Need some advice please!
I really really could use some advice right now. I am at the end of my rope with this situation and honestly I don't know how to fix it. If things continue on the way that they have been I am never going to have a wedding. Ever.
We were in a little bit of a tough situation for awhile due to Hurricane Sandy but finally that is all behind us. We bought a house this summer. (Yay!) We are finally all settled and now is the time to actually get cracking with planning the wedding. And now that everything else has been taken care of financially (like replacing two vehicles, furniture, etc.) we are able to put money towards the wedding each week.
We had planned on booking a venue last month but it didn't happen. The reason is that we are basically financially supporting my in-laws and financially helping FH's siblings as well. FH's parents can barely afford to pay their bills each month and if something comes up then they are screwed. They call us because they don't have any money, don't have gas, no food, the electric is about to be turned off, etc. Last week we gave them $400. The week before that we bought them $200 in groceries, gave them $100 for gas and gave his sister $350 for her utilities or they would be shut off.
We are paying our own bills but that extra money should be going for the wedding and building up our savings again which is down to nothing really from just buying the house and giving away money every month.
I don't know how to deal with this situation. And I can understand how my FH feels too. How does he say no when his parents have no food? Or no money? We are not going to be able to have a wedding until something changes and I don't expect that it will.
What should I do?