Need to uninvite a guest
Okay so I had been wondering how to deal with this and had just been putting it off in the small chance it never came to light.. but, it did. And now I need to uninvite a guest. Well uninvite someone who received an Save the Date, but not an invite, and who's now asking where her invite is.
Backstory.. this girl is FI's ex-roommate's ex-girlfriend. The ex-roommate is also one of FI's groomsmen. They had a nasty break-up, not amicable at all. I was friends with her while they were still together, and stayed friendly with her after they broke up. We were never great friends, we hung out occasionally here and there but mostly chatted by e-mail. She is a nice girl and hasn't done anything wrong really.
But, I haven't seen her in nearly a year. I think we last got together for a brief dinner in Sep or Oct of last year. The last time we communicated via e-mail was in February. I only sent her an STD because she e-mailed in February talking about wanting to come to the wedding and at the time I figured why not? At that point it had only been 4-5 months since we last saw each other.
Well FI's GM isn't happy about her coming, his new gf isn't happy about it either, and I haven't seen this girl in so long now. She hasn't contacted me since Feb to ask how I'm doing or anything. Why should we pay $200+ for her and a guest to come to the wedding only to have people stressing out and upset with me for inviting her.
So I really don't want her to come. She just texted me this morning asking if she should have received her invitation by now.
I look to the future and don't see us hanging out ever again after the wedding, seeing as it's been nearly a year since we last saw each other and we don't even communicate by e-mail anymore. Her lack of contact with me over the past few months is making me wonder if she just wants to come to show off her new boyfriend in front of her old boyfriend.. I don't want a bunch of awkwardness and stress at my wedding, esp with someone who isn't even a close friend.
Bad, huh!? FI told me it was okay if I blamed his GM for not wanting her to come and that he's upset about it, but I need advice on what to do or say!?