pre wedding jitters........

I was wondering what some of you ladies did to help calm the nerves and anxiety before the big day? I have 18 days left and im stressed and very anxious! In all fairness though my JP just informed me that she will not be able to make rehersal!!! So i am now in the process of finding a new one! I def need to relax or something!!!!

Posted on October 9, 2012 at 2:18 pm
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TimilyL
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Do what you can to distract yourself, and my general remedy for calming nerves is to realize what you can and cannot do in an allotted period of time.  If you can't call another JP until the morning, then don't stress about it all night before you do call.  Y'know what I mean?  Don't let something that you may not have control over for the time being distract you from the good parts - you're getting married in 18 days, and I am sure it will end up far more fabulous than you'd imagined.


Good luck!!

Posted on October 9, 2012 at 2:47 pm
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Distraction is key, as Timily said.  I know that everything seems like a huge deal right now, but I promise you, it's much better than you realize.  You will be able to find another JP.  Before you go to bed, take a hot bath, put some bubbles in it if you want to, and just sit there and soak for a bit and let everything just kind of wash away.  Then go to bed, and wake up refreshed tomorrow morning.  

Posted on October 9, 2012 at 3:30 pm
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I'm not trying to make you any more jittery than you already are, but I would be a bit freaked out if I were having to find a JP 18 days out. 


Whatever it is that you do that grounds you - reading a book, long hot bath, whatever it is do it. 


Sending big hugs to you!

Posted on October 10, 2012 at 1:05 am
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I did find another JP i believe, im in the process of emailing her back and forth. So thats one thing done! I think i am going to go spend the day with my horses and just focus on them.  I am just over the bitching bridesmaids and all the stress LOL..

Posted on October 10, 2012 at 1:26 am
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Amen to being over the bitching bridesmaids! Days leading to the wedding, mine were driving me nuts and I told them I was cutting off my phone and letting my dear friend Jan answer any questions they had. One bridesmaid told me you can't do that and I hung up on her. You have 17 days left until you marry the love of your life. Enjoy these days relaxing in whatever ways that calms you and envision your day!  Lots of hugs!

Posted on October 10, 2012 at 2:21 am
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Just focus on what this wedding is supposed to mean....focus on your love and don't sweat the small stuff. Take some time to unwind, as you mentioned, spending the day with your horses (lucky girl, I love horses ;) ). And when the day finally comes just remember, your not going to be able to control everything, so don't try, just let the day fall into place, things will work out ;) and if things don't go perfect, just roll with it...in the end all that matters is your unity. If you start getting nervous just before, look up at your man and imagine its only you 2 in the room =) you'll do just fine.

Posted on October 10, 2012 at 2:36 am
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Yeah i think besides the JP the BMS are the worst! Well only two of them.  Turns out the two of them hate eachother as well, so there is drama there, but they have been behaved out of respect to me (for the most part). One of these two girls asked me the other day since we are doing our own hairstyles i think im going to go to my hairdresser to save 20 bucks. Really??!!. there up dos are 55, i thought that was more than resonable! So instead of meeting us at the house at 8am she wont be coming to the house til 1230. So she is missing alot of the stuff. So i told her she can do her own make up too! Since that was part of the gift for the girls, to have their make up done....

Posted on October 10, 2012 at 2:43 am
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With us the guys are as bad as the girls.  They won't go get fitted for their jackets (they're not even wearing a full suit/tuxedo!) and they want to wear a white shirt.  I told FI that I didn't want any white at the wedding and he agreed.  Also it will look strange if they're wearing white shirts and everything else is ivory.


I agree with Timily.  Distract yourself from the stress by doing something nice for youself.  FI went with me to a fiber festival and I immersed myself in yarn and roving (what the wool is before it's made into yarn) and had a wonderful time NOT thinking about the wedding!

Posted on October 10, 2012 at 6:44 am
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Would it be terrible of me as a nursing student to say "LORAZIPAM!!" a nice little dissolving anti-anxiety medication ;) In all seriousness, just communicate openly with family and friends and to ask for help when you need it!

Posted on October 10, 2012 at 10:22 am

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