Poll: Relationship Dealbreakers

We all know that marriage is nothing to take lightly, and we all go into it believing we will be with that person forever. And even though many say divorce is not an option, most of us do have some absolute dealbreakers. Do you? If so, what are yours?

Cheating? If so, is cheating once a dealbreaker, or does it have to happen multiple times for you to be unwilling to consider forgiveness?

Is lying (not about cheating) a dealbreaker?

Is drug use a dealbreaker? Drinking and driving?

Being convicted of a crime and going to prison? If so, is a white collar crime a dealbreaker, or just violent crime?

Obviously, you don't have to answer any of this, but we used to have discussions like this on PW, and it was great getting to see other people's thoughts on these things!

Posted on October 25, 2013 at 5:11 pm
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Canooknic
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 I had this conversation with my sister last week!

Cheating is an absolute deal breaker, no questions asked, one strike and you're out (she doesn't agree).

I've 'been there, done that' with my previous marriage and no amount of counselling could resolve it. I made sure DH knew my thoughts on it before we got together so he fully understood my feelings.  He doesn't think it would be a deal breaker for him, but he's also never been cheated on so has never dealt with that emotion!

His deal breaker is if I was ever abusive to our children. I would be out the door immediately (as would he be!)

Posted on October 25, 2013 at 5:35 pm
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krosa

 such a great question. 

for me cheating would be a deal breaker.

any verbal or physical abuse would be a deal breaker as well.

abuse of alcohol and drugs would be a hard thing.  i would say if he was working on getting help i would want a seperation, but wouldn't divorce unless he didn't really want help getting better.   

Posted on October 26, 2013 at 12:03 am
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Mine is abuse of any kind. I spent 17 years in a mental, physical and emotional abusive relationship and NEVER again. I wont tolerate cheating either.
Posted on October 26, 2013 at 1:01 am

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