Poll: Whose paying for the wedding?

My fiance and I are paying for 99.9 percent of the wedding (his adopted mom is paying for the booze) and I am feeling overwhelmed. We are both artists and are just making ends meet and cannot save. I feel that we are the only ones who have to pay for our wedding.

I was wondering how many of you are paying for your wedding vs getting parental or outside help? How much is that help?
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 11:57 am
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*Wil*
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Our parents split the cost of our wedding. We paid for the welcome party which took the place of the rehearsal dinner.

You aren't the only ones. I've seen/read about several brides who are paying themselves.
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:03 pm
SandP09
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FI and I are paying for 100% of this wedding. Very stressful especially when we're trying to get the guest list down from 575 to 400. It's ridiculous!
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:03 pm
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We are paying 98%, his mom is giving a generous gift that is helping, but other than that its on us.. I feel ya.
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:06 pm
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We are paying 100% and yes I was shocked by the sticker shock with "wedding" items when we first started looking. It is amazing how much money is spent on one day!

Actually all my friends payed for their weddings too... I think it is more common now!
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:09 pm
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We're footing the majority of the bill ourselves too. Our parents have pitched in about 5% total. I don't feel like anyone but ourselves are "obligated" to pay for our wedding.

There seems to be a lot of couples paying for most, if not all of their weddings these days.
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:10 pm
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hmm.. im a teacher, and to be honest with you, we dont make a whole lot.. i wish we did for the work we do... anyways, FI and I are pretty much paying for the wedding. however, i know both our parents have offered to help.. and if i need assistance, i won't hesitate to ask.. but pretty much WE are...
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:13 pm
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Our wedding is definitely a collaboration... Which were thankful for b/c thats the only way we could do it. His mom & dad are paying for the ceremony & some of the reception rental fee, each member of my family gave us money to use (like my brother is helping pay for the DJ, etc) and we have everything else & honeymoon. When we figured it out it looks like its split 3 ways. We get the most of the wedding chunk, but my family/sisters have to deal with all the parties/events which is adding up. I feel so bad- more guilty then anything. Kinda ruins the fun.

Regardless it is still so pricey and we are having a hard time, its one thing after another and we will some how get through it...

- HMM :)
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:16 pm
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Both of our parents are divorced. So, each set of parents contributed what they could afford and we paid for the rest. I think it ended up that we paid about 45%.
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:18 pm
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We are paying for most of our wedding. My mom bought my dress, and my soon-2-b FIL is helping pay for some of the booze for the wedding. Other than that tho, its all just us. And since I've been in school since I was born, I'm pretty broke! Its been difficult, but our budget is really low so that helps.
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:19 pm
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Our wedding is split 3 ways. My parents through us the engagement party and my FI's parents are paying for the rehearsal diner, transportation and honeymoon. My parents are taking care of a lot of the wedding (I feel really luck) I really wasn't expecting it but they are taking care of the food, ventue, alcohol, florist. I paid for my own dress, videographer, photographer, and invites, accessories, all the little things. Its still a ot of money for us. Way out of control. So don't feel bad we are getting help but its still costing us a fortune. I heard people take out loans for weddings I wasn't about to do that. But you can still have a beautiful wedding of your dreams without going over budget. Hang in there and ask PW girls for anything. WE can hep find it in your budget. Good luck :)
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:22 pm
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FI and I are paying the wedding ourselves. His uncle has helped a GREAT deal by printing our invitations for us in Cambodian, Vietnamese and English. He owns a printing shop so thank goodness for that!
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:40 pm
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Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:50 pm
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my mom and stepdad are paying for the bulk of it. Venue, Caterer, Flowers and photography. My mom bought me my dress. So FI and I paid for deposits for venue and caterer, wedding planner, and all the other nick nack patty wacks involved lol (wedding party attire, gifts, invitations, favors, details...etc...)
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:51 pm
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we are paying 100% of the wedding. we are asian and most our guest will give us money as gift. so that will help us.
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:51 pm
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We are paying for about 70% and my parents and his grandmother are splitting the other 30%.
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 12:54 pm
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my parents are paying for more than half of the wedding. it's about 60%/40%.

my grandmother bought my dress as my gift so that definitely helped.
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 1:52 pm
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husband's parents paid for the wedding

we paid for our wedding bands and honeymoon
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 1:52 pm
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DH and I paid for our wedding except for few things. My parents covered the barongs for GMs, dads and DH, which was a great help. It was also couple of hundred dollars. Our godmother paid for our honeymoon, saved us lots of money. DH parents covered the food for the rehearsal. Our invites was also a wedding gift.
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 1:56 pm
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We're trying to save and are planning to pay for the wedding ourselves. We're like the OP in that it's hard to save and then get sticker shocked and take a break and hence we've been engaged for 7 months now and haven't set a date LOL

It'll come together eventually, but like a lot of you said it's more common for the couple to pay for the whole thing. His parents have offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner, which is wonderful because if we were doing that we would've had to skimp on it or not have it all together. My parents have no money to spare so I don't expect them to pitch in. I know they would if they could and that's good enough for me.

Since we're paying for this ourselves, gone are the little girl dreams of the designer dress and opulent floral and all those other extras that you thought you wanted when you were little but now find way out of your league as you're older. :)
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 1:59 pm
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we are paying for 95% of our wedding.. my moms bf bought me my dress tho! =)

its VERY stressful.. but ours is right around the corner.. and the stress will be over soon.

I suggest giving urselves a good amount of time to save. me and FI didn't do that. we got excited.. set a date and started planning.. so now were stressin HAHAHA all good tho.. seems it'll be fine in the end!
Posted on June 10, 2008 at 2:08 pm
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