NWR- really upset!
LONG! Sorry! I really needed to let it out- thanks girls...
My father is 60 and has lived in the Bronx his entire life.. He has reached the point in his life that we need to sell the house we grew up in and get him out of the city. He has a lot of health problems and I want this to be as easy for him (emotionally and financially) as possible. Hes worked for the city for 30 years and they're screwing him over for his pension etc so were contacting lawyers. Aside from other health problems his body just doesn't work anymore (cant walk, stubborn and wont get a cane). This is such a hard thing for him to deal with as his baby (me) is getting married, his eldest just announced shes having her first baby this July and hes leaving the house we always lived in.. also hes doing this without my mother who died 13 years ago. I know its just emotionally too much for him and I want this to be as easy as possible.
Thank god for my FI because he has really helped in terms of contacting realtors, helping clean out the house (and my fathers a hoarder so its just overwhelming) and talking to lawyers to help my father. Im blessed. BUT MY SISTER IS BEING COMPLETELY USELESS! Its like the only thing that matters is her husband and the impending baby- which i know is a HUGE deal and im really psyched but we need to focus on my dad now! She's not involving herself in contacting anyone, she's not asking for information as things happen and she almost seems bothered that dad needs help at all.
Granted, its never been easy as my father has as many emotional probs as physical but he has always loved us and been there when he could and deserves help. Instead she is not calling me to get updates and even complaining about decisions that FI and I have to make without her.
Now the biggest problem is that Im trying to find a place that he can be happy and safe- no house because then he would have to shovel and mow, no townhouse because it cant have stairs etc. My sister lives in Rockland county (Im in NYC) and wants him out there but there are NO places that are one floor (even condo's have stairs). She's killing me here because all she's doing is complaining and presenting more hurdles without offering solutions. I just don't know how to deal with her when theres so much on my plate too..