more drama AHHH

Sorry you're having to deal with this Sam...and don't apologize to us for venting, that's what we're here for! :o)

maybe you should go with no bridal party?? avoid all this drama! BM's are supposed to be a source of support but if they're being a source of stress instead, then just do away with them! tell them you needed to cut costs or something. I'm just having my sisters, and FI is just having his brothers and son.

Tell your aunt Kathy that you didn't think she'd want to be invited, but you'd be more than happy to have her there (some people, even though they have no intention of going, just want to know that they're invited).

Don't know what's up with your caterer. I would go ther IN PERSON and talk to a manager.

Men are men....it's in their genes to procrastinate...its like a cruel joke God has played on us!
Posted on July 1, 2008 at 5:18 am
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Yah, vent all you want- this is our place too :)


Hang in there, your dealing with very immature things right now.  Luckily its not 'about' you- but you are just in the middle...  I would just call them out on it and communicate- this is your SPECIAL time and there not making it very special.... Make it clear to them. You only have 2 months left and need to make the most of it!


As for vendors- I completely understand!  I got soooooooooooo pissed off last week that I requested a meeting with 2 of my vendors at my reception location.  I am spending so much money they all better be kissing my ass and rumbing my feet right now, I am truely disappointed with the 'wedding market' to tell you the truth- so I understand completely :)


- HMM

Posted on July 1, 2008 at 5:29 am
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I completely agree with prbetsi and HMM... your BMs are supposed to be a source of support, not unwanted drama. How about dropping all of them except the Jr BM? If it was me, I'd sit down with all of them together and say... "I asked you to be my wedding party because you're the closest to me and I wanted the girls whom I love to support me in the planning stages and stand by me as I say my vows. You can either get over yourselves, get along, and be helpful, or you can sit with the rest of the wedding guests." Maybe the idea that they can be "fired" will whip them into shape. I had to do that with one of my BM who was acting rather immature, and it worked perfectly.


Definately try and speak to your caterer in person if you can. "Hi there! I called a few times and I was worried you didn't get my messages, so I thought I'd just stop by..." I love laying on the guilt.  ;-)


Good luck!

Posted on July 1, 2008 at 6:43 am
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True, true... the ladies you select to be bridesmaids should be there for you, not causing petty drama. If they get to be too much to handle, find some you can trust. It's not worth the headache. And your parents are just going to have to deal with the fact that you're getting married. Don't miss out on this experience because of petty drama. Just assert yourself as the bride and let them know this is your wedding, not theirs. I'm not saying be a bridezilla, but they ned to understand that this is YOUR day.


I might be able to help you out on the flower girl dress if you know what you're looking for. I also make gowns if necessary, but you should be able to find what you're looking for online. You can email me at budgetdesigerflorals@yahoo.com if you need help.


-Leann

Posted on July 1, 2008 at 8:02 am
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Have you had it out with this bridesmaid/mother of flower girl? It seems to me like you need to sit down with her face to face and tell her how you are feeling and see if there is a reason she is being so uncooperative with everything. Also, $50 for a shower is NOT bad, my girlfriend just went to a shower where each girl had to put in $100 (not just the bridesmaids) so maybe there is something going on that you are not aware of with her... I don't know. Sounds like you need to get on the same page. Also, it is kinda lame that your other bridemaid took back her offer to make the flower girl's dress. I would ask her ot reconsider making it because it is for the cute little flower girl, not her mom and it is also for you and the overall look of your wedding day.


Good luck.

Posted on July 1, 2008 at 8:12 am

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