question for the married ladies!

Hi ladies, Im just wondering if looking back on your wedding there are any things you wish you wouldnt have spent so much money on or so much time worrying about. For example, did you spend a ton on invites and now looking back wish you wouldn't have? OR is there anything you skimped on you wish you would have spent a little more on! Im trying to make my budget and I am trying to figure out what I should try to do my self or find a cheaper way to do it and what I should not be stingy on! Lmk what you think!
That in advance for any help!

Posted on January 11, 2014 at 10:08 am
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ashmg
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 I JUST logged in to ask this exact same question love! ha! :)

 

I can't wait to hear what people say! My planning has had some crazy life twists thrown in lately so I may need to get way more creative than I originally thought!

 

~Ashlee

Posted on January 11, 2014 at 10:20 am
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 This was my second wedding, the first one I was young and did everything I was 'supposed' to do and had everything I was 'supposed' to have - I didn't enjoy any of it!!

This time I absolutely focused on what was important to DH and I. Our day was about finally making our little family 'official' and celebrating the moment with our nearest and dearest. We spent most of our money on food and drink and hiring a bus for a mini tour of Jasper - basically anything that involved spending time with our guests.

I totally recommend sitting down with your FI and deciding what the 'deal breakers' are for you both - not what you think others expect from your day. For example, my SIL hates being photographed so she posed for a couple of group pictures with all the guests and maybe 10 with her BP and the same with my brother and that was all. She had an amazing photographer but saved a ton of money because she only had him for about 2 hours. DH's sister however had a photographer for 3 days - a couple's session the day before the wedding, the getting ready/ceremony/reception etc, and then the day after with a breakfast & gift opening shoot. The majority of her budget was spent on this.

Posted on January 11, 2014 at 11:06 am
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 my wedding was everything i wanted it to be.  i pretty well had my wedding planned way before i got engaged.  i wanted a small wedding that looked really romantic.  i wanted to flowers to look great and the food to taste great without spending a ton of money.  the biggest savings to me was keeping the guest count down.  flowers and candles were the big thing for me.  another was having food that tasted good, but not overly extravagent.  i have seen weddings where they have a ton of food at the cocktail hour and then sit down to a 5 course meal.  i knew no one i invited would have room to eat like that, nor did i want to spend that kind of money.  we had a nice 3 course meal (salad, entree, and wedding cake).  if i had bought invites from a normal choice i would have spent a ton of money and had enough invites to send each individual person i invited 2 invites and have leftovers.  so i got my invites from target.  they went with our theme and were in expensive.  i wanted to make sure i really loved the photos  and a friend from highschool is now a pro photographer.  she did all the wedding related photos.  

there are tons of ways to save money at your wedding.  just decide what is the most important to both of you and plan everything else around that.  keep in mind that the wedding should reflect the two of you.  maybe you skip the cocktail hour or have a cocktail only reception.  maybe you both love sweets and have a dessert only reception.  whatever will stand out to people as totally fitting the two of you.

Posted on January 11, 2014 at 2:25 pm
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The most important thing for us is good photos and good food so those will be close to half our budget. There are many diy things out there to save you money. I am not having cenetrpieces with flowers. We are using candles for table decor. I have been saving glass jars of all shapes and sizes and we will fill with sand and candles or water beads and candles. I have a cousin who works for a catering company that offered to cook but we chose not to let her do it because we want her to be a guest and enjoy our wedding
Posted on January 13, 2014 at 12:03 pm
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 For my wedding, I wanted the perfect venue! I didn't want to settle for something I didn't like. I didn't want it in my church (I'm the first one there to break that lol ) I wanted something with an outdoorsy feel! I found the perfect place and it included tables chairs and some linens. So make sure you book a venue that includes at least tables and chairs and that will save you  lots of extra money! I'm also not doing real flowers. I'm using burlap roses, balsa wood roses and preserved 1" roses. It's a lot cheaper than doing real flowers and it looks super cute with our woodsy/rustic/ country theme! I think I spent around $200 on them. Maybe less! (I didn't really keep track since I was just excited about saving money lol) I'm also doing pinecones and candles on the table with my rustic flower centerpieces. And my cake, is not the least bit traditional. It was only important to me that it tastes yummy! We're getting our cakes from Nothing Bundt Cakes. It was only $168 for 4 10" cakes and one teired cake! And they kind of compliment my theme! I think they could aslo go well with a vintage theme too. It's just about how you dress it up! 

Posted on January 13, 2014 at 12:48 pm
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 I had a pretty good budget on everything, so I don't really remember going out of budget just to get something. (that I remember anyways)!

Posted on January 13, 2014 at 2:32 pm
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I spent what I could afford, so I don't regret any of it. But it meant careful planning and lots and lots of research. First DH and I decided which were the most important parts. I knew I wanted an awesome photographer so we were willing to spend more on that. Flowers are not that important to me, so we skimped on those. We also wanted a live band, so we splurged a bit there, but centerpieces weren't that high up on my list so those were DIY and not expensive at all. Definitely spend your time looking around. I thought I could DIY invites super cheap, but after the doing the math with all the supplies + my time, I found a place that would print them for less.  I also looked for a venue that included things, the Marriott included the cake and didn't charge a cake cutting fee (the most rediculous add on charge IMO!) Coat check, parking, and linens were all also included and they gave a super deal on the first hour of open bar. My advice is to stick within your budget and don't put yourself in debt over this! Beautiful weddings have been put together on all sorts of budgets!

Posted on January 13, 2014 at 4:40 pm
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 Looking back, the only thing I may have changed was having a smaller wedding. Our guest list was 150, so not huge, but not small, and I wish I could have cut the guest list in half. It's hard with a big family and 'not hurting anyones feelings' but honestly, if you are close with half of the family and not the other, then by all means only invite who you want to celebrate with :) And most of my friends are in relationships/marriges, but I let a couple single friends bring their current bfs...I wish I hadn't because neither of them are still together boo.

Posted on January 14, 2014 at 12:46 am
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 Oh, and I say this because every person costs X amount of dollars, so that would have saved us a lot of money by having less guests!! 

Posted on January 14, 2014 at 12:47 am
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 Ohh ditto Uhlease, I would cut the list. My wedding was a teenie bit bigger, but there were SO many people. 

Something else I thought of non-budget related. I would have only done a recieving line at the church. For some reason we did the recieving line and then DH wanted to go to all the tables too since some people didn't go to the ceremony. Well with 200 people my whole night was spent going to tables. I hardly got to dance at all. By the time I made it out there people were grabbing me to say goodbye!

Posted on January 14, 2014 at 9:28 am
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The only thing that really comes to mind is the invites/STDs...just because now that I look back on it I don't give them much thought and I doubt any of the guests did either...people expect an invite to put on their fridge as a reminder but once the day is over they throw it away, and probably comment on how cute or whatever but you don't really hear those things and then they are forgotten about.

When I think about that compared to the time I spent deciding on and making the darn things, I really think I could have saved myself a lot of time and money by getting something premade and generic. The day of is what is important and while the invites should somehow match your day (maybe some kind of the same color?) it doesn't have to be a big thing IMO.

For me, looking back I don't really have any *regrets* but I wish I had paid more attention to a few things. During planning I thought I had that baby planned solid!! -  I had every detail covered, everyone knew what their job was and was good to do it, we had a schedule that was followed, etc. And I wasn't stressed at all. But there were some things that just didn't work out - we had WAY TOO MANY chairs at the ceremony that cost us more money that necessary, same with food at the reception. And the DJ ended up not doing that great of a job.

Now - you could say that I can't control who RSVPd yes and ended up not showing, and I couldn't control the DJ - but I could have had people double-checking this stuff for me and I didn't. So I guess just triple-check everything because sometimes you focus on something for so long that you think you know what is going on but you are so close to it that you miss something...a fresh set of eyes never hurt!

I hope that makes sense!!

Posted on January 15, 2014 at 1:25 pm
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Oh, and I will add that our splurge was the photographer and I don't regret a penny of it! I LOVE my pictures and will cherish them always. I spent SO much time researching the photog and we really got what we paid for! I went back and forth about a videographer and decided against due to cost - still don't regret that decision either. We had a friend tape the ceremony and part of the reception, it's not professional but we have the memory and the pictures cover everything else!

Posted on January 15, 2014 at 1:32 pm

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