What are the pros and cons of having a large wedding (200-220) compared to a smaller one (50-100)?
agree!! cost #1
small weddings are more intimate..you get a chance to actually talk to everyone. probably could spend more money on decor, food, fashion, etc.
large weddings feels like a party..when ppl leave early you don't really notice...you get more gifts :) you get a chance to see everyone in one room..more diverse. personality clashes sort of wash out with the mass..
yeah I was thinking that there would be less people to deal with.
We had ~50 people and thought it was the perfect size. Got a chance to talk to everyone at *least* once - and have real conversations, not just a quick "congrats" type thing. And ucsdlove is definitely right that we were able to spend more on food, wine, favors, etc. by having less people. It was exactly what we wanted; small enough to be intimate with only close friends and family, but large enough that it didn't feel like someone's afternoon picnic.
That said, if you have huge family that is dying to come and see you get married - a small wedding might be more hassle than its worth. The drama that could come from trying to trim a 200 person guest list... I can't even imagine the nightmare! Lucky for us, our wedding was a DW for most of our guests - extended friends and family weren't gonna pony up the cash for a 3k mile trip! :)
cost i think 2! we have invited 68 people and that is really just family with only a few close friends! i was happy to have 50 but we had to go 68!