PRO PIC VENT (may be long)

*screaming with face in pillow*ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.


ok. im going to try to write this as simply as possible, but forgive me in advance if i start to ramble because i am feeling so many emotions right now.


Backstory:
my wedding photographer was a highschool friend of my cousins (MOH) she has a great book, and i have met her a handful of times at my cousins house, kids parties, etc. because she was a friend of kristins, my aunt and uncle offered to pay for her to be our photog as our gift. she is OOT, so it was great because i really wanted her but also didnt want to pay the traveling fee. i was so excited to have her. she is married, has a 4 year old, and is 5 months pregnant, so i TOTALLY understand how crazy life must be for her personally, let alone the business aspect of it. even though she lives 2 hours away from me, she arrived to my moms house, wedding morning, 30 min earlier then what we talked about! all i kept thinking was, "wow what a great start!" she stayed out of my way while getting ready, and took very close care to getting the exact detail pictures i asked her for. i gave her my dress, jewlery, shoes, etc, and she took them and proped them up in different places to take their pictures. the few times i checked on her to make sure she was ok, i LOVED what i saw that she was doing with them.


after my ceremony, we did the restaged ceremony (no flash photog was allowed during), we did all of the family shots that myself and our moms wanted, and then we headed outside to get the wedding party shots. i "directed" her during some of these shots to minipulate them into the vision i had, and she was great wtih it. along with adding in some poses of her own. at the reception, as i asked, she took the staged shots i asked for and then just walked around doing the candids. she showed me a few on her camera before she left to let me in on how AMAZING they looked. we were both really excited!!


now, the problem:


i got married on sept 8th. left for out HM on the 9th, only to see a message from her saying she had a great time and she was working on a preview and it would be up that night. i checked my email and fb during my HM and no messages from her and no preview. when i returned, she told me her internet was down and promised them tomorrow. nothing came. i messaged her, and she said her internet was still down and she would go to her moms house after her son went to school and would put them up tomorrow. STILL nothing. 4 days after i returned from my HM, she left for jamaica to shoot a destination wedding, and came home last thursday. i figured being a wife, mother, and pregnant she needed time to settle back into her routine, so i didnt expect my pictures the second she arrived home. but come on! the weekend has passed, im sure she is settled, and at this point, i dont know if people even remember that i got married bc i have no photo evidence. on her personal FB page, she has uploaded a handful of pix of her son, water ice, animals, etc. i commented on one status about my pictures and she said, "there are so many good ones, i cant decide which to post in your preview!!!!" (excuse my language) JUST POST ONE EFFING PICTURE. IDC WHICH ONE.


so now, i am no longer antzy. i am just pissed. i am annoyed. i want my freaking picture. she told me i should be getting my disc 6-8wks after the wedding, which is fine. but if i was promised a preview with in a week of my wedding, and we are now at 17 days post wedding, i think i have a right to be irritated!


i texted my cousin to ask her how i can nicely apporach this, because i am so mad that i dont see myself being calm and she said my aunt (her mom) already called her yesterday and today to ask her why she was paid in full before my wedding, and there are no pictures up, yet she has time to post personal pictures but not the ones she was PAID to take. no responce from her.


idk what to do, but thanks for listening! DH agrees with me, but there is physically nothing we can do besides be patient, which is not part of my vocabulary!

Posted on September 25, 2012 at 8:07 am
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Awwww!!! I am so sorry to hear this! I didn't get any sneak peeks from my photographer either. He told me he would but never got around to it, so I totally understand your frustration. Did anyone take any pictures at the reception so you can see something? People were recording us and taking a lot of pictures, some more than the photographer, but no one gave me any! How crazy is that? It was our wedding! Just try and breathe, I know you are irritated and you have every right to be! Tell her to get on her job! Doesn't she know everyone on PW are anxiously waiting to stalk your pictures! Just trying to make you smile! : )

Posted on September 25, 2012 at 8:18 am
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I am sooo sorry that you are going through this. You have the right to be pissed at her. I would be. She should at least have had one or two pics done by the time you guys came back from your honeymoon!

Posted on September 25, 2012 at 8:18 am
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WEll first breathe honey! I know you are ansy for the pics! I got married Sept 2nd and still dont have mine either. However my photographer has been very good about updating me every week via email about her progress. Also she did send me a preview. So I can totally understand you being pissed without even a preview to tide you over! If I was you I would definitely call her up and have a chat. At this point it shouldnt be a shocking conversation when you ask what the problem is and why you have no pics. Try to be as cordial as possible but just explain to her that the preview you were promised sometime ago has still not been produced and you want it but such and such a date!


If your MOH is close to her maybe she can help with this by calling her as well. GL and dont worry they will be in soon! hugs!


 

Posted on September 25, 2012 at 8:20 am
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tressy- yes, we do have a handful of pictures from our guests, but they are all cellphone pictures. i know phones have ridiculous cameras on them these days. but i am old school and i want a CAMERA picture! haha. my SIL took (seriously) 100 pictures, but still hasnt uploaded or printed any of them for us :(


sleandre- thats what im saying!!! im not asking for 80 pix, just one or two to hold me over! id be fine with that!!


mrs harris- my cousin and my aunt have tried to contact her, and she hasnt responded to either of them!! and when i contact her, she gives me the go around. alot of words, but isnt saying much. i guess i shall put on my big girl panties and sit here patiently.

Posted on September 25, 2012 at 8:32 am
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Aww...girl...if you want me to call her I will! I dont take no BS! LOL

Posted on September 25, 2012 at 8:40 am
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Yes, I know all about the cellphone pics and they were not good quality depending on the phone, but a whole lot of our guest had cameras and tablets and still til this day HAVE NOT GAVE US ONE SINGLE PICTURE!!!!


That is weird that she just won't tell you what's going on.

Posted on September 25, 2012 at 8:44 am
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WOW!!! this is awful I hope in the next few days this is resolved. And by the way you have the right to be totally annoyed.
Posted on September 25, 2012 at 9:51 am
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Oh this sucks and is very frustrating.  I'm sure she's not intentionally delaying the process, however it may be a good idea just to ask for a couple of pictures to tie you over. Kindly let her know how excited you are to see them and ask if she could give you just a few until she gets to editing the rest.  

Posted on September 25, 2012 at 9:53 am
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I totally understand how frustrating this is, but just breathe and be patient. I always try to think about how others have it worse and I should be thankful. Some people can't afford a photographer or don't have one gifted to them or what not. I'm still waiting on my pros...haven't even gotten a sneak peek of anything. My photographer hasn't even emailed me, but I know he has a lot of other weddings to shoot and work on. Patience is a virtue. 


The one thing I would mention to her, is to not promise a sneak peak to people. B/c if I was promised something I would want it too! So she should just say this could take a few weeks for me to get this done, then everybody feels better! Sorry hon, it sucks, but it just is. 

Posted on September 25, 2012 at 10:48 am

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