Now that Im married ...my tips and advice :)

I know a few girls have given their advice and tips after there wedding is over and they have hindsight ....so here's mine


#1 - make sure every single button , fasten , hook and loop is checked on your dress the day before the wedding and are secure ..... as most of you know ...one of my loops broke as I got dressed and my mom had to meet me at the door to the venue and sew me into my dress .... not what you want to do right before you walk down the aisle :)


#2 - Don't do your programs 2 days before the wedding at 2 am ...leading you to forget your vendors in your thank yous in your program ...hehe ...I did ...I got so wrapped up in thanking the family and  friends that helped and dedicating the back page to my kids (plus I was tired)  that I forgot to add my vendors ..DUH!!!!   I fixed this by printing out my thank yous to the vendors in large bold print on a sheet of paper and putting it in a frame that was displayed next to the program basket on the table ..... but try to avoid this ;)


#3  - Remember to tell your DJ about your do not play list ....I forgot ....and I will pretty much dance to anything ....but I meant to tell him no songs about strippers and ho's and forgot ...... I was a little embarrased when "you spin me right round when u go down when you go downcame blasting out of the speakers .....  (sorry grandma) ....  I also would have said no to "Low'   but alas ...i danced like it was my job making sure to  "give that big booty a slap ...HEY"   when it was appropriate ;)


#4 - Don't sweat the small stuff -  and once your processional starts and your heading toward the love of your life .... all the rest of it , IS just that ...small stuff ....don't forget what the day is REALLY about .... you can impress your friends or your snobby aunt another time .... that day is about you as a couple .... always keep that in perspective


#5  Which leads me to this ....... I think it becomes very easy to get wrapped up in other peoples thoughts ideas , suggestions , comments , and even what other brides are doing .... DON"T   ...... your day is about you and your FI - no one else (unless you already have children)  ... I guess I have become a firm believer that your wedding day is your opportunity to display and show the world how much your in love , why your in love , what you have in common , and who you are as a couple .... not how many petals you can possibly line that aisle with ...or how blingy your centerpieces are ... or how wonderful everyone will think you are if you serve them filet mignon .   If your wedding doesn't reflect who the two of you are than it is just a show .... where is the meaning in that?  


If he wants to wear converse , or adidas or vans.... LET HIM!


If you want to wear a Red dress ..... WEAR IT


If you want to sing eachother songs -  SING YOUR HEARTS OUT


If you want to use a funny poem as your vows because it "feels like you" - DO IT


If you want to decorate your reception venue like Yankee Stadium because the two of you cherish your season passes then .. LETS PLAY BALL


If you want to get married in a backyard barefoot and serve Barbecue because that's how you roll ... then ROCK ON WIT' YOUR BAD SELVES!


It's your day ... not a day to impress the masses ... put a little more of you in it and the memories will mean SOOOO much more to the two of you and your guests afterwards ...TRUST ME!!!!


#6)  MOST IMPORTANT -  HAVE FUN!!!!! ..... Before you blink it is over ....make sure you are enjoying yourself .... any bumps in the road ...forget about them ... just enjoy your self , your guests , have a GREAT time ... and just enjoy your very first moments being his wife..... memorize the smiles on people's faces and live in the moment .


Ok Im done :)


Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:01 am
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GoingtobeGoff
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yay!! thank you!!

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:04 am
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Great tips thanks!

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:05 am
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Thanks for the great advise!!!  I agree with the "make it your own" part, I struggle with making it my own and my mother making it her own... UGH! 

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:06 am
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Such great tips! Congrats on being married!  Your husband is a very lucky guy!

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:06 am
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love it! :)

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:06 am
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Thanks for the advice :)

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:08 am
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Well said Denise = )

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:08 am
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Awwww..what great tips! THANKS so much for sharing!!! I will definitely heed your advice! :)

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:09 am
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thanks for the advice!! I'll definitely keep it close to my heart. ;)

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:12 am
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Maybe its cuz I am so close but this brought tears to me eyes :( lol! thanks these were truly great tips :)

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:13 am
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Great Tips!

Hey!!  2 of those (Baseball and BBQ) are mine!!!  =)

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:14 am
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That was awesome!  I cracked up at the part about what not to play on the playlist.  :)  I think we're going to make our own playlist so if something inappropriate is played, it's no one's fault but our own.  :)  I need to read more lists like this more often so I can focus on what's really important.  Well said!

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:15 am
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thanks for the great advice...I love reading what PW brides have to say after their weddings are done!

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:54 am
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good ones Denise!

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:56 am
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These are great! Thank you for the advice!

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 5:57 am
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Fabulous!


Is it wrong that "you spin me right round when u go down when you go down" is on my MUST play list?  ;-)


Thanks for a great list and great advice!!

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 6:01 am
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HA!!!  jumpinbean -  NOT AT ALL .... if it's what YOU want go for it!!  .... Although I must say ..... my guests were of a large age span ...and I wanted EVERYONE to have a good time ,  I didn't wnat to offend anyone in their 80's or 90's (and we had a few AND THEY DANCED!)  so I had decided nothing inappropriate would be played .... but I must say ...MANY people danced when that song was played ... I however took the opportunity to run outside and have a cigarette and down a glass of wine ;)  .... mostly because I didn't want to be in the room if any of the older folks figured out what the lyrics were ...hehehe

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 6:06 am
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thanks for the advice!! love your tips.  too funny about the DJ playing those songs! hehe.

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 6:43 am
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Awesome tips! Thanks Denise!
Posted on May 4, 2009 at 6:48 am
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Aw thanks for the tips.

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 7:06 am
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