Newlyweds - Post your "I Do-over" for the brides to be!

Please share advice about what you'd have done differently if you knew then what you know now.


Is there something you'd do-over?


Would you get more sleep?    Not have a certain Bridesmaid?  Hire a coordinator?

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:38 pm
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jackieg
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i would not have forgotten my garters....and i would've taken more pix after the ceremony with just DH...


but other than that....our day went PERFECTLY!!

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:40 pm
AMiller
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I would have taken the extra time to get more pics of me and my husband instead of worrying about the guests waiting and I would have stressed to my photog my must have shots instead of trying to be easy

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:41 pm
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I would have made sure DH and I had more alone time after the wedding.  By the time all our family and friends left Maui we only got one and a half days alone until we had to go back to California.  Not enough time at all! 

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:43 pm
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It's weird.....lately I've been thinking about this a lot for some reason.  Maybe now that I'm farther away from the wedding, I'm starting to think of the things that weren't so positive??  Anyway, I think I would have spent more money investing in my hair/makeup.  I wanted to find someone that had reasonable prices for my BM's so I didn't go with other people because of that.  Even though I was willing and able to spend more on my own services.  Not that I didn't like how I looked....but I think I would have done it a little differently.


Strangely enough...I think I would have danced less??? :)  I was on the dance floor the ENTIRE night with my girl friends.  Because of that, I realized that I didn't get to talk to as many of the guests as I would have liked...especially those that weren't ever on the dance floor! :)  


I would have been more clear with our officiant about our vows.  I just assumed that he was going to have us repeat the entire vows (i.e. better or worse, sickness and health, etc) after he said each line.  Instead, he said the entire thing and we just got to say "I do" afterward.  I'm really bummed that I didn't get to say those words.  I thought he understood what we wanted but as he was saying the words, I had the realization that I wasn't going to get to say them. :(


 

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:44 pm
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I would have insisted on the photog getting more detail shots, I would have brought flip flops for myself to the reception.


One thing I DID do and highly recommend to every other bride, I got all of the planning finished the week before the wedding. I had nothing to do the week of the wedding and really got to enjoy spending fun time with my family and friends. Plus, it let me get lots of sleep and be nice to people because I wasn't stressing about anything.

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:52 pm
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beatie...i was thinking the OPPOSITE about the dancing....we hardly danced AT ALL!!!!  we spent most of the nite chatting with people..i feel like i missed out a little on that....


we did the same for our vows...said "i do" but we did the "repeat after me" thing for the exchanging of the rings...


 


 

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:52 pm
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Beatie, thanks for sharing your views on the vows.  I never would have thought to ask.

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:52 pm
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These are good girls thanks...anyone else?

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:53 pm
beatie
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that's the thing...we only got to say "i do" after HE said the vows and we said "take this ring as a symbol of my love and commitment" after the exchange of rings.  but we didn't get to say the actual vows.  i REALLY wanted to!  i even remember telling him that we liked the idea of saying the same words that my parents, his parents, and other couples for generations have said.  guess it didn't sink in.  so now i know...never assume that people know what you're thinking....SPELL it out!! :)

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:55 pm
jackieg
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that's really good advice for future brides....


funny....i've spent a lot of time thinking about it too....


I was able to view the rest of the images online today...and there were things in there i don't even remember....so more advice would be to HIRE A GREAT PHOTOGRAPHER!! DON'T SKIMP HERE!! (i love our photog!!)

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:57 pm
BeltranBride
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There are a couple things that I had seen other brides be bummed about later that we made sure we did so we didnt miss out and Im so glad we did:


We wrote our own vows


My dad offiated


we saw each other before the ceremony to spend time together


we did TTD pics


i hired three coordinators


we had a live band


we took dance lessons


we took our non-drinking parents into consideration and had an espresso bar


we paid a good chunk for our photographer


 


over all, those are the things that looking back, i would have regretted not having.  Im a little bummbed that whoever had our video camera was an IDIOT and didnt get our first dance - but someone else had taped it, so no worried.  We (I) poored our hearts and souls into that wedding, and Im proud of every detail.

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:59 pm
beatie
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i don't know why i've been thinking about it lately....for the first few months, all i remembered was the great, rosey stuff!  lately i've been picking everything apart and lamenting about things.  maybe i'm going through withdrawals?? :)

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 12:59 pm
Soon2BeENR
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I thought everything went perfectly for my wedding.  I would suggest NOT to go out to your bachelorette party the night before the wedding....I have a beautiful picture of myself the morning of the wedding day, and I look aweful.  Also, wear comfortable shoes!  I got converse, and no one saw them, but I was so comfortable the entire night.  One more thing; hire a videographer!  I am so glad I did, because there were so many moments I want to relive.

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 1:02 pm
GatorBride
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I'd hire a videographer... I could kick myself!

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 1:43 pm
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good post kristeen.... :)

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 1:52 pm
jackieg
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oh, also, we would've taken dance lessons and did a choreographed first dance, just a simple foxtrot or something...rather than the "8th grade sway"


i'm sooooo happy we made room for videography....i know we missed sooo much that day!

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 1:53 pm
beatie
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aww, jax...i love the jr. high sway!!  we totally rocked that....and it made our song feel sooooooooo long!!  

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 1:55 pm
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oh, and totally silly but i would have had the seamstress add additional crinoline to the skirt of my dress to poof it out more.  i didn't even think of it at the time but now looking at my dress, i would have liked it to have just a bit more poof!  ha!  the things that matter to us, i swear....

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 1:58 pm
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I would have saved up more money first because there are so many things I should have spent more money on (better venue, catering, PRO-photog, videographer, uplighting) okay pretty much my whole wedding lol I would have had like 18 photographers haha or at least 2 good ones, I would have spent more time taking pics with my hubby because we have no good ones :(

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 2:05 pm
jackieg
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haha beatie...i would've had my seamstress make the front of mine a tiny bit shorter...i had it shortened...but i still kept stepping on it!!


and we cut our song short...we gave the DJ the "high sign" and he faded it out after a couple of minutes....

Posted on May 14, 2009 at 2:15 pm
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