Ok so some of you may think this is TMI, but I need some help.... I have no sex drive what so ever..... Does anyone have any tips!!
I just saw this post right underneith yours:
Ours has decreased as of late due to medical problems, extreme stress and other issues. We are trying to work on it by trying new and different things. Talk your SO about some things that you can do together to increase your drive. Hope it gets better. HUGS!
We have the same problem! DH makes the joke that when we DTD, he knows it's about time to get the quarterly taxes done. Rude.
A couple weeks ago, we took a short OOT trip. He had to go on for work anyway, and I just came along. I don't know what it was, but we were able to just connect on that level again! I think the work and stress of life really kills it, honestly. Is there anything y'all can do to get away from it? Even if it's just taking a day to do something fun. The key might be to get out, so regardless of what kind of work needs to be done or things to take care of, you can't and have no choice but to relax and enjoy being together.
thats really good advice carolina- and I responded on the main boards too!
I've had this same problem and I'm convinced that it's stress. I've been sick alot in the last few months, my two nephews live with us, my step-son is with us more, DH is out on disability, I had to quit my job because of migraines and money is not just tight but almost non-existant. All of that really doesn't put a girl in the mood.
What works for me is taking time alone with DH. I pull him aside and tell him that we need us time. Not us and kids time, just us time. It's so difficult to feel sexy with a bunch of pre-teen and teenage boys lurking in the house but I have to tell DH to find us time to be alone.
We don't have money for vacations right now but one thing that does work for me is taking the boys to my parents house for a couple nights and us having the house to ourselves. It's like a really cheap mini-vacation.
We also try to have date nights or date days. Even if it's just a couple of hours to reconnect. We do things where we can walk together and hold hands and act like we are dating again. That always seems to re-spark the spark.
I thought about trying some cute lingerie, but I have "0" confidence!!
UGH!!! I'm trying to figure something out!!! Grrr Dang libido!!