registry or money

i know lots of brides are doing registries. i wanted that to but i feel like we almost have everything in the house! so do u ask ur guests for monetary gift or what else can u do beside the registry ? dont know ! help

Posted on February 22, 2011 at 1:14 pm
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I don't think it is appropriate to ask for cash.... in my crowd its a big no-no. Why not use a registry like myregistry.com that allows guests to give the cash towards a gift. In actually it just goes in your account and you can do with it as you please.

Posted on February 22, 2011 at 1:20 pm
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Posted on February 22, 2011 at 1:23 pm
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tks for the idea

Posted on February 22, 2011 at 1:24 pm
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why don't you use www.depositagift.com? it's a registry, but it's for cash gifts. you can make a gift list of anything so that guests are still giving a specific gift. it works really well and we love the service.


 


here's how it would work if you had a shower: http://www.depositagift.com/blog/weddings/ask-dana-how-do-you-throw-a-shower-with-a-non-traditional-gift-registry/

Posted on February 23, 2011 at 7:34 am
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How about a honeymoon registry? I should have asked for cash because i still have all those wedding presents in garage.

Posted on February 23, 2011 at 7:43 am
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I did a SMALL registry at BBB for the 14things I wanted/needed we also live together, then there are some etsy stuff and some zgallerie stuff, My sister/MOH is including it with the SHOWER invitations, since it's such a small list...

Posted on February 23, 2011 at 7:45 am
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We both had households before we met.  I donated a lot of stuff when we moved in.  If he had a nicer toaster, than I gave mine away for example.  However, neither of our stuff was "very nice." We had nice stuff but not VERY nice stuff.  Plus, the stuff that we have had, we have had for a while.  I took the opportunity to register for NEW and VERY NICE items that we can hopefully have for a lifetime.


However, I still want a nice amount of cash too! :)

Posted on February 23, 2011 at 7:45 am
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We are having a presentation preferred wedding. We have lived together for two and a half years now, we don't need much. Where I am from it is a little more acceptable to ask for money. Mostly because us Canadians are cheap ;) (Hello, nowhere else has wedding socials!! And even that is highly localized in Canada)


What I think I am going to do is either include a card separate from the invitation that says we prefer a presentation, but we have also registered at XYZ (don't know where yet).


Some people just don't believe in giving money for a wedding, which is why we are registering at one place.

Posted on February 23, 2011 at 7:52 am
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We are registering on amazon.com only, and only for things we really need. Otherwise I'm hoping most people will give cash or even nothing, we're flying into our wedding so I can't be shipping everything I get home!

Posted on February 23, 2011 at 7:55 am
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We are not doing a registry - we have lived together for 5 years now.  Everyone knows that we want cash gifts - we haven't had to say it and we really have not been asked.


But for those that have asked me about a registry I just simply respond that we have decided not to do a registry, blah, blah, blah.


I've had a few people ask me what I would put on a registry if I did have one and I always respond - "A new hardwood floor."  So they just say "Oh okay we will just give you cash instead"


 

Posted on February 23, 2011 at 7:57 am
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I put it on my wedding site....  this is what I said.. and maybe I shouldn't but I needed to make it known because we both have lived by ourselves for quite sometime...


"As many of you already know, we both have been living on our own for quite some time now, and have most things we need to set up house. So, while anything that we receive will be appreciated, monetary gifts would be very welcomed.



Thank you,


The Irving's"


Posted on February 23, 2011 at 8:05 am
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Where I come from, it is rude to ask for cash for any reason in any form.  For showers, people give gifts.  If they cannot find you something, they give you gift cards.  Cash or checks are given as wedding gifts.  It is highly unusual not to receive cash for a wedding gift.

Posted on February 23, 2011 at 8:11 am
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I'm like MurphNoMore's SIL.  I added 7 items to a registry to appease some people, and at 10 days away only 4 gifts have been purchased!  I don't expect a gift, honestly, but I suspect we'll be getting more of the monetary kind...I hope.  I don't like it when people buy gifts that aren't on a registry, because they are "convinced" you'll need it.

Posted on February 23, 2011 at 8:13 am
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I agree with carrolli.   the problem is some people (from a different generation) like to give gifts and will not give you money.  So if you are not registered for things they will get a crystal vase or picture frame or knick knack of some sort.  Unfortuntaley there is no tactful way to go about it.  I have read that you should tell your bridal party and immediate family and have them spread the word "delicatly". 

Posted on February 23, 2011 at 8:15 am
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It is considered very inappropriate to ask someone for cash, but many people do give it of their own accord for weddings so hopefully you'll score!

Posted on February 23, 2011 at 8:17 am
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you could do what we did- use a "wish" registry- you put actual items (household too!) on there, but you get cash in the end.  It works for us because we are remodeling a moneypit we bought- we need things like floors, lighting, some furniture, etc- so people can "Buy" that for us, but we end up getting money- so they are helping us build our house- which is way more important to me than expensive dishes or wine glasses!  


we are using www.uponourstar.com - so far, no complaints! 


Posted on March 9, 2011 at 6:35 am
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There are ways you can ask your guest to give cash without being too forward. There are lots of poems out there. I personally think that most guest know how it works. These days people are living together well before they are married.  As long as you are not saying, "Give us money!" Your guest probably won't mind. Here is a poem I found.


We lived together before this wedding
So we have a home, full of toasters and bedding
So what to get for the bride & groom 
Whose house is set up in every room?
To save you looking, shopping and buying,
Here's an idea you might like trying!
We need (new flooring) and (a new table) too, 
But registering for huge items ain't the thing to do
So please put some money into a card,
Now make a wish.... see, that wasn't hard! 
Now we've saved you all the fuss, 
We hope you'll come and celebrate with us!
A (wishing well) (money tree) will be at the reception hall
To deposit your wishes... Thanks and love to all.

Posted on March 9, 2011 at 7:24 am
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Many of you suggest online cash registries like Deposit a Gift or Honeyfund, but have you heard of Zankyou? I'm choosing Zankyou cash registry for my wedding registry for these same reasons, that we just don't need more stuff and could use money to do with as we please. Of course it is considered rude to ask for it, so the best thing about Zankyou is that they let you register for symbolic gifts - traditional househould items OR a honeymoon, but in the end you can do whatever you like with the cash. And as far as I've researched, they have the lowest fees of any other registry so you can keep more of what your guests give you instead of giving it to the registry company. www.zankyou.com is their website.

Posted on March 20, 2012 at 6:17 am
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We are doing cash but my family actually pushed me for this option, they don't mind and actually think it's better and my friends are fine with it too..it's not that bad as it used to and I know of several brides who have opted for this option. To me I don't even mind $10, or $20 bucks because I can go to Homewoods or Marshalls and buy what I like at a good deal!!

Posted on March 20, 2012 at 6:32 am
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for ours, we didnt ask money, but everyone..almost all gave money..and we're glad!

Posted on March 20, 2012 at 6:35 am

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