Parents/In-laws

How do your parents and in-laws react to and deal with your choice to wait or abstain from having kids?


My parents are completely accepting (my side of the family aren't really "kid" people). Nobody has once asked me when I'm going to make them a grandbaby or whatev.


My ILs... I'm not sure. They seem ok with it... Nod, smile, etc. But secretly, I think it upsets my MIL... And I think the rest of his family just think we're weird. Oh well.

Posted on February 11, 2011 at 7:27 am
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Both sets of our parents seem pretty ok about it. I told my parents recently that we didn't want to have kids for a good while and they were a bit confused and apparently didn't know that we would want to wait, but they were fine with it. As for the in laws, they always say they're far too young to have grandbabies yet, which is a-okay with me!

Posted on September 8, 2011 at 11:29 am
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Let me preface this by saying that DH and I are both only children...


That being said, my parents both want us to wait at least a couple years so that we enjoy married life and build a sizable bank account. (They waited six years after they were married to have me, so that says something.) I told them that I really don't want any (DH wants one in about two-three years), and my mum is totally on board. My father would like a grandkid, but he's not at all pushy and will still be happy if it doesn't happen.


MIL - well, MIL is obsessed with babies and told me before we were even engaged that she wants six grandchildren. DH was the miracle baby (they had major fertility issues that I've heard about length :/ Ugh), and she wants tons of next generations to make up for it. She used to bring it up constantly, but now that we're married, I don't hear it as often. I also don't talk to her as often, so maybe that's the reason ;)

Posted on September 12, 2011 at 5:51 am
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my step-mom started asking before we got married, an then asked every time we talked after we got married i finally had to put her in her place it was annoying as all hell, i mean she would make fb post to the extent of wanting grandbabies, now she doesnt say zip


mil - totally understands


fil- started asking before the wedding


my mother an father think we are wise to wait , enjoy ourselves


i just dont see what the rush is , i see alot of girls saying they want kids right away , im just not so sure everyone thinks about the total concept


we can wait 3 to 5 years for real

Posted on September 20, 2011 at 7:05 am
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