POLL: What would you have done differently?

Marrieds: Now that the wedding is over...looking back...what would you have done differently?


I know we all loved our weddings, but use this as a tool to help out future brides! Certain things that we didn't think about before the wedding :)


Brides to be: What is something you are on the fence about? Or questioning?


Maybe we can help or shed some light :)


 

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 5:11 am
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Uhlease
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Let me get the bullet points. lol.



  • I would have negotiated with the venue to allow us to get there earlier to set up. Since we did pictures before the ceremony, we only had two hours to set up. NOT ENOUGH TIME. I forgot a lot of things b/c I couldn't be out there to see what was going on.

  • I would not have hired a florist. I loved what she did, but since I'm not picky, I could have easily saved $500 and just bought flowers from the store the day before or of. My parents offered to pay for the florist b/c my Mom knew I was going to get one so I agreed because it was really nice of them.

  • I wouldn't have left so much space in the photo guest book. People literally just sign their names. lol. We had space for people to write messages, but nobody really did. Now my photobook looks bare.

  • I'm sure there's more, but I can't think of anything else right now.


Obviously these are little things, no big deal! But just things to think about :D

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 5:18 am
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I would not have procrastinated so much. I was literally up at 3 a.m. wanting to vomit because I was still ironing out last minute plans. Do NOT be like me!


Oh, and in my procrastination and absentmindedness, I completely forgot to have my dress pressed/steamed. It wasn't super obvious, but still...I know when I look at those pictures, and I kick myself over it.


Otherwise, whatever choices you have made, embrace them and enjoy your day!

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 5:23 am
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The ONLY thing I would have done is made sure people left me to eat!!! I was SOO hungry, but we did table visits while the guests were eating- finally sat down, started eating, and my dad came over and told up everyone was getting bored and to move it along. TWO. FREAKING. BITES. of food I had planned on for a YEAR. :( I was so hungry that after the wedding, we went to to casino floor and I got a hot dog. :(

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 5:26 am
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20years ago i was told no white because I was expecting. i wish I had worn white.

I wish I had not had to leave for the hotel so soon after the ceremony. we did not even get to eat the food we had bought. It was just a one night thing.

i wish I had the bridal shower NOT for gifts, but to talk about what I should expect. we never talked about the important things like how to keep a marriage fresh and how to deal with the monthly issue.

just because I was expecting did not mean I was experienced.

now, when I am close to a bride to be I mention these and I print them up and people fill out Anonymous forms that the bride can read later.

now at 20 Years and the vow renewal I have post poned the Honeymoon we never had to this summer and we are not going anywhere after the reception.

Everything else will just be what it is. I mean after 3 dresses and a completely different color from what I had wanted I just want to have fun with the vows.

really the only thing that matters to me is hearing what he will say to me.
Posted on January 10, 2013 at 5:26 am
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A few things lol.


I wish I would've spent more and got a better photographer.


I wish we would've gotten a better DJ too.. ours stunk =(


I also wish I would've just taken a deep breath and relaxed at a few points. I was so nervous to walk down the aisle that I forgot to wait for the musicians to change songs, so my dad and I ended up standing at the end of the aisle with everyone watching while we waited lol. And I wish DH & I would've taken a few relaxing breaths before our first dance, which was a choreographed dance. We were so nervous that we ended up looking down a majority of the time! We worked so hard on it, so that was kinda disappointing; but it was still ours and unique and special, regardless :)

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 5:36 am
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I wish I would of gotten more pictures of me. I mean I have ALOT of pictures of me but alot of them are manly the same pose, so really I didn't as many as I would of liked too.


Also I think I would of went with a different hairstyle. I still would of done it to the side but maybe should of done something different besides curls. My hair was losing curls before the ceremony even started. But it still looked good.


Wish I could of gotten in the photobooth more. Damn it, that was too much fun! Lol

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 6:27 am
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*I would have spent the extra money for another hour of our reception


*I LOVED our photographers, but I HATE that we have no pics of the groomsmen. There were only 2 of them, and they hung back during the BM photos and I'm pretty sure the photogs didn't even realize we had groomsmen. Luckily, I have some reception shots of them with DH and a few candids from guests.


*I would have splurged a bit more on our place settings. I kept searching for a great rental price on chargers and I just wasn't finding it. A few months ago I had a "wtf Jess" moment because I could have used what I own already and shipped them to Florida as we did a lot of our decor. I have 6, and just would have had to spend money to get 12 more. Which works out to $16 ish at the Christmas Tree Shop....SO mad at myself for not realizing it!


*I would have had our cake delivered rather than DH running to get it (just a small cake and cupcakes from Publix) so we could have had more time for a first look. Ours was rushed and not posed how I'd like.


Even with those things, I'd relive our day over and over again if I could!

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 6:45 am
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  • I loved that DH was involved, but I wish I would have spoken with his friend who was supposed to do the catering months before our wedding. I told him he needed to get a contract regardless if they were friend's but he didn't. Two weeks before my wedding I talked to her and found out her ridiculous price that DH insisted that is not what they agreed to. I even cut back items off the menu so she could do the price he said she quoted and she told me I should go with Jackson catering who I wanted all along. We ended up cooking the food for our wedding ourselves with the help of my dear friend and my brother in law. Moral to this story - Get something in writing regardless if it is your friend and follow your gut instinct!

  • PHOTOGRAPHY IS SOOOOO IMPORTANT!!! Me and DH both wished we had another photographer, but I never wanted the guy we chose in the first place. DH loved his price, but I wanted specific things done that he said he could do but didn't do. There were so many moments not captured like ringshots, detail shots, shots with the parents and the bridal party. DH son was a groomsman and he is not in any of the shots with DH and the other groomsman. 


 

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 7:01 am
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When I got married 14 and a half years ago, my Dad who was a professional musician in Vegas for many years, got some of his music friends and put together a 5 pc. band for us.  It was really nice of him and we had really some great music, but Dad just was not much of an M.C. - we had to tell him it was time to cut the cake, do the toasts, etc.  It was a small (55 ppl) wedding, and we all had fun anyway, and the evening was a blast! He's gone now, and him and his cronies playing my reception is actually a very sweet memory...  

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 12:56 pm
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To be honest I would have not had any BM's. I was very disappointed in everything they did all the way up to when I walked down the aisle and even one during the reception. They were THE WORST! No consideration for my wedding. Made me feel they were only there for themsleves. SMH! Also, I wish my photog would have gotten more details of our day. We as brides work very hard even to the smallest details and to not have those moments captured sucks. I don't have one picture of our cocktail hour which I was told was AMAZING!


But other than that it was lovely and beautiful!

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 2:05 pm
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So far I doubt my decision on location. I know it will be beautiful i just get worried every now and then. 


Also I sometimes wish I had picked someone else to be my MOH or not had one period. She is already so worried about herself and not about helping me (i'm worried about how she will be on the day of the wedding.) She knows money is an issue especially after we had to bite the bullet on one dress and now have to buy another one for her. She isn't offering to help pay for any of this I keep trying to show her less expensive options but she wants this one specific one. Plus she is adamant that she has to have her hair and make up professionally done but expects me to pay for this as well. When I ask for her actual opinion on things i always get i don't knows or thats nice no real imput from her. 

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 5:29 pm
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@ellewinfrey I know you love you MOH, but it sounds like you do need to excuse her. As a former Flower girl, BM and MOH I know weddings and I always helped. Even in my youngest years. I have always bought my dress. Helped make and design invites and paid A LOT for the Bridal Shower where I was MOH. In that same wedding where I was MOH I also had to pay for my kids who were Ring bearer and Flower girl.


These are expecteds. As for what you pay it is ONLY supposed to be what you can afford. My SIL did NOT pay for my dress, shoes, hair etc when I was BM


My BFF where I was MOH her mom paid my regular hair dresser.


Seriously, I would NEVER suggest telling someone take a hike, but in this case. . . is there a MaidofHorrorzilla?

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 8:44 pm
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Oh I wished so many times that we had a better Photographer - she missed a lot pics so we only have one pic of DH alone and no pics with me and my sister (MOH) and DH with his BM. Also we haven't got a pic of DH and his complete family only with his parents. Damn this is soooo annoying :( And the most pics are really dark...


And I wished I had the time to eat more of our amazing food and cake - it was sooo yummy!!!

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 10:27 pm
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I would also have splashed out a bit more on the photographer. Mine were fine but not as good as I would have liked. I wish I had some of the cool affects I see on other peoples pics. They really are what you have left after the big day.

Posted on January 11, 2013 at 2:24 am
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I am in between married/Bride to be. Already married but never had a party. Things I would try to do different. Not comparing my wedding to others ones. I know everyone different visions and budgets. My wedding will be beautiful because will represent us, not how much we spended. Second I will try my best to get nice pics and good food. Those are my main priorities, I wont swear the other little stuff.

Posted on January 11, 2013 at 4:54 am
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Since im a soon to be i would......


 


~ I honestly wish i had given myself more time. I maybe have rushed the date and started on things too late. I would like to be enjoying myself and happy that everything is finished but im not! Wish i had a better game plan for everything and i should have deligated task for my friends to do instead of taking on so much at once. So far thats all i would change. So far....ha!


 

Posted on January 11, 2013 at 5:40 am
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Here's my bullet points 



  • I too shouldn't have procrastinated. I was finishing the very last of the DIY's the wed before. 

  • The timing of everything was a headache to plan out so plan for cushions in everything! The ceremony site was GORGEOUS but they only give you 2 hours. Ceremony started late not b/c I was late (I was early!) but because guests were late! Which cut into our photo taking time after the cermeony. Which bums me out and I think our photog felt rushed. 

  • Our photog didn't bring my must have shot list with him and I didn't print one out. I thought his assistant would have it or help him with it. So print one up as a back up and delegate a family member or a friend to be in charge of this! I love my photos and have some really great ones but there are specific ones that I wanted that we didn't get.

  • I would have shelled out a lil bit more money for the dj. Ours was okay but he wasn't very good at the emcee part. Luckily my DOC took care of that part!

  • Do a send off! I wished after the fact we had done one! 


At the end of the day, it was perfect, beautiful, and the most magical day we've ever had. <3
Posted on January 11, 2013 at 9:49 am
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Ahh Ashley, mine are so similar!! There were a lot of shots that I forgot to have taken (~didn't even get one with our ring bearer! :( ~) Same with our DJ. good with music,..sucked at emceeing! Thank goodness for the DOC! We didn't do a send off either and I do feel kind of like we missed out. Funny, huh?

Posted on January 11, 2013 at 11:50 am
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I would have had catered food and a photographer. Cooking my own food wasn't that hard but I would have liked more "me" time on the day of.
Posted on January 11, 2013 at 12:02 pm

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