% of guests invited vs. actual attendance?

What is the percentage of guests invited vs the number of actual guests that rsvp and show up? Is it 30% of guests invited do not attend?

Any insight is appreciated!!

Thanks!
Posted on January 25, 2008 at 3:42 pm
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That's what my site coordinator said. I think it depends largely on the size of the guest list. We are having a smaller wedding so its likely that 95% of those invited will show since we're closer to everyone! Because of this, and the site having a strict cap, I'm having to send invites in waves. Like the first wave, wait for RSVP's and then the second wave, then the third, etc etc.
Posted on January 25, 2008 at 4:42 pm
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Thank you so much! We're pretty much in the same boat and ideally would like to keep the guest count to 80 people. I just put together the list and there's 125 people but 30% are out of state. So I'm trying to estimate who will actually come for our August wedding.

Did you do STDs? I'm hoping that when I send them out people will know right away if they can't go and tell me right away. :) How far in advance are you sending your first set, second set, etc?

Thank you again!
Posted on January 25, 2008 at 5:00 pm
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We sent our STDs in December for our wedding at the end of May. About half of our invitees are out of town but we sent STDs to everybody. So far, we've heard from a couple of people who know for sure they can't come, but we are still in the dark with respect to most others.

We want to keep the wedding to 120 and we sent out STDs for 150 people. We'll probably send as many invitations (we're working on it as I write!), but we also have a back up list of names in case too many people tell us they can't come.
Posted on January 25, 2008 at 5:13 pm
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It's so funny how we have different tiers or waves of invites! If our guests only knew! ahaha!
Posted on January 25, 2008 at 5:50 pm
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I had a DW and invited 68 guests, 21 attended. I think 25-30% is about right for non-DW events.
Posted on January 25, 2008 at 7:17 pm
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Well my first wave is 60, the cap for the facility. The second wave is another 30 but they are ordered so as I get a "no" I'm sending out people from the second wave. We have a "DW" to a resort in the South so I'm not sure if we'll get the same returns as Loridecter, I'm thinking people are probably more able to get to the South than Hawaii? I'm sending STD for people in the first wave about 8 mos in advanced. I'm doing this particularly for people who have crazy, fast track type jobs and international guests in particular. Most people say 6 mos I believe but I think the international guests will need a little more time, esp to sort out visas etc.
Posted on January 26, 2008 at 1:14 am
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i know some of my friends are not really religious and dont understand the catholic mass "what's with all the standing sitting and kneeling??" i'm like - sh!t just follow everyone else - it's only 45 minutes!


for previous brides who had a church ceremony - if the ceremony is at church, are more people likely to show up at only the reception???
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 3:47 am
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It has been my experience at other family members weddings that people don't really show up to the church. We are expecting a small turn out at the ceremony. Which really sucks because that should be the main focus of the day not the party. But I guess most people just want to party!
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 4:24 am
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free meal and dancing!! cheapasses!! hahahahahaah

keeeding i'm keeeeeding!!
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 4:28 am
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Ha!Ha! We think alike!!!
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 4:31 am
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i ownder if there's a way to "make" all the people sit towards the front of the church - i hate when everyone is spread out in a big church and it looks like nobody's there... i know i'm wierd like that...
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 5:47 am
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Dirty, thats what the ushers are for... forcing those peeps to sit where YOU want them to!
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 6:07 am
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It's so true, most people don't attend the ceremony but only come for the reception. Like d1rty said, free food and more importantly, free alcohol!! haha
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 10:13 am
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haha, a handful of our invited guests seriously made me feel like they were just there for the food and party. one of them said her dad's birthday was that same weekend and she wasn't sure if she was going to come or not. then asked if there were going to be any cute single guys there, to which i said not that many, and she responded with "might as well stay home then". joking of course, but who says that??

anywayss.... i probably invited 180 and 140 is coming.
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 10:45 am
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too bad pw doesnt have emoticons or whatever theyre called - what's the face for "omfg" - kittnmouse - that's cuh-rayzay---who says that??
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 10:50 am
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lol seriously. this is the same gal who didn't respond by the rsvp deadline so i IM'd her online asking if she was going to come. she said she had to ask her mom if they had any plans for their dad's birthday and would email me that nite. UMMM... that was a month ago, my wedding's next weekend, and i still haven't heard from her haha. ANYHOOOOOO... life is grand. the thing i love about weddings is that you see who your true friends are.
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 10:58 am
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We had a DW with about 70 people. A lot more people ended up making it than we thought, which was awesome... (from the planning standpoint, we didn't have any hard limits on # of guests we could fit). Other factors to consider are how easy difficult it will be for guests to get there. If the wedding is on a Friday night and people will have to take off work to drive/fly, then you will get less. If it's a holiday or three-day weekend, you may get more. :)

A lot of our responses didn't come until last minute... so be careful with the sending in waves thing if you're really limited on space!
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 2:41 pm

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