Not sending thank you's

I went to a close friend's wedding back in February and gave her a really nice card & money for their honeymoon.  Here it is, June 25th, and I still haven't received a thank you note, but the check was cashed the day after the wedding.  Does anyone else think this is extremely tacky?  I mean really, how long does it take to send a 4 sentence letter to say thank you?  

Posted on June 25, 2013 at 3:32 am
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wolfmaure
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I understand completely, the last four weddings I attended I never received a thank you. What's worse? Two couples have yet to even return messages. SO RUDE!!!


 

Posted on June 25, 2013 at 3:41 am
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Yeah, I'm willing to throw a lot of traditions to the wind, but thank you notes are just not optional! That's very rude.

Posted on June 25, 2013 at 3:52 am
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Yeah, that's not ok.

I am not into the traditional wedding etiquette stuff, but not thanking someone for a gift is NEVER ok, I don't even care if its a text or an email - just an acknowledgement of some sort!!
My boys always send thank you notes, they are only 4 so usually just write their name at the bottom, but I always get them to draw a picture and then I write a message - it doesn't take long!!

I already have my thank you notes saved on my laptop to add a wedding photo, write, print and mail. I'm hoping that the notes get to England quickly so they're waiting for our guests when they get home!
Posted on June 25, 2013 at 3:56 am
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Wow. I haven't been to many wedding in my life but this is extremely rude. I am addressing our Thank you cards at the same time as our invitations. We will write personal messages in them after the wedding and mail them. Our probably wont go out until we return from our honeymoon which is going to be 10-14 days but they will go out immediately upon our return.

Some people have no manners at all. Its like some couples lose their common sense when it comes to weddings. Just because we get married doesn't mean people owe us anything. They take time from their lives to attend our wedding we can take time from ours to thank them
Posted on June 25, 2013 at 4:04 am
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We got married a month ago and haven't sent ours but everyone knows we are in the process of moving but once we get settled we are sending the thank you's :)

Posted on June 25, 2013 at 4:55 am
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You have a year to send them that doesn't mean it should take a year

Posted on June 25, 2013 at 5:36 am
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I've been to quite a few weddings and I think I've only received one thank you card and it was from my fiance's brother and wife.

Posted on June 25, 2013 at 6:12 am
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No no no, that's not tacky...it's RUDE!!!!! My fiance and I experienced the same thing. We were invited to his best friend's wedding that was out of state (he was actually asked to be a groomsman). But there's no way we could afford it. We live in Texas and their wedding was in Virginia.


So, we sent them a card and a check for $100. That was almost 2 years ago and no Thank You card, no Thank You text, no Thank You Facebook message...NOTHING!!! I am still so pissed about it.


I can understand the man forgetting about something like that but you would think his new wife would know better. Or even worse...you would think one of their mothers would think to tell them to send Thank You cards.


At first we were like, "Maybe it got lost in the mail?" BUT NO!!! My FI's parents sent them money too and NOTHING in return for them either! That is bulls**t. I am sorry. Thank You cards are just, DUHHH...a part of the process!!! I am still apalled by it, can you tell?!


And now, we're inviting them to our wedding. And if they send us a gift or money and we send them a Thank You card, maybe it'll *click* with them that "S*it, we should've sent out Thank You cards after our wedding and we didn't. We look like complete selfish a**holes." Yep! You sure do.

Posted on June 25, 2013 at 9:05 am
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It is very rude... if she isn't sending them out on purpose because she is being lazy about it, but maybe (it is possible) that she lost her list that it was all written on? 


That is my situation with my thank you cards, I could only write out a few that I remember and for the gifts that I got before the wedding in the mail, but everything else (which wasn't alot) didn't get thank you cards because I am not even sure who sent what or who all got us gifts. :(


I hope my guest doesn't think im being rude, I dont have a choice, and I dont want to send a thank you card to someone who didn't even get us anything... so I guess I will just wait until they speak up.


I guess that is my fault for "trusting" one of my bridesmaids, who I am not even friends with anymore write it down, causeee she lost it!!! 

Posted on June 25, 2013 at 11:31 am

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