New Trend- The Anti Wedding Invite...

A controversial new wedding trend is emerging: the anti-invite. Some have also dubbed it the unvite. Whatever you want to call it, you're not invited.


Couples planning a budget-friendly wedding are often faced with the dilemma of the guest list -- too many friends and family, and the budget is blown. To deal with this awkward issue, many couples have started sending out alerts that tell acquaintances, "You're not invited."


As youcan imagine, the trend is a little contentious.


Cafemom.com noticed the trend emerging in a "Dear Prudence" letter on Slate:


"Recently I received two separate announcements letting me know that I'm not invited to
the wedding of a friend. Both of these came out of the blue; I had not precipitated them by asking if I was going to get an invitation. Apparently, it's a trend for brides and grooms to tell people who didn't make the cut that they aren't going to witness the special day."


Tatiana Byron, founder of event planning firm The Wedding Salon, confirmed the trend with Today.com. She said that couples sometimes deliver these anti-invites via email. Other times, they take the time to mail cards. But often, the wedding planner is the messenger.


"Some their friends complain and criticize the couple, thinking the planner won't tell the client."


In defense of the trend, Kellee Khalil, founder of bridal site Lover.ly, explains:


"Many brides don't consider the fact that this will come up (often) once the guest list has been set, so it's good to have a general plan to avoid awkwardness and hurt feelings as soon as you send out your save-the-dates."


But if he anti-invite sounds insensitive to you -- wait. It gets worse.


"The B list" invite is an offshoot of the anti-invite. It informs a would-be guest that if someone else cancels, they're guaranteed a spot. It's basically a wait list for a wedding.


Source


What are your thought on this new trend???

Posted on February 21, 2013 at 7:25 am
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Uhlease
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Whaat? I've never heard of this before.


My thoughts: They will find out they weren't invited when they DON'T get an invite...not when the get the 'you're not invited' memo. Right? I dunno. Leave it up to them to ask you about it (if they even do) Then just simply explain you are having a smaller wedding and that's that.

Posted on February 21, 2013 at 8:03 am
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i think it is a tasteless trend. every educated person will understand that he or she is not invited if he or she does not get an invitation.... i understand the difficulty of brides with big guest lists and people who expect to be invited. but i somehow think the old way is the nicest. if you get the invite, you are in the party. 


i dont mean to critisize anybody who did or is doing this and feels it is right for her wedding. i just wouldn´t do it myself

Posted on February 21, 2013 at 8:04 am
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It's not for me, but to each their own.
Posted on February 21, 2013 at 9:44 am
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My opinion?


My opinion Sorry couldn photo 3451634-1


Sorry, couldn't resist. ;)

Posted on February 21, 2013 at 12:02 pm
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^^^  I agree, this is simply RUDE...  it seems like a way to hurt people's feelings (mine sure would be if I got one of these!)  

Posted on February 21, 2013 at 12:53 pm
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It does seem like a "just in case you hadn't noticed, I DON'T want you at my wedding".
It just doesn't seem necessary in my opinion
Posted on February 21, 2013 at 1:21 pm
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Wow that's over the top and will def cause drama SMHHHH..
Posted on February 21, 2013 at 3:31 pm
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LMAO Laura. Thats hilarious. Such a perfect Stephanie moment lol

Posted on February 21, 2013 at 11:59 pm
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WOW!!

Posted on February 22, 2013 at 4:17 am
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This is ridiculous! I would definitely be upset if I recieved one of these - but I wouldn't be if I didn't recieve an invitation. Hmmm

Posted on February 22, 2013 at 10:03 am
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I would rather recieve an unvite instead of wondering for days if I was invited or not.  If done correctly and kindly, it will help with people constantly bothering you as to whether they are invited or not.  LOVE the idea!

Posted on February 22, 2013 at 5:48 pm
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This word is getting crazier by the minute!

Posted on February 23, 2013 at 9:06 am
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this is crazy in my opionion! I think it would be hurtful to someone whether they expected an invite or not. 

Posted on February 24, 2013 at 1:18 am

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