"Not trying to be offensive but..... "

Okay is it me or does anyone get annoyed when people start a sentence with this and then proceed to say the most offensive thing possible? Don't get me wrong I'm not talking about when someone has a legitimate comment to make but are unsure if people may misintepret it. I'm talking about saying something that they KNOW is offensive, but they think the disclaimer will make it less offensive (make them less accountable actually )


This girl is talking to me at work today about how she didn't want to move to America and "not to offend anyone but.... " Americans are so rude, ignorant, close-minded blah blah blah ... WTF???!

Posted on January 19, 2010 at 9:53 am
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I totally hear you! It's like people think it's okay to be rude/offensive/crass if they state beforehand that they "don't mean to." Or "I'm not trying to be rude..." Whatever! You totally know that's what you're doing, or you wouldn't say that. It doesn't give you a free pass.


It's so tempting when people start a sentence, "I don't mean to be offensive, but..." to interrupt them and say, "Then don't."


But that would be rude. ;)

Posted on January 19, 2010 at 10:03 am
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 "I'm not trying to be rude and I'm not trying to be mean " are the variations haha. And not to hijack my own thread but the other thing that really gets my blood boiling is when people say "Don't take this the wrong way" urghhhh!! It's like how can I NOT take it the wrong way if you say that I'm a fat ugly cow- come on.


I'm just beginning to think some people need muzzles.

Posted on January 19, 2010 at 11:48 am
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Bahaha @ muzzles.


I totally hear you!

Posted on January 19, 2010 at 12:23 pm
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Muzzles wouldn't work for some people, they just need to have their tongue cut out and their mouth wired shut.  ;o)

Posted on January 19, 2010 at 2:39 pm
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My mom does this to me all the time.  She'll start with "I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, I'm just being honest".  Then she'll say something really horrible.  One time when she started like the I said something like "yeah, you never are" in a pretty sarcastic tone.  I'm pretty sure she got the point because it's happened way less since then.  :)

Posted on January 20, 2010 at 2:47 am
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ridiculous!

Posted on January 20, 2010 at 5:31 pm

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