nwr: no sex anymore....

Does any one have any advice, i am 7 months pregnat with my 3rd baby, first one is not my dh, second and third are. My second pregnancy was high risk, we could not have sex for a while. This pregnancy so far is going great, meaning that i dont have any restriction on sex, problem is dh dont see interested in having sex with me. He says i should rest and take it easy because i am pregnant, he dont even want to touch my belly( he says he gets nervous) he is excited with the baby, but the sex, touching etc is not there. I feel sad and abandoned because of his attitude. I guess my hormones are a little crazy right now. I want more sex, he does not. Our sex life was great,  now is not existent.

Posted on November 24, 2012 at 12:55 pm
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Congrats on your pregnancy going great! I dont have any advice for you but when are you due? You should come over to the 2013 baby bumps group, mamas there may be able to help you 

Posted on November 24, 2012 at 12:57 pm
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Ah I'm sorry to hear this!! I agree with clipscomb, maybe talking to other 2013 mom-to-be's could help you. You also might try posting in the DTD group- the ladies there may be better suited to address this topic. 


Good luck dear!!

Posted on November 24, 2012 at 1:03 pm
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Congrats on your pregnancy! Just think of it from his point of view- since you had a high risk pregnancy before, he is probably worried that he may have done something wrong/could do something wrong. It is very hard to worry about your parnet, and potentially hurting them/you baby. He is probably doing this out of respect for you, not because he is feeling unattracted to you, kwim?


Maybe talk to him about how you are feeling, but wait until you are calm to speak to him about it. sometimes we can confront a situation in the heat of the moment and get nothing done because we feel confrontational, creating a confrontation. <3 I hope you guys can talk about it and come to a happy medium!


 

Posted on November 24, 2012 at 1:53 pm
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I have 3 living children and I was high risk for baby number 1. Lost baby 3 and then Ricky came after a minor hospital stay, but I was never told not to have sex while pregant with him and I can tell you that High risk does scare guys.


However, if he is not interested in sex with you while expecting you should talk to him about it.


Ask him what he is scared about?


Ask him to look at you completely naked and have him tell you what he likes and does not like. This can be an issue for some guys. You may need to be strong while he talks about his feelings because this may be hard to hear.


If he does not like the look of how your body has changed you could leave on your baby-doll or Cami while you are intimate.


Then take him to the dr's with you to talk about positions.They are used to this sort of conversation and he/she can allay any fears.


To be blunt it does become difficult with the "bump", but if you can be on your sides, you will find that works great and the guy is not worried about hurting the baby because there is no weight on the baby at all.


If you would like to talk please feel to PM me and I will be glad to talk to you about all of this.


 

Posted on November 25, 2012 at 3:42 am

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