My Mother in law is on her way here. Will you all still love me if I'm a killer???

She forced herself on me to come and help me make the tissue flowers.  I love the lady.  But she has a freaken opinon on Everything!!!!!!!  Very low key about the way she does it to. Gets under my skin every time!!!!!  "Oh, honey.. you're doing it like that? Oh, O.K.. hmm. Oh.... well, as long as you like it like that an you're happy"      #%!@#$%!@#$%@#$%@$#%@#$%!#$!@#$~@$@


"Honey, what song are you dancing to?"   "ohhhh really?  Bruce and I use to dance to that song all the time, we'd stand there and sing it to one another and we called that our song.. But on my first marriage Tony and I Danced to Etta James Atlast!!! So, you're using both of my Songs!!! How exciting!!!!!"       @#$!@#$!@#%$@!#%!#%$!@#$@#$@$@


hahahhahahah truth of the matter is.. I love her. She honestly does try.. But you know when somebody wants to do things their way and they get but hurt that you don't want to do things a certain way??


Are any of you having "ANY" issues with your InLaws? Sister, brothers, mother , Father in laws????


 

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 4:17 am
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Lol. I love my FMIL as well, but I completely know what you mean when it comes to getting in those low-key comments that aren't enough of an attack to deserve a direct comment back. My FMIL, God bless her, is also always telling FI she wants to hear more about the wedding - why am I not sharing everything with her? All I do is talk about the wedding - to her, to my mother, to all the rest of the family and friends. I don't have any more information to give her and she keeps acting like I'm not including her. But my favorite comment so far was when FI was sharing one of the wedding details and she asked him if he liked it, and he said he did. Then she said "Well, I just want to make the effort to make sure your opinions count for something. This is your wedding too you know." As though his crappy FI ignores his opinions and doesn't include him in the wedding plans. He doesn't need his mommy to save him from me! FI wants to be involved in the wedding, and I've included him in every single decision, and he does most of the shopping with me for everything. Thank God for him!

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 4:31 am
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hahah. Not with in laws but with my own mother! i tell her an idea i want to do and she's like "oh...that horrible." "Oh thats a bad idea." "Oh, thats ugly." "Oh...no good." UGHHHHHHHH!!!!! I just keep quiet and continue with my idea. Our tastes are very different. I'm very worried because she picked our venue! I hope i dont bust into tears when i see it for the first time!

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 4:38 am
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omg!! marina!! hahaha


welp, i can honestly way that i dont have any issues (knock on wood) with my FMIL - it's my dad i'm having probs with - but that's an entirely diff story...

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 4:42 am
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Both of my FI's parents are deceased :(  

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 4:44 am
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Aww Lipia, both of my FI's parents are deceased as well.  Don't mean to hijack the post, but are you doing anything during the ceremony to commemorate them? 


Marina, sorry you have to deal with that.  Just know your day is going to turn out perfectly just the way you planned it so when she makes comments to get under your skin just smile and tell yourself it will all be over soon!  Good luck!

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 5:31 am
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oh girl....everybody has at least one passive/agressive family or future family member like that....grrrr....i have to deal with this a bit too...but not too terribly bad....but still...can be a big PITA!

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 5:33 am
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hahahhah you guys got it right on!!!!


She came over and she helped allot!!! But she threw in some stuff in there. The funny thing is.. I'm a big time Shooooop talker. I am a very street wise girl raised in the Hoods of South Central. Very little fases me. I've grown up to be a very well spoken articulate woman.. But don't you know... the hood is still in there!!!! LOL


So, she says anything and I'm like.... Mom, did you forget your little pill today? Then I start cracking up and I hug her and tell her how much I love her.    The woman can't tell if she just got her but jumped or if I love her so much I just gave her the biggest hug in the world.  In other words... she just done found her Match!!!!!


My FI knows she's like this.. He laughs and says.... "Better you than me honey" hahahhah this is why we can laugh at it.. He knows her and I know her. There is no stress on us because of her.  If anything. I'm more tolerant of her than he is. I'm the one teaching him how to handle her better and more kindly. 


She is just a bit Drama. but she means nothing but good.. I just put the fear of the hood in her once in a while when it's called for. LOL  *Pachow!!!!!*

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 1:38 pm
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I'm so glad you posted this, i need to let my heart out here. I seriously get so frustrated with my mother-in-law... she complains that my fiance and I dont include her in any of the planning, but when we ask her to make some time... she makes excuses and demands to wait until her schedule is ok to go with us.  I seriously get frustrated because this wedding is priority for me and to her it should be because it is his only son's wedding but i honestly dont get hurt if she doesnt. She makes faces if there is something she doesnt like, or it just doesnt please her... She got upset because she didnt go when i got my dress, she threw it in my face like a billion times and seriously my mom didn't act like that, she wasnt there either.. (i ordered it over the phone).... I did have an ok relationship but she really has pushed me over the edger.. i cannot stand her attitude.. but i'm learning to deal with it, and I hope i can really see past it. Although the list is long i wont go on.. dont want to bore you guys... but Marina i feel ur pain!

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 1:47 pm
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hahah just ask her if she forgot to take her little pill to!!! LOL Noooo that only works with me.


girl, you've honestly have to let it go. These old ladies are nice but they have expectations for the weddings. Just like we have expectations when we get proposed to or what ever.   They think they have a role to play. Some women don't have issues like this... But the ones that do need special handling.. Just try and let it go. Weddings bring the best and the worse out of people....


I hear you about the scheduling... I am doing everything on my own. Because I don't have a job and I can just get up and go and make choices right there and then.


My mother in law was asking me to draw up a chart of how much money I'd spent and what my budget was..... I laughed and I told her... "I am not going to kill myself trying to remember what I spent. I don't have a budget and don't even know what one is!!!  All I know is I'm having this wedding for about 1/3 of what anyone else might get even if they tried!! so no matter what I spend.. We are still ahead of the game on savings."  And then she's like... Well yeah, you're right. But...... and I'm like... "nooo no Buts, if I wanted to be like the other brides I would of paid full price on everything and we would be broke... So far we have not put a single thing on a credit card, Just about everything is paid for in full and we are not worried about where we're going to pay the next thing from and we are doing it with no outside money help from anyone"      She's was like.... "Krickets-krickets" hahahhahhaha.   Nobody is paying for the wedding but us...  Run with me or get out of my way!!!!!!! LOL But I still treat her really good.. She doesn't know what hit her when I say shit like that and then treat her really good.


They don't mean any harm.. They're just old and think they know something we don't.

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 1:55 pm
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marinag--> are yoiu going to meet us at the cheesecake factory in marina del rey??

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 2:11 pm
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Dirty!! I never got anymore emails about it. Last I heard was Oct 24th. I get married the next day girl... what's the scoop?

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 2:12 pm
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the


next


day


?????


 


so that means no then??? :-(


 


 

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 3:13 pm
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Marinag --- OMG my FMIL is the sammmmmme way. She always has a way to make her opinion known! "Oh you want to do it that way. Oh." I took her dress shopping with me and my mom and BP once--MISTAKE! She commented on everything! And then she had the nerve to tell me that my BMs had to long dresses. Short dresses aren't formal enough. I almost killed her right in the store!

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 5:27 pm
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lol I can absolutely relate. I adore my FMIL, but yes she is a difficult women to deal with if you don't know her. And yes she has very strong traditional values for weddings. She has said "you ARE having long bm dresses aren't you" and "you will be wearing your hair up wont you". These are things I wanted to do anyway, so Im not fussed but it is still being a bit bossy. I just think its amusing :)

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 5:40 pm
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Girls... My Mother in law keeps comparing my wedding with her own wedding.. "Well, I don't know what you think but when I got married I had this, that and the other. But I guess people are doing things different now a day. I guess beautiful weddings are a thing of the past. People want to make their weddings as weird as they can now. But you know what you want and that's all that matters"   Mind you she's been married 3 times and her last marriage which she boasts about lasted 11 months!!!!


"Honey, what song are you dancing to first?"  Me:  Im thinking "Let's Stay Together" by All Green... "Ohhh, honey. That was our song me and Bruce!! we use to dance to that song for hours and we use to sing to one another time and time again"  Ahhh Jesus!!!!!   Me: Mom, I changed our song. Were going to dance to (insert song here randomly) "Ohhh honey!!! that was my song!!! I loved that song! That was my favorite song!!"


Me: I'm dancing to (insert some fucked up she's never heard before song here)  "Oh, I've never heard of that song. Hmmm, well if Mitch and you are happy with that song"


She takes everything I do and breaks it down to the smallest detail and tells me.. "You have to make all the changes I left for you. I don't want you to be embarrassed when people see it the way you did it" hahahhahhahah  Me: Ohhhh O.K thank you. But maybe my friends are as illiterate as I am and won't notice!! LOL      "Are you being funny or are you serious?" hahahhahahhahahahha


Yes, that's the way it sounds when we talk. hahahahhah But only about the wedding. She is freaken weird. She totally had a hell of a run during her life where she was a wild woman. Now that she's old she's "Betty Cracker"  hahahhaha  When she gets on my last nerve I'm like... "Lady please!!"  I feel so bad for her sometimes.. Sometimes I want to hit her over the head and say... "Wake up!!!"

Posted on September 16, 2008 at 7:37 pm
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oh yes i have serious issues with both my future inlaws!!! i dislike them with a huge passion! did i say huge i ment massive!!! they are in my face all the time telling me how to do EVERYTHING.... HOW TO DRESS MY 22MONTH OLD SON, HOW TO CUT A F@#KING TOMATO, HOW TO COOK ONION ON THE B.B.Q, DONT WASH THE SPOONS LIKE THAT LEIA, THE TOMATO SAUCE SHOULD BE ON THE LEFT OF THE TABLE AND THE B.B.Q SAUCE GOES ON THE RIGHT CHANGE IT!!! WHAT THE HELL who does that shit!!! boring old interfearing, caniving old people with no lives of there bloody own! aghhhhh such a bad topic i will leave it there! i wont get started!!!

Posted on September 17, 2008 at 11:41 am
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I love my FMIL and all, but she can be difficult at times. Itly, I almost took her dress shopping with me and my mom. I'm glad FI told her that she shouldn't go. So happy that happened!


Marina, I know how you feel. You are not alone. Rather than comparing our wedding planning to hers, she's comparing it to her other son's/new daughter-in-law. "Oh, so and so only spent this much $$ on her dress and it turned out to be so beautiful." "Their dj was great. Why don't you hire them?" "Don't give candy as favors. It's not good."


She also has other beliefs/needs:
-No one can wear black to our wedding.
-All guests have to wear floor length gowns. (She made this mistake at her other son's wedding. Everyone thought her neice was a part of the wedding! hahahaha)
-All bridesmaids have to wear floor length gowns. (Tough sh*t. They're wearing tea length)
-I can't try on my wedding band before the wedding.
-I can't try on my gown before the wedding. (Yea..seriously??!!)
-No one can try on my engagement ring.
-A hairstylist must be hired to do the hair for her and her siblings.
-The food must be good.


I'm so glad FI can stand his ground and say not to all of this. I'm leaving it up to him to argue with her. I do not want to know what she will be like when she has grandkids!!!

Posted on September 17, 2008 at 12:11 pm

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