Post your unique ideas! Unity candle, minus the candle :)

So I really would like to do some type of "unity" thing at the ceremony, but I'm not sure if I want to use candles. They are really pretty, but I'm thinking maybe there are a little over done? It seems like every wedding I've ever been too they used unity candles. I'm not completely ruling out the idea.....my FI and I are getting married Dec. 19th and it is going to have a Christmas feel to it, and candles always remind me of the holidays. So there is a possibility that I will use candles. But I also want to consider other options.


What ideas have you heard/seen for unique unity ceremonies? Thanks! :)

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:10 am
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We did unity sand ceremony with a frame and sand from each of our respective homes (his East Coast house, my west coast home)


We did unity sand photo 622304-1

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:12 am
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how about you each go to opposite sides of the stage, to get a running start, then do a really big chest bump in the middle!


hahaha sorry, I have no idea where that came from but the image in my head was REALLY funny

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:13 am
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haha That sounds like you Jess! I told him the idea about Christmas lights that we were obviously *joking* about and he said he loved it! I really hope he was being sarcastic. Sometimes it's hard to tell because he keeps a straight face to try to trick me. Also....he mentioned today that it would be cool to have pizza at the reception. Oh geez.


jharks: That's a beautiful picture of you two and I love the way the frame turned out!

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:17 am
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We did the unity candle thing, but with a floating candle instead of a solid candle:


We did the unity photo 622325-1We did the unity photo 622325-2


We did the unity photo 622325-3

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:17 am
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OMG jbl04- i just LOL

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:18 am
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We are doing a rocks ceremony - I've seen a FEW but none done like ours.  You might do something similiar, but with Christmas ornaments (like, the balls).


Our guests will stop at a table before the ceremony and pick out a large (palm sized) flat polished river rock (here is where the ornaments come in for you. . .we are having a mountain wedding so rocks make sense).  On one side they write their name, on the other they can write anything they want; a wish, prayer, a drawing, advice, ANYTHING.


They hold it during the ceremony, and our officiant (after vows and the ring exchange) prepared a speech about how each guest has been a part in the foundation of our marriage, how they positively affected each of our lives and how both groups of family and friends will be coming together with our union.  Our bridal party will collect the rocks during a song, and we'll combine them together in a large vase next to our marriage license (which we will then sign).  We get to keep the rocks forever and if we ever are having a hard time we can go through them to remind us of the people who support and love us. 


You could hang those on your Chrismas tree, or on a garland every year; imagine how cool it will be to pull those out and decorate your house on your anniversary every year!  Guest will be able to read them too. 


It's different, and VERY personalized.  Not only that, but it notes your guests and includes them in the process.

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:18 am
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jenniboo- DH HATES the picture because he thinks his face looks fat (he has lost weight since then) but I love it, we were actually laughing and faces look fat when you laugh!


:-)

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:20 am
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ahhhh Mountain that's soooo cool!


Ok so just to fill you girls in on the "other idea" Jenn mentioned. we had been working on programs for my wedding for like 4 hours, so we were getting pretty bored by then-and when we get bored we get silly. Also, I like trying to come up with outrageous ideas that make people laugh. So we decided to tell Eric that for the unity ceremony, they would have two strands of Christmas lights and plug them together hahahahahaha


OK, maybe I just think it's hilarious-but I can visualize it in my head and it's HYSTERICAL *and obviously not a 'real' idea*

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:21 am
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well, we are not doing a unity candle either. Mainly because the MOB & MOG light one candle and then we use those to light our candle. WELL, i have a stepmom that has been with me since I was 7 and I couldn't NOT include her, even though she said she understands there will be things that come up that will not be involved in. I also think doing the unity candle without her is insulting to my dad, who is our officiant!


 


SO, we are getting married in a Garden, and right behind our "altar" is a wishing well. When the 3 mothers are being seated, I will have them escorted to the wishing well and they will each place a flower in the well, signifying their best wishes for us. I think we will play "My Wish" by Rascall Flatts during this time, it seems fitting! I will also have our Welcome Officiant explain what the mothers are doing so our guests understand. :)


Good Luck

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:22 am
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Mountainbride- I was trying to think of something along a tree theme, because the ornaments would be such a nice keepsake, and that idea is just perfect!  It implements the theme while still being formal enough for a ceremony.

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:22 am
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We're date twins!  Getting married December 19th too... I'm using candles because we are having a Catholic ceremony :)

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:24 am
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Mountain Bride.. i love your rock idea! Esp how you will explain that they have all contributed to the foundation of your love and marriage.. thats awesome! As a wedding guest, i would love to be a part of that!

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:24 am
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lol. The Christmas lights idea totally cracks me up. That is so funny!

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 7:24 am
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Maybe a version of a rose ceremony?


Have a vase with some greenery inside.  Invite your immediate family members to come up and add a flower to the vase.. maybe something like each of them have various shades of red roses or something, then it ends where you and your FI add a white rose each to create a beautiful floral arrangement symbolizing the unity of your two families.


My dad did something like this for his last ceremony to his third wife.  There were four kids on each side, and it was really sweet.


Maybe a version of photo 622524-1

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 8:02 am
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I know you are photo 622584-1


I know you are looking for "no" candles but this candle rock (doesn't blow out for outdoor ceremony) is a great idea!  www.candleliterocks.com

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 8:11 am
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mhudnall-that's AWESOME!!!!!

Posted on June 15, 2009 at 8:12 am
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Oh, I really like the rose bouquet idea. Never heard of it/seen it. Sounds original and very pretty.


I also like the idea of having the people write well wishes/advice on the ornaments and then using them to decorate each year! Only, I do have 2 concerns about that:


-My sister got married this past weekend and instead of having a guest book she had a little book that had tiny envelopes in it. Small cards (to fit the enveloples) and pens were provided and each guest was to write down basically the same thing, wishes, prayers, advice, encouragement, anything. And most people didn't participate! I'm not really sure why. There was a nice sign next to it explaining the purpose and what to do, yet some people just skipped out. So it might be weird of only a few people participate with the ornaments? Maybe my family is just weird/lazy? :)


-We are already planning on giving away ornaments as favors. While I do definitely want a Christmas theme to do the wedding, I don't want absolutely everything to be Christmasy. Would it be too much to have 2 different things involving ornaments? Of course, one would be during the ceremony and one at the reception.


What do you think?

Posted on June 21, 2009 at 12:23 pm
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Some have done the wine ceremony as well. . .


 

Posted on June 21, 2009 at 1:52 pm
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Here are some different ideas courtesy of rubyglen.com.  We did the sand ceremony and hand ceremony at ours.  Wording in my bio...


Rose Ceremony


The rose ceremony is a flexible, informal ceremony especially suited  to an interfaith or non-religious wedding, not to mention a garden  wedding! In the rose ceremony, bride and groom exchange a single  rose as their first married gift to each other. They are asked to  recall this symbol of their love during the more trying seasons of  marriage.
  


Hand Ceremony


In the hand ceremony, the bride takes the groom's hands in hers, palms up. The officiant invites her to view his hands as a gift, and says: "These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your future, as together you laugh and cry, and together you share your innermost secrets and dreams." 


The groom then takes the bride's hands, palm side up. The officiant says, "They are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness, as she promises her love and commitment to you all the days of her life."
  


Knot Ceremony


In the knot ceremony, the mothers of the bridal couple are given a cord, which the officiant later asks them to give to the bridal couple. The couple ties a lover's knot, which they may save to look back on later.
  


Sand, Water and Wine Ceremonies


These are all mixing ceremonies suited to a Unitarian or interfaith wedding. The sand ceremony is said to arise from Apache customs, and is popular in beach weddings. In each case, the bride and groom pour sand or liquid from two separate vials into one. In the wine ceremony, they drink the mixed wine.


A nice touch is to have the bride pour white wine while the groom pours red. You can then serve rosé at the reception to remind everyone of the ceremony.
  


The Salt Covenant


The salt covenant is an ancient tradition, well-described in the Bible, and appearing regularly in Indian-national and Jewish weddings. Like the Jewish Huppah, the salt covenant (a mixing ceremony with ancient connotations of loyalty, protection and hospitality) is beginning to show up in non-Jewish weddings as well.
  


The Foot-Washing Ceremony


The foot washing ceremony (not to be confused with the Scottish bridal foot-washing ceremony, a raucous pre-wedding event) is a fascinating, solemn custom emphasizing the role of dual servitude in a marriage. 
  


This short article hasn't covered all the unification ceremonies: there are bread-sharing ceremonies, circling ceremonies, broom jumping ceremonies, and probably more ceremonies that are being invented right now.


However, if you feel a unification ceremony might make your wedding more meaningful and personal, consider these alternatives. Don't forget that you can use more than one!

Posted on June 21, 2009 at 2:19 pm
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My FI and I are thinking of having a handfasting ceremony. This tradition dates back to the early Christian days in Ireland and the British Isles. Many communities did not have a full time priest and had to perform a civil ceremony. Ribbons were tied around their hands (hence the phrase: tying the knot), as a sign of their unity.  Each of the ribbons holds a particular significance in marriage and symbolizes a trait necessary for  a successful marriage  


 


 



  • Red: passion, strength, lust, fertility

  • Orange: encouragement, attraction, kindness, plenty

  • Yellow: charm, confidence, joy, balance

  • Green: finances, fertility, charity, prosperity, health

  • Blue: tranquility, patience, devotion, sincerity

  • Purple: Power, piety, sanctity, sentimentality

  • Black: strength, wisdom, vision, success

  • White: purity, concentration, meditation, peace

  • Gray: neutrality, canceling, balance

  • Pink: unity, honor, truth, romance, happiness

  • Brown: earth, grounding, talent, telepathy, home

  • Silver: treasure, values, creativity, inspiration

  • Gold: energy, wealth, intelligence, longevity


 


You can read more about handfasting on this PW article : 


http://www.projectwedding.com/wiki/show/handfasting-ceremony


My FI and I photo 647054-1


 


 


 

Posted on June 21, 2009 at 2:34 pm
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