oh snap dirty! you go!
I have to firstly give kudos to your man Dirty, because he is decent & trustworthy. The fact that it mattered enough to him, to bring it to your attn. says alot about his character (of course you already know this)...but so many people in general are shady & try to bury things thinking that "what the other person dosen't know, wont hurt them". As for this skank trik, she really needs to lose his #, speak to you as a friend & a woman & totally back off. It is not only inappropriate for her to contact him (especially knowing how you feel), but it is disrespectful. I am proud of you for standing your ground. When you're a real friend, you keep your word. Period.
Am I missing the beginning of this story? Your MOH is texting you man??? Did something happen in the past?
what's wrong with her?? I mean if you told her before you didn't like her texting or calling him, she should have erased his number from her phone! period!
I wouldn't feel comfortable having her in my wedding. I mean this is about marriage and love and respect and trust, and if she can't be trusted with your man, why is she standing by your side? I don't know....something to think about. So sorry d1rty!
Just to play devil's advocate here a bit, she is probably kind of hurt that you don't trust her to talk to your FI given that she is your MOH. That being said, if you two have already had that conversation about her staying away from him, then she clearly knows what she is like and has accepted how you feel (I mean, she agreed to be in your wedding and all) so I think you were justified in having an issue with her. BUT, I think you need to call her and discuss things, I think texting is kind of a cop out, espeically considering you are both adults and it is a serious issue. Even an email would be better (a better paper trail than a text too).
I think that there is a reason you have her as your MOH and you should talk to her to get to the bottom of, what sounds to be, a long-running serious problem. I wouldn't put it off any longer. You are in the right though, so stand your ground (calmly). Good luck!!
I totally understand you. I had a friend like that and we are no longer friendsds because she couldn't back off my FI. She used to go around telling everyone that he had settled for me because he couldn't have her. Well the truth is he could've had her if he wanted but he didn't. You should really think about her standing up there with you on your day. If she can't respect your wishes I really don't think she deserves the honor of standing with you on your day.
I actually "had" a friend just like her (your friend probably wasnt this bad). We hung tough & experienced our lil kim episodes back in the day together, which were completely pre-FI. I knew she was a flirt by nature, & she was extremely open with herself. I loved her sense of humor, but one night she crossed the line at a cookout we threw together. My 'man friend' (pre fiance) came out to hang with us, & I happened to walk down the hallway & see her whispering in his ear. Now, a whisper is a whisper, but in this particular case, it looked way too comfortable. I cant explain it, but her body language was very intimate, & if you cant do that kind of whisper with your grandma, dont do it with my potential man! Im not a naturally insecure person, but I have my moments. That was not the issue at hand, because my stomach instantly notted up, & it's like that whoop azz radar went off. I liked him so much, & I was disappointed with her. I went to the bathroom, & out of frustration, I just teared up & sat up on the sink (I dont know the logic). A few weeks later that guy texted me asking me about u doing a 3some. Ummm, hellz to the no. It made me completely look at him way differently.. It was 'little things' after that...we'd conveniently run into each other all at the same time, he'd invite 'us' to parties. I started to back away from both of them & lost their trust. Bad thing about it is that I worked in the same office with her, so she'd always come by my desk. My Fiance also worked there. We were friends at the time, & once we started dating, she upped the ante & was on him. I snapped that realy quick & let him know the deal. He'd better leave it alone. So after this novel (so sorry), I said all this to say, that yes...I know what its like to have a friend who you absolutely love, & who you enjoy spending time with & who youd do anything for, but seems to have a man-o-meter in them that just makes dumb moves. I know. You & I both have wonderful men, so just know that he wont let anything go but so far, & she may just get embarrased & shut down in front of everyone. Continue to handfle your business, & I pray that she'll get the real message & lay off before she loses a wonderful friend in you guys.
D1rty - i totally understand you...I trust my man, not the women. My bf from alifetime ago - slept with my ex-fi. She was totally jealous, envious, etc and he was insecure and loved that he was wanted by someone else. And..she was the kind to just sleep around. She slept with 3 married men that we used to work with, she joined the army and slept with the recruiting officers...just very insecure. They were perfect for each other!
My situation is the restaurant owners daughter always used to text my FI in middle of night, etc etc. and I told him point blank, if I don't know about them, then they don't know about me. I don't care if you have friends (girl) they just need to know who I am, meet me and have a lil respect....
Tell your FI to block her number - that should solve it for the time being. :)
Seems like this is not the type of thing you need in your life, or your wedding. I mean, if no one's husband is safe at your reception, I think you need to nix the homewrecker from your wedding. If she is screening your calls, just be like, "fine, we are done. Peace." I would send her an email explaining that her immaturity and lack of respect for you is not something you can handle in your life and you wish her the best. I don't know. If you can't trust her with your man, can you really trust her with your life?
wow. sounds like.. my sis. muahahaa =X
sounds bad.. but its sadly true. sorry you hafta go through all this dirty. thats some jerry springer shit. LOL
XOXOXOX hope it all works out
WOW!!! I can't believe she didn't respect you and your friendship enough to stop texting him. You don't need someone like that in your life.
She needs to get a dictonary and look up the word boundaries. She needs a reality check.
I'm a little late to this party but I always correspond independently with my friend's husbands (if they are friends with me too, I don't have close relationships with all my friend's significant others). No one has ever indicated it's a problem. Is their some bad history? Maybe she shouldn't be so involved in your lives anymore if it's going to cause problems. It's a tough call but only you know what is comfortable for the two of you.
Wow...I HATE HOMEWRECKERS!!! Nothing else pisses me off as bad as girls like that do. I'm sorry you're having to deal with that crap.
I'm 100% with Kohler on this one. If you don't trust her, then she's no friend to you. Friends are supposed to be the ones that you value and trust and won't screw you over. If you even have a slight feeling that she might do any of those, you don't need her in your life. People like that are just a waste of energy. Turn the page girl...
I agree with KOHLER!