PW Guide Article: Do you Hate your Engagement Ring?

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Posted on December 2, 2008 at 10:30 am
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meanyprice
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DH picked mine out and suprised me with it.  I love it.  He did an awesome job.  It's probably very much like I would have picked out for myself.

Posted on December 2, 2009 at 3:12 am
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bradwell, that is the sweetest thing I've ever read on PW.  I feel the same way.  My FI flipped through books at the jeweler to pick out my ring.  It is a medium-sized diamond solitaire.  I love it, because he chose it himself.  I would wear a ring pop from him.  He completed my life.  What more could I ask for?  I never wore jewelry before, so this ring is the single symbol that I'm his, and it's great!  It's funny, but he's the one that sees other girl's rings, and says, "I need to get you a bigger diamond."  See why I love this man? Haha!

Posted on December 2, 2009 at 3:21 am
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I love my ring - I would never even consider changing it!

Posted on December 2, 2009 at 3:24 am
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I'm even lucky I got an engagement ring! In the Netherlands, engagement rings (especially in my fiancé's Dutch culture) are traditionally not part of the wedding package.

Posted on December 2, 2009 at 3:25 am
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I really love my ring, even though when my FI first proposed I thought the stone was a bit small. I feel like it "grew" since then, and it's just the right size. Guess I had to get over the shock of getting proposed to!

Posted on December 2, 2009 at 3:39 am
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I am currently wearing a temp ring (CZ from avon) because we can't afford a real ring right now. It doesn't matter to me in the least though, because I just love having a symbol of our relationship. I have shared lots of ideas with my FI about the ring I want, but at the end of the day, I will love whatever he picks out.

Posted on December 12, 2009 at 12:10 pm
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I love my ring. DH and I went shopping together. I picked out a few rings I loved but I think he could tell by my reaction that I LOVED my ring. I definitely got my dream ring:)

Posted on December 12, 2009 at 12:19 pm
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I LOVE my ring.  I like some of you other girls *thought* I wanted something different.  I had my heart set on a solitaire, but I think FI now DH knew me better than I knew myself b/c I LOVE my ring with the diamonds on the side even more!

Posted on December 12, 2009 at 1:41 pm
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I hate hate hate hate my ring.  I guess that makes me sound awful but I hate it and you would too!  It is huge 13mm wide (my hands are very small).  It was made custom for me out of silver & yellow gold I will never tell him! I think he thinks I love it so, yay.  I don't know what he paid but I do know it was 10 + times too much.  I would have liked anything dainty & not yellow.  I would have LOVED most things dainty and antique like an asscher cut sapphire in a platinum setting with pave set diamonds....OH yeah....Oh well :-( I'm a brat & I am going to try to not think about it and not be attached to my wants it's just hard this ring weighs like 2 pounds.

Posted on December 13, 2009 at 1:59 pm
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I LOVE mine...I would though, I picked it out, lol

Posted on December 13, 2009 at 2:39 pm
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I hate mine too and have no clue how to tell him since he is such a sensitive guy and will be both hurt and angry that I don’t like it. Truthfully it's a cheap piece of junk and nothing that I would have picked out in a million years. He bought me a CZ that is humongous and I am so disappointed. I know he picked something out to make a statement of his love, but I have good taste in jewelry and would have preferred something simple like just a gold band instead of a huge gaudy cz ring that is so obviously fake and inside the band it has in big letters “MADE IN CHINA”. I am so horribly bothered by this I cry in private. It looks like some junk that he picked up at Kmart and I am so disappointed. I’ve seen many nice rings that are tasteful and not expensive that we could afford, but no he picked out some cheap ring for me then goes out and buys himself a bunch of old cars so he can build a dune buggy (he already has one dune buggy). He has no problem spending a lot of money on himself, but when it comes to me he gave me a junky ring. This is even worse then him forgetting to buy me a Christmas and birthday gift.


His mother was commenting on Christmas day how pretty it was and all I could think is OMG everyone who sees this is going to know that it’s fake. It’s not even a good fake it’s just garbage and not something I would ever buy even as costume jewelry.


I am so disappointed I just don't know what to say. All my life I've dreamed of having that perfect moment and it's just dashed any romantic ideas. I wish I could relive the past and try to educate him more on my tastes before he went out and bought a ring, but it's just too late and I don't know what to say.


I love him and now I'm stuck wearing a ring that I'm so embaressed to be seen with. All of you women who got a ring that may be too small or too somthing at least feel lucky that you were given a real diamond and not some cheap fake.


I feel as if he does not value me and my worth to him is nothing more than "Made in China".  I'm heart broken over a dumb ring and don't know how to explain my attitude. I've been distant ever since he gave it to me and I'm so bothered and don't want to hurt him at the same time.

Posted on December 28, 2009 at 2:42 am
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I love love love mine!

Posted on December 28, 2009 at 3:56 am
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BeachBunny- you need to have a long talk with your fiance.  When something like this bothers you so much, it isn't silly.  Explain that it's not that you need an expensive ring, but that when he bought you something that so clearly does not match your tastes and looks so fake, it makes you feel like he neither knows nor values you.  It's not about the ring; it's about how he is treating you.

Posted on December 28, 2009 at 4:14 am
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I do LOVE mine...it sparkles so much...that isn't to say though that there are not others that I would have picked before this one. I see other people on here...esp the Tacori's...they are beautiful and big!  but since dh picked it w/out me I think he did a great job and I am more than happy with it :D.

Posted on December 28, 2009 at 4:21 am
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I love mine :) I'm like you JuneBride....there are probably other rings out there that I would have also loved, but mine is so sparkly and pretty and at the end of the day, HE picked it, so I love it even more. 


BeachBunny...girl, you need to talk to him. If he had bought you a big DIAMOND, it would be one thing, but since he obviously didn't put that much thought into it, his feelings won't be THAT hurt, I suspect. 


 

Posted on December 28, 2009 at 4:29 am
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beachbunny, i'm caught in a similar situation, when we got engaged my fi bought me a $40 sterling silver & amathyst ring that is stunning! So rentamental. But we planned to get more traditional diamond engagement and band when we had more money. Like your fi my soon to be is a motorhead, and would be happy with a lug nut for his band. He also has a fortune invested in his nova, & harley and that's ok with me. I love him. He's a great mechanic, but not so familiar with jewelry. He saved up and made payment on a ring that he knew was a "man made" diamond, in a sterling silver band, which i adored.... But i couldn't help but notice that it didn't shine like my other silver, sounded different, hollow. And sure enough the plating has worn away to reveal some ugly metal, and i asked at kay's if they could re plate it, and she pretty much told me it was junk. :'( the part that hurts the most is that someone took advantage of my sweet and loving fi. Now we're trying again & this time i'll be there to help out.
Posted on February 23, 2010 at 10:33 am
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I love my ring. :)

Posted on February 23, 2010 at 10:35 am
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I got to pick out my ring and FI let me double the budget I thought we would be spending (he said $6K) which shocked me because I thought he would have sticker shock over the prices.  When I found the mount, we picked out the stone together, too and ended up at $4200 with the band!  I love love love love my ring!!!!I've never ever had a really nice piece of jewelry ('cept a string of pearls from an ex) and I love the sparkle of it.  Photos do NOT do it justice!I got to pick photo 1440917-1

Posted on February 23, 2010 at 12:04 pm
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i got my new ring! I absolutely love it! & he picked it out all by himself, & surprised me so sweetly! I'll post pics as soon as i'm on a PC. YAY!
Posted on March 4, 2010 at 9:54 am
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I absolutely love my ring, i lucked out and got to help pick mine out :) lol not traditional but neither are we! but i constatnly get compliments on it and it has a vintage feel which alot of older woman love, it feels like my grandmothers ring and i love that family heirloom feel! even if it isnt lol we will make it one!!

Posted on April 27, 2010 at 2:49 pm
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