nwr-Feeling Super STUPID

So, Im an engineer and there is a licensing test that we have to take to become a professional. Its our equivalent of the Bar for lawyers. Its a two day yest, with 8 hours of testing on each day. Super hard and rigorous. I have now taken it twice and FAILED both times. During the mist of all this test taking, my then boyfriend proposed, moved about 500 miles away for work for a year, and I planned a wedding for 250 people. I understand that all of these things were working against me and I should not be surprised that i failed, but I am. I felt so confident after both test. Felt really good and new most of the answers. I was in SHOCK when I got my results that I failed.


To make matters worse, DH took the test a year ago and passed it on his first try. Now, he didn't have to deal with as much stuff as I did (in fact I was there to support him. Made him food after a long study sess and made sure he had everything), but I feel like I should have passed at least one section (there are 3 sections)!! I feel so down and out and not smart. I know that its a hard test and a lot of people fail, but I don't know any of them. All of my colleagues and friends have passed it and I studied more than all of them. In fact, they came to me for help. There is no logical reason why they are able to pass it and Im not.


Why cant i pass this thing?? I feel so dumb and inferior to everyone its making me sick. I keep doubting myself and feel like I will never pass. I don't know what else to do to prepare for this damn thing. I just keep thinking of an old episode of Greys Anatomy where a girl came into the psych ward because she kept hurting herself before the Bar Exam. She had failed it like 15 times and was loosing her mind. This is going to be me!!


Sorry for the long vent and dramatic ending. Just had to let it out! Thanks!

Posted on July 20, 2010 at 5:59 am
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Whoa, slow down.  "a two day yest, with 8 hours of testing on each day. Super hard and rigorous. I have now taken it twice and FAILED both times. During the mist of all this test taking, my then boyfriend proposed, moved about 500 miles away for work for a year, and I planned a wedding for 250 people."  <----WOW!  That's a lot to deal with.


Most people would have put off the test until they finished with all of this.  You had alot going on.  You need to take a breather.  How long did you wait between taking the two tests?  Also, just becuase you didn't pass these two times, what makes you think you're not smart? (Engineering is nothing to sneeze at)  Do you normally have trouble taking tests?  Have you ever taken a test like this before?  All of these things could have soemthing to do with you not passing.  


Just because others have passed on their first try doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, it just possibly means you take tests differently.  Maybe you need to enlist the help of those who passed (they came to you, so now its your turn).  Maybe there is something they did differently to study that might help you too.


Don't get down on yourself.  Take a step back, review the things you got wrong and begin again.  You only fail, when you don't keep trying.  There is nothing wrong with not passing on the first try.  You can't judge yourself by looking at others, they are completely different people than you are.  


 


 

Posted on July 20, 2010 at 8:49 am
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Oh No!!!!!!!  This reminds me of a chain email I was sent today.......


It was a pic of a lone sperm...it said, "Whenever you are feeling dumb, stupid or slow, just remember you were the fastest little sperm out of the pack & here you are today!"


I know, it's silly, but please don't feel down. 


Nobody can make you feel inferior, only you can.  So, stop it!  Take a break, have some fun, get your mind off things.


Is there someone who can give you some tips, pointers, tutoring?  Maybe a professor?


Chin up & I will be thinking of you :)

Posted on July 20, 2010 at 8:49 am
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Oh no hun, I'm so sorry you feel this way!  I have to take certification tests too, and I know that I can walk into an exam knowing the material like the back of my hand.  Then I get there, and the nerves start and I start second guessing myself.  Studying and the actuality of the test aren't always the same - there are so many nerves when it comes to the actual test! 


On that note, my advise would be to try to put everything else on the back burner for a few weeks before your next opportunity.  And actually do it!  It's a lot easier to say it then to do it.  Stay calm, study, study, study, and then go into your test without any expectations.  If you pass - great, and if you don't -that's fine too!  We often pressure ourselves too much. 


Don't worry about anyone else, don't worry about anything else - you will pass.  I wonder if you could get some 'calming' pills from your doctor before you go in, it might help your nerves when you walk in the room.


Good luck - and you are NOT stupid!! 

Posted on July 20, 2010 at 9:07 am
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The test is only offered twice a year, so my next chance isn't until October. I guess this is good since it will give me some time to wrap my head around the whole thing and boost myself up a bit. 


Thanks ladies. You totally made me feel better. Im going to not think about it for a few weeks and then plan my attack! Thanks for your support and kind words!


xoxo

Posted on July 20, 2010 at 4:43 pm

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