PW Guide Article: The 5 Most Common Wedding Guest Complaints

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The 5 Most Common Wedding Guest Complaints

Find out what most irks guests at a wedding and learn how to avoid these common planning pitfalls

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Posted on January 10, 2009 at 9:12 am
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ditto on table full of strangers.

Posted on February 26, 2011 at 11:54 am
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Carolli, I'm so surprised to hear you say that about cardboxes. I agree that the couple should make a point to stop at every table, but personally I'm uncomfortable walking around with a bag to collect my loot. But to each their own, I suppose.
Posted on February 26, 2011 at 3:11 pm
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  • Extra long reception program with 436 song and dance routines presented as a "gift" to the bride and groom - ends up feeling like a talent show instead of a wedding reception.

  • L-o-n-g speeches with lots of inside jokes.

  • Cold food.


I personally don't understand why sitting at a table with strangers is such a bad thing - it's a great opportunity to meet other friends of the bride's and groom's and to just meet new people, period...

Posted on February 26, 2011 at 6:36 pm
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A lot of the complaints are selfish in my opinion. What is wrong with a cash bar? I don't have the funds to provide alcohol to all my guest. I'm providing them dinner, dancing, a short ceremony, wine, champagne, dessert, and that drained me completely financially. I should not have to feel guilty that I'm asking them if they want a stronger cocktail to pay for it themselves. 

Posted on March 4, 2011 at 3:28 am
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What's wrong with a cash bar? My thought is, you're inviting guests to celebrate a special day with you, just as if you were hosting Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner at your home.  The only reason it's not at your house is because there are too many people to fit. You wouldn't invite people to your home and ask them to pay for their drinks would you? If you can't provide the comforts of entertaining at your home, then you should scale back your guest list.

Posted on March 18, 2011 at 3:43 am
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#5.)  As a wedding photographer by trade I have to admit it would be so nice if more Brides and Grooms chose to have a 1st look instead of putting off all of their pictures together until after the ceremony.  I know it's nice to be traditional, but the 1st looks that I have photographed have been so sweet & intimate/romantic and turn out to be some of my favorite pictures from the whole wedding.  Plus, it means you get to go straight to your party if you want to and get to enjoy more time with all of your guests.  And, you get all of your formal pictures done while your hair & make up are still super fresh. 


I know this is what I'll be doing for my wedding next May!


As for #4 I guess I have a lot of practice with this (haha) because I don't mind it.  I think it's fun to meet new people.  Even when I have been a guest and not the photographer sitting with strangers it's not so bad if the bride pays attention to who she is seating with each other.  If they do you can end up meeting new people that you might have already been friends with if you had met earlier!


 

Posted on March 20, 2011 at 2:31 pm
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I agree about Cold food, bad food, not enough food!


I dont mind long speeches at all.


Cash bars are fine with me (no im not having one) but I DONT LIKE it when you are not told before the day.


Im happy to chat and catch up with friends/family - meet new people while the couple are away getting photos, Its their day I want them to have great photos.I dont like being too hot or too cold so as long as they have someone for guest go in each of those cases, Im good :)


We as guests must remember that its THE BRIDE & GROOMS day - not ours, I want them to have a great day and im really happy they invited me to come along for the ride.


 

Posted on March 20, 2011 at 2:58 pm
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Unfortunately, I will be having a long wait time between my ceremony and the reception dinner (4 hrs... my church only does weddings during noon time). I am trying to figure out something for my OOT guests to do to assuage the situation, like recomend to them yummy places to eat a quick bite or cool places to sight see (it is vegas, after all). I really can't afford to do much else. But where my family is from, this isn't too much of an issue. People take breaks like these to freshen up make up and get dressy for the reception. Actually, the only thing that people will remember from your wedding where I am from is the food. My parents still talk of weddings from their town where, unfortunately, people got sick. (Not the couples fault). They never talk about the music, or what the bride wore, or the party favors.
But the biggest faux pas you can make is running out of food for everyone (which is usually seen as the fault of the couple for bad planning). These are the two complaints I dread, and hope I don't see at my wedding...
Posted on October 30, 2011 at 4:27 am
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I think on the cashbar issue, its ok. If your providing non-alcoholic options for free, then why is it a big deal? You shouldn't have to pay hundreds of dollars for you guests to get plastered. We're providing Champagne for toasting and some different wines, but if they want anything harder, they'll have to get it elsewhere.

Posted on November 18, 2011 at 5:40 pm
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Being the MOB and one that is on a very tight budget, I have been reading all the comments so as to avoid any of them occuring at my daughter's wedding. Thankfully, my daughter and her fiance have decided against any alcohol at her wedding out of respect for my husband and myself, the groom's parents and our church family that will be in attendance. So no worries about a cash bar...LOL


Their guest list started out close to 500, financially that is not possible for us. What we decided to do instead is close friends and family for the ceremony and an after party for their "friends"


Reception is immediately following the ceremony, they are having pictures before, so no gaps between ceremony and reception...so far so good...LOL.


Weddings have changed so much over the years, when I got married the ceremony was at the church, reception in the fellowship hall, mints, nuts, cheese straws, chicken salad or cucumber sandwiches, cake and punch. The wedding was more focused on two people pledging their love for each other and committment to each other for the rest of their lives.


This day and time, weddings have turned into nothing more than a big party, music, entertainment, cocktail reception, elaborate meals etc...If I just shelled out 70K+ for my daughters wedding and people had something to complain about I really think I would lose it...LOL. Yes, they are a guest, you do your best to make your guests comfortable, but some people are never happy. I say plan your wedding as your budget allows and how you would like it to be, if someone complains about something oh well, tell them be glad they weren't paying for it.


 

Posted on February 3, 2012 at 2:43 am
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Great advice!!

Posted on February 3, 2012 at 2:49 am
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