My Family is driving me crazy....

My wedding has been broadcasted to the entire world thanks to my family.


Now i have people calling me from all over asking to be invited, long distant family and freinds that I dont even know or remember. I keep telling them its a small private affair but my aunts won't stop blabbering their mouths to everyone about the wedding. And to make it worse, I have never discussed my wedding with them...only my parents and my sister actually know anything about the wedding.


I really dont want to be rude but I am very close to hittng the roof and disinviting all of them...then we will see what they will talk about.


 


My wedding has been photo 3359959-1

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 11:20 am
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theyre just excited for you..lol

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 11:43 am
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Okay, so welcome to the world of wedding planning. This is where you get to learn how to put your foot down! If someone invites themself or asks if they're coming, be honest. Say "No, we're having a small wedding." Or "No, we're on a budget and it's close family and friends only". If someone thinks you're being mean, then so be it. This is your guys' wedding and your guest list should reflect the people that you want to share that day with. 


Put your foot down and don't let them walk all over you. Hang in there girl! We've all been there :)

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 12:45 pm
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So sorry to hear that they are doing this.  Unfortunately, this is what can happen when you are planning a wedding. You and FI have the FINAL say as to who is coming or not.  I completely agree with what ridegrl1 said, just be honest with them and let them know that you are having an intimate wedding due to being on a budget. 


Also remember that we have all probably gone through a similar situation and we are always here for you!!!

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 2:37 pm
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Oh, man. As the other ladies said, welcome to the least fun part of wedding planning! It never ceases to amaze me how people ask to be invited to something or get offended that you don't invite who they think should be invited! 


I agree with the responses from the other ladies above. If I could add one thing, it would be to remain tight-lipped about your plans and refrain from sharing with anyone if you think it could lead to some issues. It kind of stinks because you don't want to suppress your excitement, but sometimes discussing it with certain people ends up draining you and stealing your joy a little bit. I would even avoid the question when people asked me how many people we were inviting. Once people hear how many guests you are inviting, they wonder if they are included in that number! They aren't thinking about the fact that your guest list gets divided between you, your FI and often your parents/families.


You will definitely get a thick skin as you learn to stand up for yourself throughout the planning process. And you will become a master at smiling and deflecting questions and changing the subject :-)


Good luck! The awesome PW ladies feel your pain, so vent here whenever you need to get it out!


 

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 2:54 pm
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Just keep your cool.  Invite who you originally had in mind.  As soon as you start giving in, thats when your list starts getting bigger.

Posted on June 1, 2012 at 2:46 am

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