My Fiance Has No Family!!!

I am worried about having this wedding. My soon to be is from Jamaica. His only 2 siblings live there and cant afford to come and i cant afford it either. Mother passed and dad is estranged. He has no family or friends in the states. I am starting to feel guilty for having this wedding because he has no one on his side. Its a small event as is. And he has met all my family. Im not having brides maids because he has no best man. But i just cant help but feel bad. Is this a bad idea? I don't want to regret not wearing the white dress or sharing this with my friends and family ESPECIALLY because i was one of those girls who swore off marriage. What do i do??? 

Posted on August 10, 2012 at 4:07 pm
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chrissyrenaegray
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Some ladies opt to have a small, informal ceremony now and then save up for a larger wedding later, which could be a possibility.  But I think first and foremost you need to talk to him about how you're feeling and see what he feels and what he would like to do.

Posted on August 10, 2012 at 4:22 pm
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He SAYS he's "ok" with the wedding. But he is constantly saying he going to be alone up there. I dont have anybody. Hes so shy and he sweet im not sure if he would really tell me that he doesnt want this. But i have askedh im several times and told him it was ok if he would be too uncomfortable doing this. It will be a small event regardless. I feel bad he has literally no one. The few friends he has are in Canada, L.A., Ansterdam. They are scattered all across the country. And i dont see them making it. 

Posted on August 10, 2012 at 4:30 pm
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Once you get married to him you can have lots of friends and relatives. He would have some of his collegues too.

Posted on August 10, 2012 at 5:54 pm
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Could you do a destination wedding in Jamaica?


 

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 1:52 am
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I had that problem too when I was considering getting married at home in St. Lucia. He would most likely not have any family attending and my family is HUGE!! Then we decided to do it in Rochester and it balanced out nicely. My mom most likely might not be able to make it but I still have my brother and cousins and two of my closest friend live in the states.


He will be ok with the wedding because it's what you want but it'll still be hard for him to be there alone.


If you had the wedding in Jamaica would your family be able to make it?


Or would it be possible to get just one member of his family to attend the wedding so he will have some one there?


You could also save up and have a second wedding and try to have everyone there?

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 2:08 am
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I have no family coming either since my parents are deceased and my brother and I are no longer talking. So I have like 5 friends coming the rest of the 100 people are his family. It sucks but I can't change it so I'm dealing with it best I can.

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 2:53 am
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Your family will be his family starting on that day. Also if you are worried about nobody sitting on his "side", try one of these ideas! That way he doesn't feel as if his "side" has less people than yours does.


source


Wedding Sign.  Bridal Sign.  Choose a seat, Pick a Seat not a side with Bride and Grooms name, 8 X 16 inches. Over 500 signs in our shop.

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 3:47 am
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I have no family, either. I no longer speak to anyone due to some pretty serious past issues. In turn, his dad's family really has become my family. It is going to be his dad's family, some of his mom's, and then 5 or 6 of my closest friends. We're having around 40 people and it's perfect! We don't have bridal parties, either. 

However, it seems like this situation is a little bit different.  Have you considered having your wedding in Jamaica, and then come back home and have an at home reception for the rest of everyone? 

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 3:48 am
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I think hes partly sad that his mom is no longer living and unable to see him get married and start a family. All he has are his sisters. I dont think my family would come to Jamaica. I have a large family. But i decided not to invite a lot of people 50 max. My best friend is giving us a honeymoon as a gift so we may just take the trip to Jamaica and he can go see his family while hes there.....??? 


Thank u Primo I love that sign! I dont really want to do a second wedding. A lot if my friends just keep telling me to do the sandals route with wedding and vacay just me and him. But i dont want to exclude my mom since we are very close. We are having it at the beach because i know he misses home. He grew up on the beach. Not my dream wedding but willing to compromise. Its good that you all have the support fom your other halfs family. Im close with my mom and dad and they love him. I just dont want to regret not sharing this experience with them. I think it will work out for the best.....

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 5:52 am
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I was in the same boat - DH had much more friends and family at our wedding, but we had a family member let the guests know that we were not doing the "bride" and "groom" sides.  I did not have a sign like primobride posted, but I would have loved to have it.  : )

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 8:56 am
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That's the problem I'm having with my wedding - Our guestlist is pretty high and 90% of it is my fiance's family and friends. A lot of my family is estranged. He picked a lot of Groomsmen and the few females I know and trust, I matched up with his Groomsmen who are single and the one's who aren't single, since I get along with their girlfriends, I'm asking them to be in my bridal party. He picked 8 men (Best Man and 7 Groomsmen) plus a ring bearer - I only had 4 bridesmaids with MOH and flower girl, so it worked out pretty well in both our favors.

Posted on September 23, 2012 at 3:31 pm
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I agree I have really no family my mom and dad are both gone, but FI has a large family. We are not doing the bride or groom side either. My son's will direct people to where they want to sit.
Posted on September 24, 2012 at 1:54 am
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I didn't have any family present at my wedding either, and although slightly awkward, I found myself excited about the family I was marrying into, so it took some of the sadness away.  It wasn't until I was putting my wedding album together that it really hit me.  I kept looking at the bridal party/family pictures, and it was so apparent there was nobody there from my side.  It made me cry, but again, it's one of those things that couldn't be controlled. 


I know your FI will feel awkward and alone, but I'm also sure that he'll get over it the moment the ceremony begins.  He'll just be so happy for the special day and when he sees you coming down the aisle, he'll forget about the sadness and enjoy the day.


Maybe you could honeymoon in Jamaica??

Posted on September 24, 2012 at 10:57 am

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