QUESTION!

Ok so I've never asked this before but since we are all revealing/talking about all of this private information, I thought what the heck...

Seeing the post about "The Big O" made me think of this.

I've never had an orgasm through just penetration. It's actually pretty discouraging. A lot of times, I don't feel anything inside (not just with FI. It's always been that way for me).


However, when I'm on top, and a few other ways, there is this...(not sure how else to explain) intense kinda feeling inside the whole time. Kinda like I have to pee, but not really? It's not painful, it's good. But nothing has ever come from it. Maybe we just need to go longer?


Is that the spot? Or is that what it kinda feels like?! I just don't know :(

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 6:27 am
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Niecy
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I would say when you feel that feeling , keep going with it as long as you can  .... it's probobly that "your spot"  is being stimulated and could be what leads you to orgasm during penetration ....


For me ,  having an orgasm during penetration actually has very little to do with my G spot .... I actually prefer NOT having my G spot stimulated because to me it just really feels like I have to pee ... When I orgasm during penetration it has everything to do with how excited and "into it"  I get ....  hope this helps a little

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 6:44 am
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don't feel discouraged at all. As you saw in my post about it, MOST women never have an orgasm through penetration so you're not unusual. Our sexual nerve endings are supposed to be concentrated in the clit, which is why penetration doesn't do much for most women. This is also why being on top helps most women because the clit rubs more in this position. You could try rubbing or even using a vibrator on your clit during intercourse and that may help a lot


I have heard many women who are trying to get their first intercourse orgasm describe it as feeling like they might have to pee. So that might be your spot and you just have to work it more. Also lots of foreplay can make it easier for some reason once penetration happens


Have you tried to find your G-spot yourself?


Here's how you look for it....lay down, put your hand on yourself, palm down and and insert your middle finger. Then kinda do a "come here" motion with your finger KWIM? There should be a padded spot in the top of your vagina that is your G-spot. I have heard of women getting collagen injected into this pad to thicken it up and therefore make it easier for them to have orgasms. So I guess if you don't have a cushiony g-spot you won't easily orgasm through penetration. My one friend who has never had one that way says hers is totally flat with no padding, almost like the roof of your mouth. I always have orgasms through sex and mine is really padded when I press on it, so maybe that's why.


Also try doing Kegel exercises to strengthen your vaginal muscles. When I squeeze these during sex I am sure to get a fast orgasm. If you've never squeezed your kegel muscles, the easiest way to practice and find out how to do it is when you are peeing stop midstream and hold it for a second. Once you get used to how that feels you can try squeezing anytime. I do it while driving, watching tv, brushing my teeth, whatever! It's very good for you. When you learn how to control those muscles I'll bet sex will feel a lot more intense for you (and him) as you squeeze yourself around him when he's inside you

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 6:47 am
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Exactly as Niecy said!  When you feel that sensation KEEP GOING!!!   I am telling you, orgasms from penetration are fantastic!!  Sometimes its just a matter of the right movement for the right amount of time, then you will see fireworks :)

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 6:49 am
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you should not be able to pee during orgasim so I say keep going!

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 6:54 am
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I remember that peeing sensation with my first big O  I felt so embarrassed.

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 9:27 pm
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Thanks girls :) FI is away on business now but I can't wait till he gets back to try this out more!!! lol

Posted on December 22, 2009 at 1:14 am
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hmmm...I was going to post a thread just like this one. I've gotten that sensation a few times but it's almost like I can't get past that plateau without something else. I guess we're just going to have to keep at it.

Posted on December 22, 2009 at 2:48 am
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I have never received the big o from straight penetration either.  I do not even know hwo to go about doing that!

Posted on December 22, 2009 at 5:11 am
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I have only once had an o from just penetration

Posted on December 28, 2009 at 1:53 pm
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I am like you EXACTLY


That is why we started using toys in bed. I use this water dancer rabbit during sex and I always finish simultaneously with FI.


I am like you photo 1238891-1


Have you tried rubbing your Clit with y


our hand during it? I have finished this way also. Since I have NO orgasm through penetration I have to take advantage of the clitoral


 

Posted on January 1, 2010 at 6:25 pm

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