, but if you so desire, any monetary contributions to help us start our life together would be greatly appreciated." FI wants me to include something like this in the printed, formal invitation.

What do you girls think? I don't want to come off pushy or tacky. If I am to include it, I would put it under one of the 'detail inserts' of the invitation pocketfold. I would love to a compromise with FI. I greatly appreciate in suggestions, advice and opinions!

TIA!
Posted on April 2, 2008 at 6:28 am
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theDame
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I'm with conventional wisdom/etiquette and I don't think the invitation is the place to include this information.
But I think it comes down to this:

what do you think?
how would you react if you saw this on someone's invitation?

and then let your comfort level dictate your decision-
Posted on April 2, 2008 at 6:50 am
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I wouldn't do it either IMO. My FI wants to do stuff like this all the time- but I think he just has NO clue how this stuff works... I think website and word of mouth is enough- many ppl bring $$$ in cards anyway.
Just a thought- b/c I know what your going through. How many PPL at your wedding?
Posted on April 2, 2008 at 6:58 am
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I agree with the girls. It would look tacky. If you have a wedding website, that is where to put it.
Posted on April 2, 2008 at 7:17 am
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One of my friends put on her invitation, "Monetary Gifts Appriciated" and I thought it was incrediably tacky as a guest. Just my opinion though.
Posted on April 2, 2008 at 7:26 am
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No mention of a registry or gift requests should be made in your invitation or even shower invitations. You can create a page for it on your wedding website and spread the word to your closest friends and family and they can let others know.

Here's a little poem I wrote for our Registry Page (we did register for a few items, but most of our guests gave us money):


We?ve got the toaster and the towels,
What we need is a home that?s ours
And while it?s lovely to dine on fine china,
Our sights are set on something finer.

We?re accustomed to singing for our supper,
but we?ll need much more to buy a fixer-upper!
So, if you are planning to purchase us a wedding gift,
We hope that you?ll consider helping us with this big wish:

That no matter where in the world we may roam,
We will always have place to return to?our very own home.

It takes a while to build a nest egg,
but with your help, we can make our dream a reality.
No gift is too big or too small,
and if it?s nothing but your presence,
then we?ve received the greatest gift of all.
But, should you be feeling more than generous,
we?d appreciate it more than you could ever know.

All gifts will go towards the purchase and establishment of our first home, which we hope to do by 2010.
Posted on April 2, 2008 at 7:37 am
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I'm glad I'm not the only one reluctant to print gift info on/in the invites. I will stick to my guns on this one! Thanks ladies!

HolyMoly: We're estimating 150 guests (no kids).

Lori: Love the Poem! That is very sweet!

We are very lucky to already own our dream home...a fixer-upper that we worked hard to make into our dream home. We have all the tangible items we could possibly need or desire. Our honeymoon is taken care of, so monetary gifts is really the way to go. We might be looking at a new car (FI's is on its last wheel...lol).

Thanks again everyone!
Posted on April 2, 2008 at 9:53 am
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Lori, that poem is so cute! I would suggested just adding a line on your RSVP card that says, "Please see our website for more details!" I think people will definitely look into it and then they'll see the line about monetary gifts, or Lori's poem :)
Posted on April 2, 2008 at 11:03 am

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