omg, im going to die

ok so not literally, but, I feel like it.


 So we went to engaged encounters (precanna) for our church and one of the things they talked about over the weekend was abstaining from now till marriage. Its about showing that your love is based on actual love and not just sex. And that if, god forbid, something happen and the other person couldnt have sex-like paralysis- the marriage will still work out. Or that if the sex started laking that the other person wouldnt cheat on you.


 So jokingly we said we'd do it. I really didnt think we would, but now FI is all into it. I tried to get him to tonight and he put his foot down. hes serious. I have 3 months left will the wedding. I mean, of course Im going to do it, but OMG, I might explode. and btw- your not allowed to please yourself either, bc thats concidered sex

Posted on February 11, 2010 at 10:03 pm
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Ridiculous. It makes sense, honestly, but still ridiculous...

Posted on February 12, 2010 at 2:52 am
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I would die. Or be a completely, utterly, and absolutely heinous wench until my wedding.


 


ETA: I understand, and I am completely supportive of it, if that's what you want to do...I would just MISS IT.

Posted on February 12, 2010 at 5:23 am
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day 1- I think my eyebrow is twiching....

Posted on February 12, 2010 at 5:34 am
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OMG..they really bring that up? We are signed up for June....I don't wanna gooooo!

Posted on February 12, 2010 at 5:40 am
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HELL to the N -O....wouldn't happen!! Or at least it wouldn't last for a day! And just to think FI is thinking of signing us up!! HAHAHA the joke would so be on him!!

Posted on February 12, 2010 at 6:19 am
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Do they expect you to go along with this?? Are there couples that don't?! 


 


OMG I want to be prepared so I know how to reply hahaha

Posted on February 12, 2010 at 9:16 am
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I disagree. If (God forbid) something *were* to happen down the road, you need to start stocking up on sex now! Then you'll have lots of fun "remember whens" to look back on. ;-)

Posted on February 12, 2010 at 1:31 pm
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HAHAHA! I like kalenalena's answer!

Posted on February 12, 2010 at 1:48 pm
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Eff that.  I did my time, and God knows that. :P

Posted on February 12, 2010 at 1:53 pm
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I'm pretty sure I would die if I couldn't relieve stress at all!!

Posted on February 12, 2010 at 11:54 pm
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Holy to the cow!!!!! I would also shrivel up slowly into a raisin and become very twitchy and AAAAAAG!  How are you going to get through this!!!

Posted on February 13, 2010 at 12:26 am
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If we did this, (7 months till our wedding) I would probablly just go into a corner and curl up into a ball....


 

Posted on February 13, 2010 at 3:06 am
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The weekend was great. Dont be scared about going at all. Its emotionally exahusted though. They talk on a subject for about 20 minutes, then you write on it in seperate rooms, then come together and discuss it. Every possible thing you can think of. from 8am till 11pm at night. It was pretty cool though. You can see how close you really are. (esp compared to some of the other couples there) we actually had one couple leave, bc once they started reading each others answers, realized they didnt want the same things at all!!


 Its not mandatory, but they do ask you to abstain. Thank God Were at the 90 day mark. lol. Well see how this goes or how long it lasts..

Posted on February 13, 2010 at 1:07 pm
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We did ours last month and our wedding is in April. That issue was brought up at our encounter and we said we would do it but failed...a few times. They didn't impose it on us or anything though so you don't have anything to worry about ShawnaLynn! It was overall a great experience. We didn't want to go either, especially FI cause he's not even Catholic, but just have an open mind. It's the only time you will be in a room with 25 other couples who are going through the same exact crap you are dealing with so take advantage and make new friends!

Posted on February 13, 2010 at 7:28 pm
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Uh oh- we have our engaged encounter march 6-7. I hope my FI doesnt get on that train I dont think I could hold out until Sept.

Posted on February 14, 2010 at 6:02 am
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I see the point...BUT were you and the FI doing it 24 hours a day and never talking or doing anything else?  I don't know you, but my guess is no.  I would imagine that if you are getting married there is something OTHER THAN sex there!  haha - 3 months is WAAAAAAAAAAAAAY too long!!!!!!!!!


I can promise that we won't do it the night before...but only because we are staying two different places :)

Posted on February 14, 2010 at 12:38 pm
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Okay, I can kind of see where they're coming from.  Not that it's for me, but I've got an open mind.  That being said, I don't understand why you can't pleasure youself...If the unthinkable were to happen, and one of you were unable to perform either, a: it's you, and then hey, does it really matter?  You're incapable (as harsh as that sounds). Or b: it's him, and your arms still work.  So I think you should be able to access your own pleasure without it being considered sex, and therefore 'taboo'.

Posted on February 14, 2010 at 12:51 pm
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whoooooa!!! i'd be able to abstain from sex...maybe. But no masturbateing??? HELL NO!

Posted on February 14, 2010 at 2:57 pm
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What????  Why can't you "please yourself"???  That is not fair.  We're planning on abstaining from each other, but you better believe I'm going to be hooking myself up :)

Posted on February 15, 2010 at 1:50 am
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idk why I have to forgo pleasing myself, but OBVS I cant do that. hell its only been 2 weeks, and we almost broke down today. I think were going to try the everything But route. lol. (Im weak, what can I say)

Posted on February 15, 2010 at 12:56 pm
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