NWR: Neighbors - Upstairs

Okay - I am sitting here with the volume on my T.V blasted, my ITUNES blasted...


New neighbors have moved in at the beginning of the month, they are really nice, have two kids - 3yr old and 7 months.  We live in a very old house, which I am thinking there is like NO INSULATION between floors, which means I hear EVERYTHING.  Prior to me blasting my music - I was listening to 10 minutes of running & jumping (hard) back and forth of the entire livingroom/bedroom (of my floor). 


I don't want to be "that neighbor", but I can't deal with it.  I have noise issues where I can't tune stuff out and I don't want to have to leave my house, but I also don't want to be "that neighbor"....


Does anyone have any suggestions??  I know I am going to have to say something if I can't deal, but what do I say!?!?!?!? 


TIA!

Posted on July 11, 2008 at 12:24 pm
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haha.. i feel your pain..


my neighbors are either yeliing at each other so loud i call the cops, or they are having sex soooooooooooooooo loud i cant take it!


 


i always run up, knock on their door hella loud and run away... makes the noise stop for a  while..


 


talk to your land lord

Posted on July 11, 2008 at 12:29 pm
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Hmm, how about you bring them cookies to welcome them (kill them with kindness) and then mention nicely that the walls here are super thin and if they could keep the kids from running and jumping to a minimal. Geesh, I'm really bad at this!! Haha, I don't know what I would even do in your situation!

Posted on July 11, 2008 at 12:29 pm
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thanks iklein - its just me & them....:)


sandp09 - my FI thinks I am nuts (but seriously I have a hugh noise issue and I can't block crap out!!!)  It's bad.. I mean my cats are constantly looking up at the ceiling - and forget about when they roll stuff around on the floor hahahah..


check this (its not gross, but I had to put a spin of humor on it!) - so...the old neighbors that lived here had a 2 year old boy and in the mornings, when I would get up and go to the bathroom (pee & then start shower) I could hear the dad and his son..."Onnnnnneeeeee, Twwwwoooooooo, Threeeeeeeeeee, Yay!!!!!...and I would laugh, so I was telling my mom about it and said while their counting 1, 2, & 3, I'm going 1 &2.... - Sorry! ahhahahah

Posted on July 11, 2008 at 12:34 pm
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Well, to be honest, I'm not sure you should complain about noise in the middle of the day, if it is in the evening or early morning, then I think you have a valid complaint. If you work from home, try some noise cancelling headphones (I love Ultimate Ears). Maybe do like SandP said and take up cookies and see if you can see if they have thick carpets on their floors, if not, maybe talk to your landlord about insisting that the people put thick carpets down to muffle the noises. Sorry. Loud neighbors are a huge bummer

Posted on July 11, 2008 at 12:37 pm
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I have issues with noise too, (I sleep with earplugs) and I can't imagine what it's like dealing with the noise. But at the same time, what can your neighbor do? Kids will be kids and Mom or Dad can't keep them strapped down all day.


My BFF is currently on the other end of this dilemma. They moved into an upstairs apartment and they have a 2 year old. Their downstairs neighbor works from home and has complained repeatedly that it sounds like train is running through the apartment whenever their toddler is running around... and since he's 2, it's alot. He also pounds on his ceiling whenever the 2 year old has a tantrum. It totally sucks because my BFF is looking for a job and they'll put the toddler in day care when she gets a job, but until then, she's home with the kid... and she can't do laundry or vacuum during the day because it pisses off the downstairs neighbor. The last time he complained, she actually told him, "why don't you ask my son to be quiet, see if it works. He's 2 for goodness sake." He doesn't complain anymore, instead he's just become to guy who pounds on the ceiling from time to time.


I know it's probably not what you wanted to hear, but sometimes you just have deal with it the best you can. Perhaps do what SandP09 mentioned and bring over some cookies and introduce yourself. Mention that the sound insulation is terrible in the house and it gets pretty loud when the kids are running around. It can be a friendly way to let them know, "I can totally hear you!"


Good luck!


 

Posted on July 11, 2008 at 12:38 pm
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Its 7:30 here in NJ - and it goes on until 930....so it's definitely not the day...and its SUMMER, so just imagine during the winter when its too cold out for them to play...


We do plan on having a little bbq and invite them down - like I said they haven't been here a month, so ringing their doorbell and saying hey can u kick it down a notch is something I want to avoid (but also being the a-hole neighbor blaring music lol)...


Abatty - definitely get your point that's why I feel bad...ya dig?  They are kids! :) it is just the constant bam, bam, bam, bam, jump jump jump jump, I'd have to go outside or leave but anywhoo...


I'm a good neighbor, I looked up train schedules for him to get back into the city and told him garbage days, etc (when I moved here my neighbors never told us jack) lol


Thanks all - I guess this is more of a frustrated vent :)

Posted on July 11, 2008 at 12:41 pm
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I agree with Sandp also.  As the mother of small boys I know how hard it is to keep them quiet.  My downstairs neighbors are not home during the day so I don't really have to woory about the noise but once it's 6pm we walk don't run.  Maybe you can let her know that you need to get some work done and you need it to be a little more quiet during certain hours.  Sorry, I really don't know what to say.

Posted on July 11, 2008 at 12:43 pm
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ok, well it sounds like you are doing the right thing by being nice. I would highly suggest you check into their carpet situation, a thick rug can really make a huge difference

Posted on July 11, 2008 at 12:43 pm
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mrs carlo - very good...! I'm gonna wait until I "see them" in passing rather than knock - maybe that way it wont be so "bitchy" hahaha....

Posted on July 11, 2008 at 12:46 pm
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You are already being nice about the whole situation so it will get resolved you'll see.  Let me know what happens.

Posted on July 11, 2008 at 1:14 pm
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I would call your landlord and ask him not to rent to people with children... its ok. you have been there longer and that's the way it is. It is sooooo hard to tell the kids they can not walk with a bounce or they have to walk softly, don't run, the neighbor is sleeping, the neighbor is working. Be quiet honey.. It's like every minute they forget and are all bubbly and expressive and happy or expressive and angry... I stayed in a situation like yours for 3 weeks at Christmas time and I had to tell my kids to be quiet every minute, I could not wash the dishes or go the bathroom with out my little one in my arms. I had to shut myself in our room and not use the rest of the house so as to not disturb our neighbor. She is a radio DJ, out late and sleeps till after noon. I love her. She is soooo sweet. Just needs her sleep. Drove me crazy!!! We still live on the same property and she is close by, but our floor is our floor... We share the back yard and the kids now know they can only be in the back when she is at work. It's hard thought bcz my girls were sick with a breathing issue for almost 2 months and would wake up in breathing attacks in the middle of the night and it disturbed her. She had no idea what we were going through. Our landlord did and was fine with her complaints. I just want her to have her peace. She has been here for 4 years and we have only been here for 6 months. Good luck. In all fairness I think your land lord has no right to rent to families with young children when you are next store and so close!!!

Posted on July 11, 2008 at 5:00 pm
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Sunset -check this....before they moved in - my FI was outside getting our paper and the lords were there...and so he asked which couple did they go with (hoping that they went with the ones that he saw-young, cool, like us)...but they said no, they rented to a couple that was moving out of the city and had two kids and then said jokingly (i hope) "we told them that you guys were great babysitters".   I was soooo pissed when I heard that - (windows were open). 


I read your post and that sucks to have to live like that, tip toeing and watching every single move. 
I've decided what to do - when I do run into them...strike up convo and just somehow mention that these floors are really thin, and if it is possible to put a rug down, b/c every single sound echos down here...or something to that nature!

Posted on July 12, 2008 at 3:23 am

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