picking bridesmaids can be hard! HELP!

So, I have three older sisters. They are much older than me (I am 24 and My oldest sister is 39 ) It has always been assumed that my sisters would all be in my wedding since I was in all of theirs. I know this sounds pettie but its frustrating that all our groomsmen are going to be young and then my BM are all older I feel like they wont look right walking down the aisle together. Im not very close with my sister either and have friends Id rather have in the wedding but dont want a million bridesmaids. Ive talked to my mom about not having my sisters and she said it would hurt to many feelings, Im a people pleaser I cant stand people being upset with me.
So do I tell my sisters they cant be in the wedding and just try to get over my guilt or suck it up and just have them in the wedding? what would you do? 
sorry this is so long! thanks in advance for any advicve!

Posted on December 29, 2013 at 8:52 pm
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KimandByron
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Thats a hard decision you are faced with. First off people dont care that your bridesmaids are older than the groomsmen. With that being said it is your day so in the end do what you want. I would speak to your sisters and see if they are even interested in being part of the bridal party. I have 5 sisters and I dont speak to two of them and am not close to 2 of them. The one sister I am close to is my Matron.of Honor. I have twin daughters that will almost be 20 when I get married so they are also in my bridal party as well as my step daughter to be. I have never even thought about the ages of our wedding party
Posted on December 30, 2013 at 12:09 am
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This is tough. If I could go back and choose my BP all over, I would chose only family. Not saying that's the way to go for everyone, but in the end my family is there for one another (even if sometimes we aren't that close) while friends come and go.  I would think on it before making an major decisions and promising spots to anyone. Maybe you can find others ways to include your sisters? If it's a chuirch wedding maybe a reading or bringing up the gifts? Maybe you have a super organized sister who can help be your planner? Good luck!

Posted on December 30, 2013 at 8:55 am
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Since I only have one sister and shes 8 years younger than me she was my jr bridesmaid. I had 2 really good friends, my SIL, and 2 friends I barely speak too now. (one them I dont speak to at all anymore) 

I believe alot of things change after the wedding. With friends, etc. I dont regret having them in my wedding because they are my really good friends - just wish I would of kept it smaller since I had a small wedding.

 

 

Let me also throw in there, I am a people pleaser. I hate having drama, or someone mad/upset with me. But remember this is your wedding. You have whoever you want as your BM's. Like Nicole said, there are other ways you could include your sisters. 

Posted on December 30, 2013 at 9:13 am
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 I would definitely speak to you sisters. I assumed that my sister (7 years older than me) would be my MOH but when we told her that we'd set a date one of the first things she said was 'don't be offended but I don't want to be in your wedding - I'll help you in any way you need me but I'm not comfortable being part of it'. It might be that your sisters feel the same

Posted on December 30, 2013 at 10:30 am
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 Sadly I might be in the same boat as you. My brother-in-love has a girl who is allegedly  expecting to be a bridesmaid. Not to sound harsh but I have no desire to have her in my wedding. She is a very jealous person but that is another post that might happen closer to my wedding remix.  Just talk to them.  That is what I plan on doing. Just remember that it is your big day in the end. 

Posted on December 30, 2013 at 11:08 am
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 dag...thats kind of ruff. but age shouldn't make a difference. if thats the only reason you wouldn't want your sisters, I dont think that a good reason. Everybody usually looks gorg during weddings so its nothing a lil makeup cant help.

 

Posted on December 31, 2013 at 10:35 am

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