Need to get this off my chest.

Good day ladies! As some of you know, I found out in August I will not be able to have any children. My DH has been very supportive and told me that I can be a mother to his two children. He has four children, two grown and two under the age of 10. His daughter mother's has a very volatile relationship with the both of us and he has been going back and forth to court with her for various reasons. We finally made leadway and can see her on a regular basis. I have always wanted a daughter and he said he wanted us to have a relationship. We are finally getting one and yesterday I got my feelings hurt so bad. After dinner, we went inside this store and I saw the cutest jogging suit for her and a winter coat. He told me that both were too high and he could get them cheaper somewhere else. He said I never look around for bargains but the jogging suit was on clearance, both pieces for $10.00! I was totally crestfallen and put both items back. When he saw how sad I looked, he told me to get them, but I didn't want to because he took the joy I had originally away. He just text me a minute ago all excited about how he found her a coat. I went in the bathroom and started crying.


He is a great husband but he will never know the pain I feel of not being able to have my own child. He is always saying they are my children, but if that were true what mommy wouldn't be able to buy her daughter a pretty girly coat? I wanted to go get her a doll because she didn't have one at our house a couple of weeks ago but he went and got her one. He likes for me to do her hair and play for her, but he doesn't seem to like when I buy her anything. I have explained how I feel to him and he says I need to find a support group for women who can't have kids, so I give up! I am going to get the coat, but for my niece! Thanks for listening.

Posted on October 18, 2012 at 6:53 am
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Oh Tressy, I wish there was something I could say that would make you feel better!!! I too cannot have children and we absolutely cannot financially afford to go through all of the procedures that they have now, so I will never know the joy of what it is to be pregnant or to give birth, etc.  It does get very emotional some times, but then I always remember that God has blessed me with nieces and nephews, and also has created another purpose for me. 


I am sorry that your hubby is making you feel this way too, but maybe you could ask him to spend a few hours with you going "bargain shopping" for your stepdaughter.  This way you could get her a few things and he would be happy that you are bargain shopping.  (If that makes any sense).


You are an amazing person and God has a bigger plan for you, I just know it.  I am ALWAYS here for you if you ever need to vent/talk.  Wish I was closer to give you hugs!!!  xoxo

Posted on October 18, 2012 at 7:54 am
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Oh wow Becca I didn't know you couldn't have kids either! Monday when I saw my ob/gyn he gave me a number for a referral for ovary conservation. I called and she said to have one egg froze was $7000.00! We can't financially afford to do any of the procedures either. I think because it is coming closer to me having the surgery it is starting to bother me. To never know the joy of feeling your child kick for the first time and hey, lets be honest, I  have a great name for a grandmother. Lol. Had to throw some humor in it!


A jogging suit for ten bucks for the top and bottom is a hell of a bargain and we were at a retail store to boot! It just seems like he doesn't want me to buy her anything. It is his only daughter and she is the baby, so maybe it gives him joy to buy her things. I am going back to get that coat, but for my neice! It was to die for and practically brand new. Can't pass a deal like that up. Is there a support group on here for women who can't have kids?


Thanks Becca for listening and encouraging me! You are an amazing women as well!

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You are so welcome and anytime you need to talk, let me know.  : )

Posted on October 18, 2012 at 12:38 pm

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