PRE-GUEST LIST WOES :( :(
I dont even have my engagment ring yet and I'm already stressed out.
Me and FFI were talking last night about the size of the wedding. Now many of you may have seen my posts where I talk about how ANTI WEDDING FFI is. When they say opposites attract they mean it! I'm a lover of all things weddings. Thats my dream full time profession. FFI....not so much. Ideally for him, it would be me, him, his daughter, my son, our parents, and our siblings....THATS IT.
I have a huge family on my mother's side that I am extremely close to. I mean my first cousins and I were pretty much raised like brothers and sisters. We played together, got whuppings together, fought like cats and dogs...all that. My aunts and uncles were like my parents; you get the picture.
Im also a preachers kid- our congregation is about 450. I am very active in my church, I love my church family (shout out to Newburg Church of Christ in Louisville, KY!!). I spent my younger years at another congregation in the city, where my father was assistant minister, that I have a close relationship with. Now if anybody here is a PK you know the entire church feels like they're obligated to come, invited or not.
I want to very much respect his wishes and get down to the bare bones of a guest list, but I dont see any way around it. Im perfectly okay with alot of people coming to the wedding. My parents are prepared to help significantly with the wedding. I dont really want to do a destination wedding because I need to have my hands on some things that I specifically want for the wedding.
So what do I do? He's not very close to his family, so its easy for him to not invite them and doesnt understand why its not simple for me. There are somethings that I have done to try and make it a smooth ride for the both us us as far as the planning goes...but this is a tough one.
All this stress and its not even official lol!!!
Thanks for listening and your advice divas!