No wedding coordinator, has anyone not used one

I am doing so much on my own, everything is just perfection so far, with careful planning and double checking. The minister will give us the entire walk through, and timing on everything, for the day. I wanted a coordinator for the day,but the price is still the same, as if i hired her for the entire event, $1200.oo. She says she will do everything,(check out,set up, Que us/DJ on events of the night etc....) and be there the whole time


The DJ tells me he follows the wedding program, and makes announcements as they are written down.I have done my own flowers, no vendor, only other vendor is the cake, and a phone call from me in the morning will be enough.


 Has anyone not used one, and had everything run smooth, or did it all go down hill?

Posted on September 20, 2008 at 9:03 pm
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d1rtymart1n1
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HIRE ONE!


it's the best $1200 you'll spend

Posted on September 20, 2008 at 9:24 pm
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We aren't using one, but our venue helps us out a lot if we have questions, but the decorations, invites, ceremony program, recpetion details, everything is on our own!  It's way too fun that way!

Posted on September 21, 2008 at 3:32 am
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If your venue provides an on-site coordinator (not just a banquet manager) then I think you're fine.  But if they don't provide anyone, or just the person that manages the food/beverages etc, then I might get one.  Our venue has a coordinator that does all the banquet stuff but also puts out all the things I provide like menus, place cards, guest book, etc and she keeps the schedule of events going so we're not getting a separate one.  If you don't have someone available like that, your friends and family might get stuck working on your wedding day! :(

Posted on September 21, 2008 at 3:36 am
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If you don't use one, you need to make sure you have one person who is the main contact.  Even with specific directions, there are a lot of questions.  There needs to be one person other than you that they will ask questions to.  Otherwise you will not have time to relax and enjoy your own day!

Posted on September 21, 2008 at 1:29 pm
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We are not using one. I was thinking about it but decided I can do it all myself and will like it more that way.


If you are going to hire one at all I would just do a day of planner.


If you have a good dj and officiant then it will work out fine. Your officiant will help with the ceremony and the DJ will organize the reception

Posted on September 28, 2008 at 10:56 am
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I didn't hire one, but I did put someone that I trust to oversee the whole entire thing on the day of. It worked out perfectly. Have fun planning....

Posted on September 28, 2008 at 12:12 pm
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Ok, here is the reality.... you can be fine with out one, but someone will be doing her job! My mom did the job, and wished she had one, said she would have rather enjoyed her daughters wedding day than worked. It is really up to you, if you do not want to spend $1200 then find someone else and hire or trade with them for less.. What is your location... I need reviews and will trade for free or transportation and meals..


 


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Posted on September 28, 2008 at 12:32 pm
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you can plan out out by using a timeline/timeguide sort of thing.


have everything broken down.


give it to your DJ, because he will be the one announcing the events.


its up to you, if you have the extra money you can use one, but then it again, things could go wrong with her or him.


if you have an elaborate wedding day planned, it probably best to have one or have someone oversee the events.


if its a regular wedding, you can probably just get away with it by being prepared and having a printed agenda.


we are not using one, so I am biased, not married yet, but just a great planner.


good luck.

Posted on September 28, 2008 at 1:11 pm
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ditto heather/sunset hawaii


"someone" will have to keep track of how the day is flowing, problems with a broken centerprice (if that happens), DJ running late, all the mishaps that *could* happen...


do you, as the bride - really want to deal with all that shit??


 

Posted on September 28, 2008 at 1:13 pm
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I had to carry random flowers up the isle because my bouquet was left in the dressing room, the photographer insisted on a pre ceremony photo shoot and never got the pictures I wanted of my family and guests... The pictures I took of everyone and instructed my sister take where better than the photog... half the food prepared was left at the farm house and no one sent after it... The transition from ceremony to reception left no room for our guests... The musicians missed the boat and the reception so  and our friend set up a mini performance and my husband had to help him set up... The musicians arrived for the after party!!! We had three bands from Seattle come up to Orcas Island... My mom had to work the whole time and was wedding coordinator, videographer and something else... Things happen! someone will have to oversee, with all the planning in the world... We had fun and now I hire my mom as my on site coordinator as she is the best! We talk about the mis haps and really it was totally perfect! But she still wishes she was not working at her Daughters wedding!

Posted on September 28, 2008 at 1:27 pm
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I'm not using one either.......so, if it's a bad idea, we're going down together:)

Posted on September 28, 2008 at 2:42 pm
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You need to at least find someone in your family or a friend to help if you're not going to hire a coordinator. You are headed for a meltdown otherwise. I tried to do it all myself and I was in tears most of the night - I had people coming at me from all sizes asking questions, I had guests show up early that were not supposed to be there yet. And then they wanted to help setup which was very kind of them, but I had 50 people trying to put my precise vision into place (and it did not end up that way at all), the food was late because I couldn't ride the caterer and everyone else too. Half my decor didn't even get put out (wasted money there). My cake started to tilt over and I had to add supports to it in my wedding gown... two little kids also decided it was a great idea to stick their fingers into the fondant...


I was so stressed I couldn't enjoy any of the special moments. My pictures - I was forcing a smile, it wasn't natural. I will be doing it again for my 2nd anniversary, and this time, the only thing I will be doing is my own bridal bouquet and that's only because I am a florist! I am leaving the rest to a coordinator. I want to remember it this time around and I don't want to cry unless it's tears of joy.


This isn't the worst wedding I have attended (a story for another day), but even with my planning to the tiniest detail, it was nothing like I wanted. I am not trying to scare you, I just don't want you to end up miserable like I did. You can plan all day long, but things will not go as planned sometimes and you cannot be the bride and fix it all too. For smaller weddings, less than 50 guests, you could probably swing it without going insane.


Sunset is offering a huge deal - take it!


-Leann

Posted on September 28, 2008 at 3:47 pm
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I agree with the ladies here who say hiring a DOC will help with your sanity.  No matter how detailed you are, things will pop up.


My older sister was super detailed and had notes and spreadsheets for everyone.   No one listened.  On the day of the wedding, no one had their notes, couldn't remember where they were supposed to be, go to, at what time, etc.  She didn't hire a DOC and was STRESSED OUT...she was YELLING at everyone and just pissed the entire wedding.   I remembered that so vividly that when it came time for me to get married 8 years later, a DOC was the vendor I thought of researching. 


Even a new one just starting out or trading for services is better than nothing!


Good luck!

Posted on September 28, 2008 at 4:59 pm
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We're not using one.  I've never even considered it.  Most people I know getting married or recently married haven't used one either and it's never been a problem.

Posted on October 23, 2008 at 6:21 pm
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Oh, but having said that, I plan on doing nothing myself on the day.  I will have a timeline printed out for everybody involved and have somebody else like my MOH making sure that it all gets done.


- FI's brother is picking up the hire chairs for the ceremony and returning them afterwards


- FI's friends are setting up the ceremony venue and FI's mother is coordinating that (so people will direct their questions to her, not FI)


- My Dad is getting the car and picking me up on time


- My mother is overseeing the set-up of the reception venue and we are hiring a couple of people to help set up, and to serve drinks and plate the cake during the reception.


- One of our Dads will make sure the music gets played in the correct order


 


etc.  i don't want to be running around organising things on the day and I don't want FI to have to either.  I want it all set up so that we just get told what to do and where to go and we don't even have to look at our watches.  Luckily we can really trust our friends and families to do the job right.

Posted on October 23, 2008 at 6:25 pm
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I have a friend who is does Wedding Coordinating as a passion, she previously offered to assit me and I'm gladly taking her up on it... if for some reason she can't I WILL be cramming it in my lil' budget somehow... nothing ever runs perfect and thats fine BUT I want to enjoy my day, not stres...


If I was in Seattle, I'd take Heather of Sunset Weddings up on it - DEFINATELY!

Posted on October 23, 2008 at 6:43 pm
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after thoughts... MrsGG, totally funny story! So up my alley, exactly why I must have someone competant - I am definately a yeller & I don't want them mad at meeh!

Posted on October 23, 2008 at 6:45 pm
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Mrs. GG is right...I cannot tell you how many vendors have said, "where do I set up?" Or called me becasue they didn't know what time the ceremony started lol. Things DO pop up.Keep in mind that there is a chance your friend will come up to you 2 mins before you walk down the aisle because the wedding cake still hasn't arrived.

Posted on October 23, 2008 at 6:52 pm
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We wanted to use one but couldn't fit it into our budget no matter how hard we tried. I would of liked one because I wouldn't worry as much but our reception site comes with a "wedding coordinator" who will help me once I get there. I will also have my sister (MOH) and one of my bms to help. They have already said that they will be there to help me the day of no matter what.

Posted on October 24, 2008 at 2:13 am
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Were not using one! My friend and my sister got married w/o and things went w/o a hitch! We had some small problems but family and friends knew to try and fix it and not bother the bride with it! I would hope that your family and friends would do the same.


Sometimes I think horror stories are ment to scare brides, I was told thousands of possible problem if I did have one when I went to a loal bridal fair after the vendors found out I wasnt getting one (mostly from cordinators)


BTW-Not trying to offend just telling my opinion and experiences

Posted on October 24, 2008 at 2:28 am
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