OMG I am stressed!

Yesterday my FI and I went to the airport to pick up my mom and I thought he knew how to get there.  He didn't and of course we got into a big argument about why I didn't map quest it . Why didn't he tell me he didn't know where it was at! Typical man! Ugh! Before we went to the airport I wanted to go to IKEA to get candles for the wedding (they were on sale). It was on our way there .Then we get lost because I told him the wrong exit . I admit I am bad at directions! Then leaving the damn store we take the wrong freeway exit  and end up going over the Bay Bridge going towards San Francisco when we were suppose to go to the Oakland airport which is in the opposite direction ! ALSO I forgot to mention when we were at IKEA I realize my bank card is missing ! By this point I wanted to jump off the bridge! Anyways long story short we picked up my mom not too late and I found my card at home in a pair of pants I wore the day before. Fi and I weren't mad at each other anymore, I just had to vent


Oh yeah and on our way there we talked about pre marital counseling and he said " Why do we need it marriage isn't gonna be any different than being a couple. Why do we need counseling we are not having problems." I was so pissed ! I knew he would be closed minded about it. Why are men so afraid of anything with the word counseling in it?!!!!!!!!!! 

Posted on August 14, 2008 at 3:47 am
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sorry christine! glad its all cooled off now!


as for fiance not wanting to do the courses, just say "its cheap and it really helps us learn how to never get divorced!" maybe that'll work? say it could only help not hurt. my fiance was kind of dreading them actually because we were doing it through the church but after the first class he was SO EXCITED and wanted to do our "homework" right away! it made me feel so freakin happy! bug him to do it even if he doesnt want to!

Posted on August 14, 2008 at 3:57 am
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I think they avoid it because then they will be told they are wrong by a professional. That sucks, navigating is so so sooooooooo stressful. When FI and I first started dating, we fought EVERY time he drove somewhere! He drives like a grandpa and I definitely dont. But as long as you guys got over it. That is the important part. Sounds like you had a stressful day!

Posted on August 14, 2008 at 4:39 am
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Aww bummer!  I am a terrible navigator as well...even when I print directions...even when we have our GPS navigator on...


"Counseling" definitely has a negative connotation for some - it can sound like "fixing."  I think it can be valuable to help define expectations and get you thinking about challenges couples face as families so that you are prepared. 


I think the best way to get your man to go if you really want this is NOT to try to convince him of the benefits of counseling.  I would just acknowledge how he feels about counseling (so he knows you're listening to him), but then put on your best "please, honey?" face and just tell him it's important to YOU and that you'd really appreciate him doing this for/with you.  That way, it's no longer an issue about who is wrong or right about counseling, and more of an issue of whether he can do this teensy tiny widdle thing for you that would make you happy lol.


Good luck!

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ohhh excellent approach JD! do that christine! haha.

Posted on August 14, 2008 at 4:51 am
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Great advice ladies! Yea I don't know if the whining would work too well, but I will give it a try!!! I'll have to find out if his mom's church where we're getting married at has a class. Wish me luck.

Posted on August 14, 2008 at 5:48 am
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Good luck, Christine!  No need to whine - just ask rationally and nicely...and look cute hahah :)

Posted on August 14, 2008 at 6:10 am

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