PW Guide Article: The 10K Wedding

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The 10K Wedding

Yes, you can have a wedding on 10K! We'll show you how.

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Posted on March 23, 2009 at 8:47 am
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sari101
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i forgot to mention that i already have the following at no cost:


- photographer/videographer


- wedding dress


 

Posted on October 25, 2011 at 3:08 pm
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I'm having a wedding this Aug on a Saturday for about 80 people and will definitely keep it under 10K.  Photographer, officiant and DJ are all friends who've done it professionally for others.  My dress still had the tags on but it was from a consignment shop.  The restaurant has a minimum amount that I need to spend for the food and drinks but not a person minimum so I can choose how much food and how fancy of a menu I want.  I'm also having it midday instead of the evening so the food minimum is lower.  They are providing the linens and flowers on the table so I don't need centerpieces.  My flowers will be from the local farmer's market. The wedding party is just a brother and a sister so there's not a lot of attendant's gifts.  


I think it's manageable if you do the research.

Posted on January 13, 2012 at 2:29 pm
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This is a great start but again does not include: hair, makeup, shoes, lingerie, wedding jewelry, gifts for wedding party, transportation, wedding bands, officiant, guest favours, groom's tux, DJ, guest book, rehearsal party, other stationary like programs, place cards, table numbers. There are SO many little things that add up. I'm trying to keep mine under 20k (however half of that is food and booze). I'm sure a small wedding can be done for under 10k but this is NOT a good estimate at all!

Posted on January 20, 2012 at 4:09 am
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I'm sorry, but in what world is 10K USD a reasonable wedding budget?!?!


I'm thankful and surprised my parents are able to put up $5K for our September wedding. We're getting married in Williamsburg, VA and keeping the wedding ceremony and brunch to less than 75 guests with a cocktail party for about 100 in the evening. Lots of DIYs and help from family for food in the evening.

Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:26 am
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 I had a beautiful 12k wedding, it's not impossible you just have to shop around. Everyone thought our wedding cost 30k.

Posted on February 10, 2012 at 2:09 am
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I am having a 10k wedding (migh be less) It is possible but it depends on the number of guests..Mine will be a 100 guest wedding. I am planning to create an article once everything is finalized ;)

Posted on February 10, 2012 at 3:39 am
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I agree, they have left out many, many, many of the little things that add up... and if you are doing a realistic wedding budget you HAVE to include everything!

Posted on February 25, 2012 at 2:30 am
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First, there is a lot you left out.  The cost to mail invitations, tuxes, makeup, hair, small things that can add up.  Oh, and RINGS.


Second, $10,000 is a budget much higher than most brides can even dream about.  Peruse any wedding community that isn't ad-driven to display ads for pricy venues, and you'll see that most brides and grooms count themselves fortunate to have $5,000 to spend.  It sometimes does mean having to cut down significantly on the guest list, but $10,000 is simply too much for most couples.  My own wedding was 60 people, $5,000 total including rings, stamps, you name it, and we had prime rib, chicken, and shrimp, in one of the most expensive areas in the US to have a wedding, and no one could tell it was a budget wedding.  THAT is a budget wedding.  The couple spending a grand on a BBQ on some family property with board games, badminton, a few kegs, and lots of fun, THAT is a budget wedding.  $10,000 is a budget wedding to someone used to caviar dreams becoming a reality except for this one time.

Posted on February 26, 2012 at 6:39 am
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Great!

Posted on February 27, 2012 at 1:33 am
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I'm huge on budgeting and are even buying the cylinders from the dollar stores and doing a lot of DIY and as much as I would've loved to have a $10K wedding it just wasn't realistic. All the photographers in our area starting prices were at $1200 if you wanted pictures, cd etc. $950 here would just get you the photographer and nothing else! And that plan forgot the most important thing.....the CEREMONY! Who ever wrote this article did a very sucky job. But, thanks for the link for invites I'm looking at every site to see if I can find something cheaper w/o having to go DIY and yet have something that fits our personality and our wedding theme. I have so many DIY projects for my wedding I'm running out of man power.

Posted on March 9, 2012 at 10:00 am
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I rented a local antebellum mansion for our October ceremony and reception; we took a group photo on the front steps while the room was switched around. Our 7:00 pm ceremony was followed by a reception with heavy hors deouvres, wedding cake for dessert, a coffee bar and fruit punch.  I made the centerpieces using a three-wheel bicycle planter with white pumpkins in the basket, trimmed with decorative ribbon.  I hired a photographer who took the pictures and saved them to DVD.  I made our wedding album, and other albums for family members, using www.mypublisher.com and they turned out great.  My sister made the bridesmaid bouquets out of silk flowers.  Our entire wedding cost $8,000 and that includes buying two dresses, plus I had my hair and makeup professionally done.

Posted on March 16, 2012 at 2:46 am
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Excellent article! I'm having a budget wedding and have found so many resources online, it can be done. I have a $10,000 budget but I'm aiming to keep under that my guest list is 150 and I have 4 couples in my wedding party. The biggest expense will be the reception. I believe I've found a restaurant and after contacting them it seems if we go with chicken as the entree and have an open bar for 1 hour we'd be looking at $3,500 plus gratuity. Cake there's a local bakery that I love and I can get a lovely cake for about $450 and I may be able to reduce that by going with a smaller cake and creating a base for it to sit on that will give it the height and look of a larger cake. Lucky for me I know how to sew and I'm making my dress and the bridesmaid dresses. I purchased the fabric online for all dress for $190 and spent about another $35 in notions at Joann. I'll be starting my sewing in January. I purchased my Tiara from ebay for $75 and I found a veil on etsy for $30. I've budgeted an extra $200 for shoes,stockings and undergarments for the big day. Hubby to be is wearing a 3-piece wedding suit that I found online for $160, it's worth it he'll get plenty of use out of it. Decor, none for the church I think it's beautiful just the way it is for the reception we're doing Calla Lily's (there's a locals flower grower wher I can get flowers at a good price) in a cylinder vase w/smaller vases filled with Gerbera Daisy's (vase are being purchased online from Dollar Tree) and votive candles. For the wediding party table we're going to go w/the same but the bridesmaid bouquets will be used in the vases. Photographer, I'm working on that still but I think I'm going to hire someone per hour that can give me the photo's on a disk or flash drive and then we can process them ourselves. We have a friend who's a DJ so he's volunteering but we'll tip him. Hubby to be's family believes they have his parent's rings from their 50th anniversary and have offered them to us, if they can't be located we're just going to go with simple bands. There is a way to do a wedding on a budget and still have your dream day. It's about networking and resourcing, the more I talk about the wedding the more info comes in that's how I found out about the photographer, the local flower grower, online purchasing at dollar tree and now einvites.com. As for DIY, I love it but definitely network and resource, take a step back decide what you can't live without and go from there don't over do it!! I know brides that were stressing out the night before putting together favors and I don't want to be that bride any of my DIY I'm getting done ASAP. It's like homework if you get the hardest work done first the rest will be a breeze.

Posted on December 7, 2012 at 3:30 am
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Becasue of our budget we had to cut our guest list as well. Instead of a dj playing music that no one likes we saved money by hiring an orchasetra from Berklee school of music in Boston. It didn't cost us much, and I think the college level orchasetra's love the event practice. That's my music advice anyway. For themes and party favors I used hospitalityframes.com and they helped us create custom items for all our guests. You don't also have to spend a ton of money to have great wedding. 

Posted on December 7, 2012 at 4:19 am
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Cash bars, or only opening the bar up for an hour sucks. For starters most reception halls charge most of the price for the first hour (about 30 per person) and then less than 10 per head after that. So you're not saving much. Find a place that is BYOB. We are having an under 10k wedding because we chose a venue that allows us to bring our own. It disgusted me that I would have to pay for drinks that would never be poured (half our guests would never have a single cocktail) and those that did drink would be served sub-par junk that I'd never serve at home.  


 


The key to a lower budget wedding isn't just limiting the money you spend. Its being REALISTIC. You are planning a party, one day. It is a happy day but should not be the biggest and happiest day of your life... you're setting your life up for failure with this fairy tale dream. A 3000 dollar dress or 400 dollar nosegay aren't going to improve your life or make you happy forever. 


Ya, I would love to have massive flower arrangements, and not have to troll thrift shops and craigslist for used glassware for my wedding. But, I also don't want to be a princess who bankrupts herself over a party. I've seen women do it before. I've been to expensive weddings that weren't worth the bother. Just this summer I went to one that easily cost 40-50k. The flowers and dress were amazing. The band cost over 10k and they were great. But, the party was OVER by 9:45, the bar blew, and the food was good but overly heavy. The service was nice, but what made it nice did not involve money it was the sentiment and feeling. In the end the even was also totally disorganized and showed that it was more about the vanity of the mother and bride rather than the enjoyment of the guests. My wedding will cost what the band costs but I'm reasonably sure no one will be leaving early or sober :-) (yes, we'll have cabs waiting)

Posted on January 5, 2013 at 12:38 pm
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One great tip is to see if you can find a wedding chapel where you can have the wedding ceremony and reception in the same place. We were able to find a beautiful chapel that came decorated, a decorated reception hall, and serves water, tea, coffee for about $3500. DIY as much as possible if you can. Go to the large bridal shops to find styles of dresses you like, but shop online to actually purchase it. Don't forget to keep a cushion for " unexpected expenses". We were able to find a discount on our food through a contact our chapel had. We're only spending a little over half the amount shown here. My fianc? an I think it's important to spend most of our budget on what matters most.... The honeymoon!!
Posted on February 21, 2013 at 4:17 am
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I am doing my wedding for about $12,000.  My matron of honor (my baby sister) found a hall that is giving me everything I need - cocktail hour, buffet food, top of the line alcohol, drinks and the wedding cake and valet parking. A friend (hopefully) will be doing the photography and I just lucked up and happen to find the dress of my dreams on sale at Davids Bridal for much of nothing. It was the last one in stock and my size so no alterations. I can't be around to many flowers so we are doing silk flowers and I have done all 9 bridesmaids and mine for less than $50.00 and they look wonderful. It can be done if you have the time to do everything in advance.

Posted on March 29, 2013 at 8:51 am
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Great ideas teetee423!  Can't wait to see your wedding details unfold!

Posted on March 29, 2013 at 10:40 am
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This is a great article for any budget bride! I hope everyone gets to read this!
Posted on March 29, 2013 at 12:07 pm
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I agree this list is missing many key items. Our budget is $15,000 and that isn't including our honeymoon. After looking over things there are some items I am planning to cut out and others I can reduce not because I have to but because I want to. We have made our date far enough away that we will have plenty saved for our wedding and our honeymoon. My FI says whatever I want.

Posted on April 28, 2013 at 6:31 pm
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this is a great article. took some good points from it.

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 3:02 am
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