My BM slept with my GM (LONG!!!)

Ok so I know I got married nearly 7 months ago but I still want to vent about this


DH's brother was a GM and one of my friends a BM. Now BM is a devout Christian and we had issues with Bm dress being appropriate and when she could come help with dress shopping and she refused to come to my Hen's night because she didn't want to put herself in that environment (we went pole dancing and clubbing) and while I was upset I understood. 4 weeks before the wedding we were off to have hair trials. I get a message from her saying she couldn't come. No expanation.


the next day i find out she has been sleeping with Dh's brother for over 6 months, sneaking outy of home to meet him, then sneaking into our house to have sex in our spare bed! For these 6 months I had suspicions they were together but not together and knew they were using our house (which I put a stop to as soon as I found out) But I never thought they were having sex!!! She was only 17 at this time as well.


So all in all it turned into a big mess. He was kicked out of the church, she wouldn't speak to him and we had to swap around the BP order so they weren't together anymore after we'd swapped it earlier to make sure they were together.. Her family got p'ed off with DH's cause her family thought Dh's family knew they were sleeping together. Her family almost didn't come to the wedding and the only reason she continued to be a bridesmaid was coz her family would "protect" her from GM!!!!


Moral of this story is don't pick your bridesmaids over 12 months befpre the wedding!


Sorry just needed to vent.. still so annoyed.

Posted on April 14, 2010 at 3:13 pm
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DreaminBride
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oh my!  Crazy!  So sorry you had to go through this!

Posted on April 14, 2010 at 4:41 pm
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wow drama drama!

Posted on April 15, 2010 at 4:05 am
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Sorry that happened to you. You are such a good person, because I think I would have kicked both of them out of the wedding.  I'm so upset they were using you house as thier sex den. Ughhhh!!!

Posted on April 15, 2010 at 4:38 am
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demyful - I totally lol'd at 'sex den'...actually, still kinda laughing..hahaha...


That's some serious drama...are they still together?

Posted on April 15, 2010 at 4:42 am
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SEX DEN! Classic!


I would be friggin' mad... I cannot believe that they actually had sex in your house/spare room! I would be drop kicking people all over the place. You're a better person that I am!

Posted on April 15, 2010 at 4:55 am
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You are a sweetheart for moving your BP around for THAT...  That's a stress you shouldn't have needed to deal with for your wedding day....  Grrrr....


 


Luckily it's done and over with and is now in the past...  I would still be irked about it too (especially using my guest room), but it's done and over with now :)


I've had my fair share of BM drama as well and have lost two of my BFF's during the whole process but... I'm getting over it :)


I guess what I'm trying to say is we can't change the past.. Don't reflect on the negatives that happened on and/or around your wedding day but the positives...  They were in the wrong to their own "beliefs/religions" and that needs to be THEIRS to deal with... KWIM?  And CLEAN THOSE SHEETS! :) :) :)


Cheer up!!  And laugh about it :)

Posted on April 15, 2010 at 5:10 am
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And why is she treated like alittle a girl? The bridesmaid made the bed it is time she laid in it.


Most often it isnt  1 person faults that 2 people have sex.....

Posted on April 15, 2010 at 7:58 am

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