PW Guide Article: Too Many Last Minute No-Shows?

jeanish submitted an article for the Project Wedding Guide.

Too Many Last Minute No-Shows?

One thing that can put a serious cramp in your wedding joy is too many last minute no-shows. Here's how to handle it!

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Posted on September 22, 2010 at 10:38 am
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Thank you for this - this is def one of the things I worry about!

Posted on September 22, 2010 at 10:38 am
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Thank you :o) I worry about that too!


Posted on September 23, 2010 at 8:29 am
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I have 9 days to my wedding and I'm still iffy on about 4 or 5 people. Very annoying. I guess I just have to count them in and if they don't show, then screw it! As long as WE have fun that is all that matters. :)

Posted on September 23, 2010 at 5:41 pm
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That is good advise. My bridal shower was last Saturday and one of my bridesmaids and several of my friends gave excuses why they couldn't come. I let it bother me for a day or so, but I honestly had one of the best days ever! Don't let anyone steal your happiness!

Posted on October 6, 2010 at 2:24 pm
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I'm not having so much of a problem with no-shows as I have future hubby's spoiled rotten niece that says, despite we have told her no children, we are being selfish and self-centered and she will bring the baby because she wants to!  The nerve....

Posted on April 26, 2011 at 3:07 am
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roxie2711; I am sorry that happened to you in your wedding. I guess we all have to deal with stuff like that in one or another way. People who wants us to do things their way in OUR wedding. The NeRvE!!!


Well, at least what is happening to me didn't happen to you. More than half of the people we expected are not coming. Cheap excuses came out of everyone's butts. People either cancelled on us, or didn't even bother to call/email/RSVP/text or NoThInG!!! to let us know they are just not showing up. I mean, if I had the attention of sending invitation, the least thing people can do is letting us know if we need to save a seat for them or not.


Oh, well. As everyone keeps saying, it's our wedding, we are going to be happy and have fun with the people who really love and appreciate us and were kind enough to show up to celebrate our happiness with us.

Posted on October 31, 2011 at 3:14 am
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Be proactive, contact guests if you haven't heard from them.
Our RSVP's were due Monday last week, so I sent each couple/family who hadn't replied a quick text message or email to remind them.
They weren't offended, it wasn't awkward from my point of view. Most were very apologetic. One had misplaced the invite with the reply details & one couldn't access our wedding website, the others had just lost track of the date, it is the silly season after all.
It meant by Tuesday I had all the details to the cater with 3 weeks & 3 days to the wedding.
Posted on December 12, 2011 at 7:55 am
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Great advice!  There's absolutely nothing wrong with tracking down the missing RSVP cards.  Our RSVP deadline was yesterday so I've sent a few quick Facebook messages and texts to close friends and family to start the hunt!  They weren't offended and it wasn't weird for me either.  The trick is getting those you've never met before (groom's extended family) to send the darn card in!  Good luck!

Posted on March 6, 2012 at 3:20 am
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I have 18 days left until my wedding... And yesterday two of our grooms people decided that they no longer want to be in the bridal party!! They claim financial reasons but they were with us when we picked out and ordered tuxedos over 4 months ago! They are our friends and we are really hurt that they waited until now to tell us, but I am hoping and praying that we have a great day no matter what!
Posted on June 26, 2012 at 2:27 am
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I have lost a bridesmaid, most of my family hasn't sent back rsvp's but keep saying they're coming...I'm over it. The hubby and I are moving forward and enjoying each other!
Posted on June 26, 2012 at 7:13 am
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my wedding is is 17 days and my fiance's guest that he wanted to invite including come of his family members have not returned them. I finally told the family that I needed the RSVP because we needed them to make escort cards for the reception. Also I wanted them for my wedding book that my mother was making for memories sorta like a scrapbook. I know it seems like your nagging but this is your big day and you invited them for a reason you wante them to spend your big day with you. It's common curtisy to return them, like my mom explained to me if you get an RSVP they are a positive yes if someone says they are coming by phone they can easily cop out. Many people just get really busy and completely forget about or in my fiance's grandfather's case he's been out of the country selling his cottage.

Posted on September 25, 2012 at 12:03 am
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OK-  How do you handle guests that RSVP with additional people?  For example we have invited 2 people-- Mr & Mrs Smith; they send back their response for 3 people-- Mr & Mrs Smith & Joey!!  Next, we have some elderly people invited.  They rsvp for Mr & Mrs Smith AND their driver!! The third one we have is for Mr & Mrs Smith, but Mr Smith is out of town, so Mrs Smith (who knows a lot of people at the wedding) rsvps Mrs Smith and Suzie Jones who knows no one!  UGH!!  Help~ 

Posted on April 24, 2013 at 3:08 am
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There are some really good tips here.  

Posted on April 25, 2013 at 2:32 am
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Great tips. We are giving our guests early enough deadline for RSVPs that we will still have time to call, email or text them if we don't get one returned. I worry about not getting them back but people showing up anyway and them not being included in the meal count. We plan to give a couple extra over our exact numbers but I don't want to spend that extra money if I don't have to. Plus they won't be on our seating chart or assigned a table if they just show up without us knowing.

Posted on April 27, 2013 at 4:30 pm
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i have a feeling i will be doing this lol

Posted on May 13, 2013 at 6:31 am

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